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kaylagrl

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"I do think counseling is needed and my uncle and aunt had a situation much like this. She was very private and refused help until my uncle had made up his mind to leave,then she said she'd go to counseling. By that time too much damage had been done and they divorced. I hope that doesn't happen in this situation."

I would agree with whats being said about counseling, but while it is a common and good option for most folks, perhaps as he had said, its not a good option for them. It's clear that he loves her, it's also clear that he does have a modicum of strength, because he knows where he is weak. Everyone of us has different breaking points in different areas of our lives for different reasons, and I don't agree with judging him for asking for help or whatever his reason is for asking, just as I know none of us appreciate being judged for our shortcomings. What if he had said he had an eating disorder, or had an addiction to food, or alcohol, or drugs.... would the opinions of this thread have been any different? And should our responses have been any different? Outside of making recommendations for a proper course of action that renders the best solution, I would say no...

When a brother approaches you in church and asks for prayer, do you tell him to suck it up? "If your son would ask your for bread, would you give him a stone?"

There is no degree of sin (except for the unforgivable sin) - one sin is not any worse than another, and all sins are equally just as forgivable from one to another, so that must mean that God's grace and forgiveness does not change depending on the sin. So why should our level of grace or forgiveness be any different?

Id almost wager if a woman came on here saying her husband wasn't intimate with her and it made her feel fat and unwanted you'd hear a whole different story!
 
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kaylagrl

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#82
I'm guessing you supported your evil uncle (Pr 23:7, Mt 18, Heb 13:4). When America is judged for her sin, it is in a small part because of you (Jer. 16:2, Hos. 4:1–3).

You can guess whatever you wish,none of your business. But you might want to go join Westboro if you haven't already,you'd fit right in.
 
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...[Y]ou might want to go join Westboro...
I bet he still gets sweet kisses on his cheek from you. Don't stand too close to me on judgment day.
Don't want to get singed.
 

Doodahdad

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"Who filed for divorce? Did you support the one filing? Jer. 16:2, Heb 13:4"


LORD HELP ME, YOU ARE SO RUDE!!

And BTW, do you even read the little scriptures you so boldly take out of context to support your position, or do you just look them up on the internet real fast to make you sound more theological?? Jeremiah 16:12 is referring to a specific place and specific people and is not even pertinent to any part of this thread ... and too bad you didn't read the FIRST part of Hebrews 13 before you took one teeny verse out of the entire chapter, because you are no where NEAR obedient to that exhortation ..
You need to be very careful, or it will be you having to explain yourself before the Lord on the day of reckoning ("You said I said WHAT??")

I'm sorry Kaylagrl, that was uncalled for...and I am apologizing because I know she wont...

Do us all a favor -- PLEASE ....just stop!
 
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kaylagrl

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I bet he still gets sweet kisses on his cheek from you. Don't stand too close to me on judgment day.
Don't want to get singed.

Not biting... but seriously,look into Westboro.
 

tourist

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#86
I bet he still gets sweet kisses on his cheek from you. Don't stand too close to me on judgment day.
Don't want to get singed.
You don't want her to get singed? That's very thoughtful of you.
 
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kaylagrl

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"Who filed for divorce? Did you support the one filing? Jer. 16:2, Heb 13:4"


LORD HELP ME, YOU ARE SO RUDE!!

And BTW, do you even read the little scriptures you so boldly take out of context to support your position, or do you just look them up on the internet real fast to make you sound more theological?? Jeremiah 16:12 is referring to a specific place and specific people and is not even pertinent to any part of this thread ... and too bad you didn't read the FIRST part of Hebrews 13 before you took one teeny verse out of the entire chapter, because you are no where NEAR obedient to that exhortation ..
You need to be very careful, or it will be you having to explain yourself before the Lord on the day of reckoning ("You said I said WHAT??")

I'm sorry Kaylagrl, that was uncalled for...and I am apologizing because I know she wont...

Do us all a favor -- PLEASE ....just stop!
We'll see,I dont see this person being here long. Id rather they attack me than the OP,I can take it. And thank you for the apology but the more the person says the more they show their real heart and everyone can see. They're hear to insult,they want an audience and cant get one in their real life so they come here to preach hell fire on everyone that will listen to their foolishness. Very small person with even smaller character.
 

Desertsrose

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"Who filed for divorce? Did you support the one filing? Jer. 16:2, Heb 13:4"


LORD HELP ME, YOU ARE SO RUDE!!

