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C
Great question!! We need wisdom some people are trustworthy some are not.Question number 1.Are they a true believer with integrity? 2. What does your wife mean by neutral?3 what do you mean by trust?
The bible says to treat others the way we want to be treated.It also teaches us to be discerning.So do both.Every situation is diffrent.Trust but not being naive Ask God for wisdom.Be loving and wise and not fearful.God will take care of both of you.
The bible says to treat others the way we want to be treated.It also teaches us to be discerning.So do both.Every situation is diffrent.Trust but not being naive Ask God for wisdom.Be loving and wise and not fearful.God will take care of both of you.
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Everyone has its own way. If you feel that – it is what God want you to do – do it. In time will be revile to you – why he choose those people in your path to him.
From my personal experience – ‘bad people’ usually help us to get closer to God than ‘good’.
Why is that?
Did anyone know the difference between both of them?
Bad – but in who’s opinion? Good? – that is only base on our judgement – they all whatever we will think of them are here to help us to reach God. The quickest way to get there is by understanding that suffering is the most difficult and important things to get us close to Jesus.
Agreement to suffer by different kind of people and learning from that experiences to be humble – will take the need of trying to fit people into the boxes – name ‘bad’ or ‘good’.
Meditate – only in silence we can find God.
Trust – only God – rest – try to accept them as they are – wick human as you and rest of us is.
How to accept them?
Start from yourself – without self-love and acceptance – you will find very difficult to accept other people.
God said ‘love your neighbour as thyself’ – so first we have to start with ourselves!
From my personal experience – ‘bad people’ usually help us to get closer to God than ‘good’.
Why is that?
Did anyone know the difference between both of them?
Bad – but in who’s opinion? Good? – that is only base on our judgement – they all whatever we will think of them are here to help us to reach God. The quickest way to get there is by understanding that suffering is the most difficult and important things to get us close to Jesus.
Agreement to suffer by different kind of people and learning from that experiences to be humble – will take the need of trying to fit people into the boxes – name ‘bad’ or ‘good’.
Meditate – only in silence we can find God.
Trust – only God – rest – try to accept them as they are – wick human as you and rest of us is.
How to accept them?
Start from yourself – without self-love and acceptance – you will find very difficult to accept other people.
God said ‘love your neighbour as thyself’ – so first we have to start with ourselves!
T
16 For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth on him should not perish, but have eternal life. 17 For God sent not the Son into the world to judge the world; but that the world should be saved through him.
18 He that believeth on him is not judged: he that believeth not hath been judged already, because he hath not believed on the name of the only begotten Son of God. 19 And this is the judgment, that the light is come into the world, and men loved the darkness rather than the light; for their works were evil. 20 For every one that doeth evil hateth the light, and cometh not to the light, lest his works should be reproved. 21 But he that doeth the truth cometh to the light, that his works may be made manifest, that they have been wrought in God.
18 He that believeth on him is not judged: he that believeth not hath been judged already, because he hath not believed on the name of the only begotten Son of God. 19 And this is the judgment, that the light is come into the world, and men loved the darkness rather than the light; for their works were evil. 20 For every one that doeth evil hateth the light, and cometh not to the light, lest his works should be reproved. 21 But he that doeth the truth cometh to the light, that his works may be made manifest, that they have been wrought in God.
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The atonement is sufficient for all - in that sense God so loved the world (even though they are not all His children) as stated in John 3:16.
The atonement was made with special reference only for the elect. It is, in the end, effective only for them. There is no other provision for those who reject Christ. They find themselves despised, rejected by the God whom they have rejected. They are abhorred in the Holy fellowship that they have abhorred.
Are we in agreement?
The atonement was made with special reference only for the elect. It is, in the end, effective only for them. There is no other provision for those who reject Christ. They find themselves despised, rejected by the God whom they have rejected. They are abhorred in the Holy fellowship that they have abhorred.
Are we in agreement?
Tell me first what you mean with the words "in the end" and "effective" (are you saying effective but actually meaning effectual?). If you believe that the atonement is only "effective" for those who would fulfill some sort of condition in any way, shape or form, including of an act of "free choice" etc, then we are not in agreement. And if you say that God loves the reprobate then I do not agree with that as well.
