Hey Everyone,
If it's one thing I've learned over my time of being single, it's that very few couples stay together forever--which is all the more reason I admire the ones who do, because it is surely a superhuman feat that is solely enabled by God.
However, for the rest of us mere mortals, it seems much more common (unfortunately) that most couples don't stay together, putting both people who were once involved "back on the market."
* So what if someone that's become "available" again is someone that you think you really like... but the person they used to date was a good friend or relative of yours?
* Would you still pursue/date them anyways?
* How long would you wait until after their breakup in order to start something? A month? 6 months? A year or more?
And, to make this conversation a little more controversial--something I've noticed as I get older is that a lot of people seem to be becoming available later in life either through the death of their spouse, or by divorce. (I realize that this is a scenario that will probably only resonate with some of the older posters out there.)
* How would you feel about dating someone whose spouse had passed away, and their spouse had been a good friend or family member of yours?
* How would you feel about dating a divorced person (someone with a Biblical reason for divorce and was cleared by the church to remarry) if their ex-spouse was a friend or close family member to you?
* In either case, how long would you wait after the death or divorce in order to start dating?
The reason I'm asking about this is because as I've gotten older... I've noticed that the dating pool seems to get a bit smaller and "intermingled"--especially in smaller communities--and it seems as if many people do seem to wind up with someone who is an ex of someone they are, or were, once close to.
I personally don't think I could date someone in any of these scenarios, but, I don't want to judge anyone's choices because you never know what could happen in life.
What are your thoughts?
If it's one thing I've learned over my time of being single, it's that very few couples stay together forever--which is all the more reason I admire the ones who do, because it is surely a superhuman feat that is solely enabled by God.
However, for the rest of us mere mortals, it seems much more common (unfortunately) that most couples don't stay together, putting both people who were once involved "back on the market."
* So what if someone that's become "available" again is someone that you think you really like... but the person they used to date was a good friend or relative of yours?
* Would you still pursue/date them anyways?
* How long would you wait until after their breakup in order to start something? A month? 6 months? A year or more?
And, to make this conversation a little more controversial--something I've noticed as I get older is that a lot of people seem to be becoming available later in life either through the death of their spouse, or by divorce. (I realize that this is a scenario that will probably only resonate with some of the older posters out there.)
* How would you feel about dating someone whose spouse had passed away, and their spouse had been a good friend or family member of yours?
* How would you feel about dating a divorced person (someone with a Biblical reason for divorce and was cleared by the church to remarry) if their ex-spouse was a friend or close family member to you?
* In either case, how long would you wait after the death or divorce in order to start dating?
The reason I'm asking about this is because as I've gotten older... I've noticed that the dating pool seems to get a bit smaller and "intermingled"--especially in smaller communities--and it seems as if many people do seem to wind up with someone who is an ex of someone they are, or were, once close to.
I personally don't think I could date someone in any of these scenarios, but, I don't want to judge anyone's choices because you never know what could happen in life.
What are your thoughts?