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Okay ladies, (and men, if you dare )
A growing concern for me is the LACK of God ordained "Leadership" within families today by the men we call husbands.
Should I personally blame my mother in law for not allowing my (now) husband to be a responsible member of society? (because she would do everything for her baby boy...yeah....now he expects the same from me )
Is it the age we are living in? Are men just not behaving the way men used to? (our fathers)
Is it the fact that a good portion of men today did not have the relationship they needed to have with their own fathers, so in turn do not know what responsibility as a man should look like?
OR!!!!........(THIS IS MY TAKE ON THIS) are they just as stupid as they appear to be?
On a serious note though, I struggle with constantly having to tell my husband what it is he needs to do.
And NO, I am not a nagging wife, he just doesnt move until told to.
We have three children together, and one child each, outside of our marriage.
We sat down some time ago, and discussed what our seperate duties would be within the home, and he never does what he said he would do?!
I even have to remind him to engage with our three daughters!!! Otherwise he will just sit in front of the television all night, fall asleep, go to work in the morning, then come home and do it all over again. As if his job ends when he gets home from work?
If he was bringing home enough money to at least pay the bills, maybe I wouldn't be so offended, but he's not even doing that. So in retrospect.........my husband is not providing enough for our household, and he's neglectful of everything else that would make him look a little bit better if he put some effort into it............My mom loves to remind me that I am his "helpmeet" What does that mean? Do for him what he should be doing himself? Is this what God meant by helpmeet?
I'm going to have to ask God to speak to me personally about this one, because, in my opinion, God could never have set us up as, "Helpmeet" for men who don't know how to be the men/father/husband God called them to be, and then, tell us that they are the "Head?"
A growing concern for me is the LACK of God ordained "Leadership" within families today by the men we call husbands.
Should I personally blame my mother in law for not allowing my (now) husband to be a responsible member of society? (because she would do everything for her baby boy...yeah....now he expects the same from me )
Is it the age we are living in? Are men just not behaving the way men used to? (our fathers)
Is it the fact that a good portion of men today did not have the relationship they needed to have with their own fathers, so in turn do not know what responsibility as a man should look like?
OR!!!!........(THIS IS MY TAKE ON THIS) are they just as stupid as they appear to be?
On a serious note though, I struggle with constantly having to tell my husband what it is he needs to do.
And NO, I am not a nagging wife, he just doesnt move until told to.
We have three children together, and one child each, outside of our marriage.
We sat down some time ago, and discussed what our seperate duties would be within the home, and he never does what he said he would do?!
I even have to remind him to engage with our three daughters!!! Otherwise he will just sit in front of the television all night, fall asleep, go to work in the morning, then come home and do it all over again. As if his job ends when he gets home from work?
If he was bringing home enough money to at least pay the bills, maybe I wouldn't be so offended, but he's not even doing that. So in retrospect.........my husband is not providing enough for our household, and he's neglectful of everything else that would make him look a little bit better if he put some effort into it............My mom loves to remind me that I am his "helpmeet" What does that mean? Do for him what he should be doing himself? Is this what God meant by helpmeet?
I'm going to have to ask God to speak to me personally about this one, because, in my opinion, God could never have set us up as, "Helpmeet" for men who don't know how to be the men/father/husband God called them to be, and then, tell us that they are the "Head?"