Anyone who can help.
This is my first time as a postoperative spouse. My wife just had some major open heart surgery and she's handling it like a trooper. The problem is...she just isn't acting like herself. I come to see her once a day and I sit with her. However, when I try to strike up a conversation or ask questions I either get the cold shoulder or a snippy response. I understand she is in a ton of pain way more than I can even fathom. So I ask should I leave her alone? I didn't get a response. She eventually told me to leave. I asked her if she wanted me to come tomorrow or just stay at home. She told me that it was up to me. I would normally be more forthcoming with communicating with her, but after an open heart surgery I don't want to rock the boat so I just left and decided I would wait a few hours and send her a text.
Long story short, the signals she gives me are as if she is fed up with me and doesn't want me there, but then again she acts upset everytime I decide I have been too annoying and decide to leave.
I want to go see her tomorrow, but should I just give her space? Is this normal for a postoperative spouse to not want to see her husband? I just want to do what is right, the problem is I don't know what is right.
This is my first time as a postoperative spouse. My wife just had some major open heart surgery and she's handling it like a trooper. The problem is...she just isn't acting like herself. I come to see her once a day and I sit with her. However, when I try to strike up a conversation or ask questions I either get the cold shoulder or a snippy response. I understand she is in a ton of pain way more than I can even fathom. So I ask should I leave her alone? I didn't get a response. She eventually told me to leave. I asked her if she wanted me to come tomorrow or just stay at home. She told me that it was up to me. I would normally be more forthcoming with communicating with her, but after an open heart surgery I don't want to rock the boat so I just left and decided I would wait a few hours and send her a text.
Long story short, the signals she gives me are as if she is fed up with me and doesn't want me there, but then again she acts upset everytime I decide I have been too annoying and decide to leave.
I want to go see her tomorrow, but should I just give her space? Is this normal for a postoperative spouse to not want to see her husband? I just want to do what is right, the problem is I don't know what is right.