For those of you that don't know, the Christian versus Islam problem in Indonesia is serious with violent attacks on Christian villages and churches by mobs of Muslims occurring and getting nothing but slaps on the wrists for it by the Islamic dominated government and judicial system.
Please do NOT construe this as legal advice but rather my understanding. In Indonesia, it's my understanding that divorce may only be executed before a court session: before the district court for Non-Moslems and before the religious court for Moslems. Therefore, either one of the parties wanting to divorce needs to file a divorce petition to the appropriate court.
In the district court, the legal grounds of filing for divorce have been regulated in the Marriage Law, which are, in the event one of the parties:
1. has committed adultery, is an alcoholic, is addicted to drugs, is a gambler or exhibits other vices which are difficult to cure;
2. has left the other spouse for two consecutive years, without consent and without legitimate reasons or the absence of reasons beyond his control;
3. has been sentenced to imprisonment for five (5) consecutive years or a longer period;
4. has resorted to cruelty or severe ill treatment, endangering the life of the other spouse;
5. has developed a disability or disease, preventing from fulfilling the duties of husband or wife; or
6. has irreconcilable differences.
I suppose this would fall under #6 irreconciable differences if a divorce were sought; however, an Indonesian divorce attorney would be the one to help determine that.
Some background information stated, we move along to scripture. What does the Bible say?
1 Corinthians 7 has a lot to say about marriage between believers and also marriage between a believer and a non-believer. Let's look at verses 1-15:
"Now for the matters you wrote about: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.”
2 But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband.
3 The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband.
4 The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife.
5 Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
6 I say this as a concession, not as a command.
7 I wish that all of you were as I am. But each of you has your own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that.
8 Now to the unmarried
[a] and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do.
9 But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.
10 To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband.
11 But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife.
12 To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her.
13 And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him.
14 For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy.
15 But if the unbeliever leaves, let it be so. The brother or the sister is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace.
16 How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?"
Sister, as long as you are not being physically abused and in danger but just uncomfortable with his disapproval, you should give some real thought to these scriptures.