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Ok, this is what I wrote on another thread:
"Ok. So, if you like this girl you're going to end up with the tricky delema of when's the best time to tell her how you feel about her. As a girl, if a guy tells me he likes me too soon, that's a bit of a turn off. But, if he becomes friends with me while hiding his true feelings from me, I feel kind of decieved when he finally comes clean and tells me how he's felt about me all along. I had a guy complain to me once that he'll like a girl and ask her out and she'll say no because she doesn't know her, but if he takes the time to become friends with her and then asks her out she says no because she thinks of him as a friend."
In an article that can be found here: http://www.christianitytoday.com/singles/newsletter/2008/mind0618.html this guy (who has the personal and professional experience to really know what he's talking about) says:
"The problem is that a lot of men think the best way to pursue a woman is to befriend her while hiding their interest in dating her. This is a rotten idea and sets a lot of men up for trouble."
and
"You have to be honest about what you're doing. Don't kid yourself and don't lie to her. Be friends all you want, but if you want to date her, she needs to know and you need to ask her out."
Any advice?
"Ok. So, if you like this girl you're going to end up with the tricky delema of when's the best time to tell her how you feel about her. As a girl, if a guy tells me he likes me too soon, that's a bit of a turn off. But, if he becomes friends with me while hiding his true feelings from me, I feel kind of decieved when he finally comes clean and tells me how he's felt about me all along. I had a guy complain to me once that he'll like a girl and ask her out and she'll say no because she doesn't know her, but if he takes the time to become friends with her and then asks her out she says no because she thinks of him as a friend."
In an article that can be found here: http://www.christianitytoday.com/singles/newsletter/2008/mind0618.html this guy (who has the personal and professional experience to really know what he's talking about) says:
"The problem is that a lot of men think the best way to pursue a woman is to befriend her while hiding their interest in dating her. This is a rotten idea and sets a lot of men up for trouble."
and
"You have to be honest about what you're doing. Don't kid yourself and don't lie to her. Be friends all you want, but if you want to date her, she needs to know and you need to ask her out."
Any advice?