Actually, once you are divorced you are no longer connected. What Tommy said was biblically correct too. Now, I made a bad mistake in my youth and now God expects me to suffer in a loveless marriage with an uncaring wife for the rest of my life? I really don't think so, and besides that I'm already remarried.
I found out that my X (first marriage) was committing adultery while I was serving in the military. I never threw that up in her face but let it go. I intended to stay married for the sake of my young daughter but once I got out of the military my X said that she didn't love me anymore and probably never did. Even so, the divorces was devastating and the effects were felt for many years afterward by my trying to remain a good father to my daughter.
Seriously, the divorce was a blessing from God but even then, besides a few quick flings after the divorce, I remained single and celibate for the next 18 years. My second marriage ended in the premature death of my spouse at the age of 59, same age as mine at the time. She was very sick and had horrible arthritis that disabled her but I took care of her the best that I could while still maintaining a full time job and maintaining the household doing everything by myself. She died while we were in Maine. I'm from Florida.
The last 8 years of the marriage I was alone and isolated from my family a half a country away in a harsh environment. Due to her medications, and the arthritis we were not able to have sex for the last 3 years of our marriage or even sleep in the same bed yet I remained a loving and faithful husband to her till the day she died on Feb 21, 2014. Due to the medications she was not coherent for the last year of her life except for a few minutes here and there. I was married but yet very much alone.
I met my current and last wife on this site. She is loving and faithful to me too as I am to her and by the grace of God she is healthy also. We talk, laugh, go grocery shopping, make love, stuff like that. Perhaps if you are a lawyer you could find biblical grounds that we should not be married but even so, I don't intend to leave her and will be loving and faithful to her until death do we part.