This isn't normal.... Is it?

BrittanyEJ · Feb 25, 2016

I'm really starting to hate people very much. I know that I'm supposed to love everyone but I just can't. And I'm pretty sure everyone else besides my family hates me too. Well not hate... But dislike me very much and I'm fed up. Everytime I go to the store... A public place, people would be all happy and smiling but when they see me they stop smiling and I can see they don't like me. I can feel the tension. I want to know what is it. That really makes me hate everyone that I'm not familiar with. I'm not a bad person or anything. I don't cuss. I am helpful to others in the store but I'm gonna stop that now. I'm gonna be how everyone is to me. I'm gonna look at people with bad attitude. Ugh probably not but I will definitely just avoid making eye contact. I am fed up with people. I tired of all the boys going up to my sisters in public and not me. I'm standing there looking so stupid trying to look happy for them. I want to know what's my purpose on earth... Get it over with and leave. But then that shows the lack of faith I have for God

I don't see myself going far in life at all. Still haven't had my first job yet nor do I know how to drive. Long ways to go. But I am fed up with people in general and I'm just tired.

mochi · Feb 25, 2016

I dont know what to say but i'll praying for you...

wwjd_kilden · Feb 25, 2016

Have you talked to your GP about this? I am not a doctor or therapist of any kind, but this sounds like social anxiety or worse.

JennaLeanne · Feb 25, 2016

Heeeey Sweetie. Im going to pray for you now.. Prayer changes everything.
Father God I thankyou for Brittany's life. I thankyou that you have good plans for her. Plans to prosper her and not to harm her plans to give her hope and a future, I ask you father to fill her with your peace and joy, help her to trust amd fix her eyes on you not people, peolple let us down but you Lord are forever faithful.. I pray that she would know the length, breadth height and depth of your love. In Jesus name I take authority over every spirit of deception and rejection. I pray protection over her mind and I ask father that you would stir up a desire in her to read your word and for her to seek ypu with all of your heart. Amen xx Read these scriptures. Jeremiah 29 : 11 - 14. Romans 12:2. Romans 15:13. God has a plan for you xxxxx

coby · Feb 25, 2016

BrittanyEJ said:

I'm really starting to hate people very much. I know that I'm supposed to love everyone but I just can't. And I'm pretty sure everyone else besides my family hates me too. Well not hate... But dislike me very much and I'm fed up. Everytime I go to the store... A public place, people would be all happy and smiling but when they see me they stop smiling and I can see they don't like me. I can feel the tension. I want to know what is it. That really makes me hate everyone that I'm not familiar with. I'm not a bad person or anything. I don't cuss. I am helpful to others in the store but I'm gonna stop that now. I'm gonna be how everyone is to me. I'm gonna look at people with bad attitude. Ugh probably not but I will definitely just avoid making eye contact. I am fed up with people. I tired of all the boys going up to my sisters in public and not me. I'm standing there looking so stupid trying to look happy for them. I want to know what's my purpose on earth... Get it over with and leave. But then that shows the lack of faith I have for God

I don't see myself going far in life at all. Still haven't had my first job yet nor do I know how to drive. Long ways to go. But I am fed up with people in general and I'm just tired.

Never put your glasses on, never look someone in the eye, don't bother about what others think about you. Who cares? Jesus loves you. Then you can even love them and also find out they're not that bad.

zeroturbulence · Feb 25, 2016

BrittanyEJ said:

I'm really starting to hate people very much. I know that I'm supposed to love everyone but I just can't. And I'm pretty sure everyone else besides my family hates me too. Well not hate... But dislike me very much and I'm fed up. Everytime I go to the store... A public place, people would be all happy and smiling but when they see me they stop smiling and I can see they don't like me. I can feel the tension. I want to know what is it. That really makes me hate everyone that I'm not familiar with. I'm not a bad person or anything. I don't cuss. I am helpful to others in the store but I'm gonna stop that now. I'm gonna be how everyone is to me. I'm gonna look at people with bad attitude. Ugh probably not but I will definitely just avoid making eye contact. I am fed up with people. I tired of all the boys going up to my sisters in public and not me. I'm standing there looking so stupid trying to look happy for them. I want to know what's my purpose on earth... Get it over with and leave. But then that shows the lack of faith I have for God

I don't see myself going far in life at all. Still haven't had my first job yet nor do I know how to drive. Long ways to go. But I am fed up with people in general and I'm just tired.

