Sometimes you have to take and stand and do what you know is right.
Rod may not want help, but if you need it, either just you or both of you,
then you may need to seek out that help yourself.
Maybe you could try the hospital chaplain services, or macmilions,
see the following link which has a free phone help line number.
https://www.macmillan.org.uk
Maybe speak again to the housing office about your housing needs and
explain the new issues which have arisen.
Its a sad fact that with more problems, seems to come more red tape,
and paperwork/phone calls to deal with. Sometimes it can help a bit though as
it can give you something to focus on, as long as it doesn't get too much.
Will continue to pray for you.
ps definitely try macmillons.