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So i am 20 and i have a sister who is 17. We were born into a family where my biological dad had many issues so my mother divorced him when my sister was 6 months old. My mother remarried when i was 6 and my sister was 3, but we had know our new father for about 2 years now so we considered him our dad from the beginning. He had some very slight temper problems but he was an amazing father and he never went over the line as to hurt me or anyone else. We all have had many many MANY counselors and means of therapy and problems which have yet to be resolved, but my dad has completely changed his life around. For the past 4 years my mother has been very bitter and honestly evil and crazy at times. She has an enormous problem with forgiving my dad from any fights they had from the past and she likes to always accuse him of continuing those things almost every single day. Every year she has gotten worse and worse. It started with long fights that would last all through the night to actually beating my dad and recently she has formed a very dangerous alcohol addiction and a slight case of substance abuse. My family has always been very christian and religious especially my dad. My mother met him through the church because he was the youth pastor. His grandfather has been a pastor of his hometowns church his entire life and he has wanted to become a pastor one day also, but my mother hates that idea and will never let him do that. Here is where im struggling. Even though my mother has divorced my real dad she will not divorce my dad now no matter how much she claims to hate him and my dad will NEVER divorce her just because he is just so committed to Christ and the belief that you should never leave your spouse. It kills me every single day because honestly my dad really does somehow in his twisted way love my mother very much and honestly i beg for him to leave her almost everyday because of how much i watch her bring him down and hurt him. My mother has gone absolutely psychotic over the past few years and i want him to leave her so badly because i am tired of just watching him sink deeper and deeper into depression. He is younger than my mother and i strongly believe that he would have a better life all together without her and i feel like he could start over and be very happy. Is my dad doing the right thing by staying with my mom even though she abuses him and fights with him and has this alcoholic addiction or is he being completely wrong by staying with someone who does such terrible things to him... Someone please help!!!