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God has no preferences over "WHO" he loves .. He loves all the same .. However not all
Men love god the same .. When we "know" the love God has towards us, then we "know" how to
Properly be loving towards men.. To answer your question, "Os it best to see good in others ?" Yes.. Why? Because He put everything good Wich "He is" in us.. If this wasn't who our god is .. Then Zephaniah 3:17 would not hold up to Gods character .. and God is not a man that He should lie...
when we "believe" God and who He tells us he is .. We see others as God sees us ...also if it wasn't true.. Why are any of us still standing? surely not because we have done anything good ... But because God
Loves us good enough ... Inspite of ourselves.. It is by" His" mercy "non of us" have gotten what we truly deserve , it is by
His grace we have more than we do deserve.. that comes only from a God who
Sees no sin in us... And loves us even when we don't love Him... To me that is worth mentioning ..
Men love god the same .. When we "know" the love God has towards us, then we "know" how to
Properly be loving towards men.. To answer your question, "Os it best to see good in others ?" Yes.. Why? Because He put everything good Wich "He is" in us.. If this wasn't who our god is .. Then Zephaniah 3:17 would not hold up to Gods character .. and God is not a man that He should lie...
when we "believe" God and who He tells us he is .. We see others as God sees us ...also if it wasn't true.. Why are any of us still standing? surely not because we have done anything good ... But because God
Loves us good enough ... Inspite of ourselves.. It is by" His" mercy "non of us" have gotten what we truly deserve , it is by
His grace we have more than we do deserve.. that comes only from a God who
Sees no sin in us... And loves us even when we don't love Him... To me that is worth mentioning ..
S
always be at least slightly careful when meeting new people until you get to know them so you know what there about BUT defintly have an open mind that people might be good because the next person you meet just might become your next best friend or might be the person that could see Christ in you. also if everybody tries to be as nice as possible to everyone they meet then it can make a difference because if your nice too them it can make their day better in some way.
i heard a saying one time in a movie, the saying was that one way to change the world for the better[ paraphrase], is to have one ACT of RANDOM KINDNESS. a.r.k.
just a thought but a couple of movies you might want to check out is 'facing the giants' and 'fireproof' and 'courageous' there all christian movies and there very good, i loved them. they might help. the left behind movies with Kirk Cameron are also good movies to see, all christian moves
i heard a saying one time in a movie, the saying was that one way to change the world for the better[ paraphrase], is to have one ACT of RANDOM KINDNESS. a.r.k.
just a thought but a couple of movies you might want to check out is 'facing the giants' and 'fireproof' and 'courageous' there all christian movies and there very good, i loved them. they might help. the left behind movies with Kirk Cameron are also good movies to see, all christian moves
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@ The OP, I don't see anything wrong with either outlook, to be honest.
It's good to look for the good in others. It shows you are open to positive experiences yourself, and that true authentic kindness with no strings attached would not be wasted on you.
It is also good to be cautious when you first meet people (so they don't take advantage of you in some way), as long as the shield you put up doesn't make them feel pushed away or give off a cold vibe. Given all the dishonest people in the world, I'm sure the majority of people would not take it personally if you didn't instantly treat them like a best friend.
Maybe you could look at it like a good thing that you and your wife disagree.
She can be the cautious neutral one, and you can be the optimistic one. Working together, perhaps it could balance everything out in the end?
It's good to look for the good in others. It shows you are open to positive experiences yourself, and that true authentic kindness with no strings attached would not be wasted on you.
It is also good to be cautious when you first meet people (so they don't take advantage of you in some way), as long as the shield you put up doesn't make them feel pushed away or give off a cold vibe. Given all the dishonest people in the world, I'm sure the majority of people would not take it personally if you didn't instantly treat them like a best friend.
Maybe you could look at it like a good thing that you and your wife disagree.
She can be the cautious neutral one, and you can be the optimistic one. Working together, perhaps it could balance everything out in the end?
That is the begining to bring salvation not salvation for salvation comes from life not death, death was needed first before life can be given and is very clear in Romans 6:1-11 and Romans 5:10
[h=3]Romans 5:10[/h]New International Version (NIV)
[SUP]10 [/SUP]For if, while we were God’s enemies, we were reconciled to him through the death of his Son, how much more, having been reconciled, shall we be saved through his life!
