My husband has refused physical contact (from hand-holding to sex) with me for almost 6 months. We operated like 2 co-workers to provide a comfortable and peaceful family to our teenage son. We don’t fight nor quarrel.
I have tried to calmly explain my need for emotional and physical attachment with him many times but he always said nothing is wrong and he will try harder.
24 Nov 2017 - he finally confessed that there is another woman in his life. She is unmarried but living in another country (husband travels frequently for work). He assured me that he loves the family and will not split us up. He wants things to be status quo (with her at the side).
I asked if he would leave her and work on our marriage. He said I was pushing him into a corner and if those were the only 2 options, he would have no choice but to move out.
I cannot believe it. We do daily devotions with our son and husband wakes up early every morning to do his bible studies. He is also the head usher in our church and is involved in many church activities. How did this happen?
I sought help online and found this:
“God’s ideal is for the believing spouse to be the shining light of Christ and help the unbeliever in their wayward ways. It is God’s will that couples do all they can to restore their marriage.”
I believe that God wants me to overcome my grief and bring my husband back into the faith.
25 Nov 2017 - I have agreed to his ‘status quo’. We are back to being cordial and stable. I am not condoning his extra marital affair. I just figured it is easier to win him back if he doesn’t move out.
He confessed that he is struggling with the affair and by that I see a glimmer of hope. I know that our God is a mighty God and I will be patient and wait upon Him till His will is done. I will continue to pray for my husband and my marriage.
Please do pray with me and also for me. I don’t know how to handle this pain. I know the man I married is there somewhere and I miss him. In my weakest moments I have made the mistake of reaching out for him. He turned away.
I have tried to calmly explain my need for emotional and physical attachment with him many times but he always said nothing is wrong and he will try harder.
24 Nov 2017 - he finally confessed that there is another woman in his life. She is unmarried but living in another country (husband travels frequently for work). He assured me that he loves the family and will not split us up. He wants things to be status quo (with her at the side).
I asked if he would leave her and work on our marriage. He said I was pushing him into a corner and if those were the only 2 options, he would have no choice but to move out.
I cannot believe it. We do daily devotions with our son and husband wakes up early every morning to do his bible studies. He is also the head usher in our church and is involved in many church activities. How did this happen?
I sought help online and found this:
“God’s ideal is for the believing spouse to be the shining light of Christ and help the unbeliever in their wayward ways. It is God’s will that couples do all they can to restore their marriage.”
I believe that God wants me to overcome my grief and bring my husband back into the faith.
25 Nov 2017 - I have agreed to his ‘status quo’. We are back to being cordial and stable. I am not condoning his extra marital affair. I just figured it is easier to win him back if he doesn’t move out.
He confessed that he is struggling with the affair and by that I see a glimmer of hope. I know that our God is a mighty God and I will be patient and wait upon Him till His will is done. I will continue to pray for my husband and my marriage.
Please do pray with me and also for me. I don’t know how to handle this pain. I know the man I married is there somewhere and I miss him. In my weakest moments I have made the mistake of reaching out for him. He turned away.