And BTW, do you even read the little scriptures you so boldly take out of context to support your position, or do you just look them up on the internet real fast to make you sound more theological?? Jeremiah 16:12 is referring to a specific place and specific people and is not even pertinent to any part of this thread ... and too bad you didn't read the FIRST part of Hebrews 13 before you took one teeny verse out of the entire chapter, because you are no where NEAR obedient to that exhortation ..
You need to be very careful, or it will be you having to explain yourself before the Lord on the day of reckoning ("You said I said WHAT??")

I'm sorry Kaylagrl, that was uncalled for...and I am apologizing because I know she wont...

Do us all a favor -- PLEASE ....just stop!
Hi Doodahdad,

Just noticed you're new here so welcome to CC! Your very kind and compassionate!!! And wise too! :)
 
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kaylagrl

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Hi Doodahdad,

Just noticed you're new here so welcome to CC! Your very kind and compassionate!!! And wise too! :)

Right,why we can't find 20 more people like that to join CC!!?!
 
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God can’t bless you having sex with someone else’s wife (Gen. 2:24, Ex. 20:14, Ps. 128:1–6)
That's what I was saying... if one is married to someone that was married before and their previous partner is still living, then they should not be having sex with them.



If you believe that, I’ve got a bridge to sell you. Mt 19:11 Our land is corrupt (Hos. 4:1–3) as this thread highlights. Can an adulterer return? Prov. 7:27; Rev. 21:8

“There’s always hope. There’s just no prayer.” ~ Dennis Prager
None of this is the unpardonable sin, but the sin does need to be confessed and repented of and stopped.

Dennis Prager is a very, very, very, very, VERY poor person to be getting spiritual advice from... I used to listen to him until he said on his show one day that God does not answer prayer... that's when I said "see ya"

He's a heretic and from what I understand has not accept Jesus as Lord so unless he does he's going swimming in that lake of fire.

I'm sure he's a nice person but he's lost as a goose in a whirlwind and doesn't know the first thing about the Lord.




'Til Faith Do Us Part: How Interfaith Marriage is Transforming America by Naomi Schaefer Riley
I'll stick with the Book Jesus published, thanks anyway.
 
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pottersclay

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Staying out of this one.
 
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kaylagrl

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#96
I support marriage (Gen. 2:18–24).

That comment had nothing to do with the OP or marriage,the comment was about you showing your real heart the more you talk.I hope you have no unsaved loved ones,I cant imagine your opinion of them.
 
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Ultimately, it's good to not touch a woman... I'll take that which is good over flesh anyday!

1 Corinthians 7:1,2
Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman.
Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.


With around 7 Billion people on Club Earth now... that replenish the Earth mandate is not really needed any further.

I know I wouldn't want to bring a child in to this sin sick, disgusting, demonic world...
 
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That's what I was saying... if one is married to someone that was married before and their previous partner is still living, then they should not be having sex with them.
When they say they’re not having sex, you believe them. I do not.

“I prefer clarity to agreement.” ~ Dennis Prager

If you’re willing to commit serial adultery (Rom. 7:2, 3), you’re also willing to lie.

None of this is the unpardonable sin…
Serial adulterers (Rom. 7:2, 3) can be forgiven.
…but the sin does need to be confessed and repented of and stopped.
Most will not stop (your word). Mt 19:11. Should he wish to honor the Lord, then Holy Spirit will enable him to live as he must. He cannot return to his wife as she is defiled (Deut. 24:4).

Dennis Prager is a very, very, very, very, VERY poor person to be getting spiritual advice from...
You had me at very. He’s got the spiritual discernment of a door knob, agreed. He teaches the bible—badly.
I used to listen to him until he said on his show one day that God does not answer prayer... that's when I said "see ya".
Guess that leprechaun god didn’t work out for him. Blindness in part has happened to Israel (Ro 11:25). He is without excuse.

He's a heretic…
He encourages men to have a wicked thought life (Mt 5:28, Ro 1:32, Jas 1:15).
…I'm sure he's a nice person but he's lost as a goose in a whirlwind and doesn't know the first thing about the Lord.
There will be plenty of nice people in hell (Ps 50:21).
 
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Ultimately, it's good to not touch a woman... I'll take that which is good over flesh any day!
In this culture not a bad idea (Jer. 16:2).

I know I wouldn't want to bring a child in to this sin sick, disgusting, demonic world.
It’s not getting any better (2 Ti 3:3 KJV, Ro 1:31 KJV).
 
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I understand what you are going through. But for me its my husband who lacks intimacy.