First understand the whole world ahs been reconciled (Forgiven) but not saved for the death does not save. It is LIFE a new one recieved from God through one asking for it and it sjhll be done inthat one that asks in Faith as God already did Christ so read Romans 6:1-11 and ask for this to be done in you as well and it will provided any one of you all believe God
[h=3]Romans 5:10[/h]New International Version (NIV)
[SUP]10 [/SUP]For if, while we were God’s enemies, we were reconciled to him through the death of his Son, how much more, having been reconciled, shall we be saved through his life!
First understand the whole world ahs been reconciled (Forgiven) but not saved for the death does not save. It is LIFE a new one recieved from God through one asking for it and it sjhll be done inthat one that asks in Faith as God already did Christ so read Romans 6:1-11 and ask for this to be done in you as well and it will provided any one of you all believe God
C
My husband and I used to have the same debate, I was for the good.
But after 31 years of marraige, he finnally admited I was right. just kidding.
Actually he is now looking for the good, and Ive realised that such does not matter anymore.
Because I relaised that even though looking for the good is good, that we are called not to looking to good as reason to accept another.
But accepting and loving others not because of who they are, or because they are good, but as Jesus showed us, loving them because they are.
In doing this, one doesnt need a reason to love the other, wether good or bad, one loves because Jesus in us, loves us all.
The good thing is? That no longer is one disapointed if one is not what one thought they were, and no longer does one mesure or judge them because of Jesus, One simply sees them through Jesus's eyes, and delights in the person God created.
The amazing thing is? One sees in the other, how all is made good, and like one's self, all that is needed is Jesus to perfect one.
God bless
pickles
But after 31 years of marraige, he finnally admited I was right.
just kidding.Actually he is now looking for the good, and Ive realised that such does not matter anymore.
Because I relaised that even though looking for the good is good, that we are called not to looking to good as reason to accept another.
But accepting and loving others not because of who they are, or because they are good, but as Jesus showed us, loving them because they are.
In doing this, one doesnt need a reason to love the other, wether good or bad, one loves because Jesus in us, loves us all.
The good thing is? That no longer is one disapointed if one is not what one thought they were, and no longer does one mesure or judge them because of Jesus, One simply sees them through Jesus's eyes, and delights in the person God created.
The amazing thing is? One sees in the other, how all is made good, and like one's self, all that is needed is Jesus to perfect one.
God bless
pickles
I did this at first as you say then I realized I was relating to people on how much I loved myself and I tell you that was not good because I saw me as filthy rags and still do even though I have changed. For today as I grew I came to the conclusion that I as well as those around me only loved others on the basis of on how much they believe they are loved. The same goes for forgiveness, one only forgives according to how much they think they are forgiven.
When I came to truth and heard this truth I was shocked and thus now in the new covenant I Forgive because in God I am forgiven period not of any future sins because is not here yet, and according to Peter in 2 peter all sins that are past are forgiven therefore how fast is the past, before you can ask for any further forgiveness. anyway and so therefore when one sees that they are forgiven then they see the Love of God and then youy Love all because they and you are loved by God started at the cross of Christ
Love ya!!! Homwardbound
When I came to truth and heard this truth I was shocked and thus now in the new covenant I Forgive because in God I am forgiven period not of any future sins because is not here yet, and according to Peter in 2 peter all sins that are past are forgiven therefore how fast is the past, before you can ask for any further forgiveness. anyway and so therefore when one sees that they are forgiven then they see the Love of God and then youy Love all because they and you are loved by God started at the cross of Christ
Love ya!!! Homwardbound
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I have many times struggled with this as in the past I always tried to see the good in people but ended getting hurt and even when getting hurt still tried to see some good. I see it as in the bible it says about having the innocents of a child I believe what one part of that involves meet people with a friendly attitude and believing that there is good in everyone if that makes sense.
I do believe everyone has good in them the thing u need to work out is how much bad is in them that pushes the good down.
I do believe everyone has good in them the thing u need to work out is how much bad is in them that pushes the good down.