I've been having those exact same issues with the way people treat me in public. I don't know if it's just me or if it happens to everyone, but yea I don't like being around people either and I don't like making eye contact unless I'm actually talking to someone. I don't know what it is. Maybe God's testing us or something.

santuzza · Feb 25, 2016

Hey there,

So how old are you? You sound like a teenager going through a very typical teenager phase.

But regardless of your age, I think you should speak to your pastor. He will be able to guide you and help you figure out if you need counseling or just some good Bible study!

My mom said two things that stick with me to this day.

1. To make a friend, you gotta be a friend.
2. You catch a lot more flies with honey than with vinegar.

In other words, be the best you can be -- not because you want life to treat you better, but because you want to honor God. Try focusing on God and being what He wants you to be, and you'll be on the right track.

JeniBean · Feb 25, 2016

The world is full of unhappy people who love to bring people down. I long ago decided my best defense was always a smile and looking them in the eye. I learned to not care what people thought of me or what they believed they knew about me. Because it is GOD who knows me. To allow the hate and pain in will make your life more difficult. Please prayerfully consider the smile and acceptance that not everyone is GODS child and GODS love can show through your smile. GOOD LUCK and prayers for you!

Ultimatum77 · Feb 25, 2016

Don't live for anyone's approval except God and yourself...I think it's perfectly normal not to care much for people because some are jerks. We live in a disconnected society, and you can't make everyone love you or you love them...it just doesn't work inevitably some people will hate you for no reason....realize you can't do anything about it and move on with life. Don't be a chameleon and change for people/their opinions of you....that is a fast way to make a mistake / get taken advantage of...be happy with and for yourself....people will give you all sorts of crap advice to say you should change blah blah according to their so called view of society. Be yourself and don't mind people, if they don't smile at you...so what God loves you and they can forget themself. Don't ever let people dictate your mindset/emotions....they are nobody to you...wow I just realize I said a lot of don'ts but you get the point don't ya

I hope you feel better after reading this from a fellow person who doesn't give a banana about other people's opinions of me as long as I'm pleasing God and content with myself....

blue_ladybug · Feb 25, 2016

Ask God to give you a positive attitude adjustment, because the attitude you have now is pretty lousy. :/

Willie-T · Feb 25, 2016

Can I give you some advice from an old man who's seen too much to even talk about?

Don't look for the happy people to give YOU something. Instead, notice the sad people, maybe people feeling like you now feel, and give THEM what you can't find in those other people either.

I am a firm believer that God gives us some of the heartache in our lives so that we will know what others might be feeling, and we can help ease a bit of their pain and loneliness.

Live for others, not you... that's what Jesus did.

Years ago, I was moping around in school about my girlfriend who had contracted MS. My Art Teacher knew, and she went to the Whiteboard, and wrote these words:

"To Be Happy, Just Forget About YOU."

coby · Feb 25, 2016

BrittanyEJ said:

I think it's just in your mind. I can't imagine it's true. I've never seen someone in a shop smile and then all of a sudden someone walks by and grrrr the countenance changes, they hate that person.
People go to a grocery store to buy bread and stuff. Noone looks at each other, people look on their phone or are just busy. I remember when I was a teenager and needed people to like me I'd smile at random strangers and say hi and they said nothing back and I felt so terrible. Ehm that's just normal here that noone says anything and looks to the ground or whatever. Don't take it personal. Lol the bus driver this morning. My he looked grumpy, said nothing. He just needs Jesus.
If someone looks grumpy pray for them. It's not about you. If people don't look don't worry. If it bothers you and you wear glasses serious take them off. The less you care what people think about you and the more you rejoice in the Lord and just love everybody the more they'll like you, but still there will be a lot of random strangers who don't even see you or simply don't care about people they don't know.
If guys don't like you so what? Who cares?? No guy likes me in that way, what on earth do I care? You don't get the annoying ones that bother you either, be happy.

sharkwhales · Feb 25, 2016

The point of being happy and nice to people isn't only for their sake. It's for your sake too. It's the easiest way to get over any mistreatment. Hating people is a form of caring about them but with no benefits to them or to you. It's very exhausting and I don't know you, but I doubt you will be able to keep it up very long before you get tired of it. Much simpler just to focus on taking things one day at a time with God, step by step.

Perhaps if there's things that have happened to you that have hurt you, you could go to God and ask for comfort, for advice, for help. If you're offended with others, or if you're judging yourself, these are things you can surrender to God and be free of. Then you can be the happy one.

Siberian_Khatru · Feb 25, 2016

BrittanyEJ said:

Perfect strangers? Or familiar strangers? Why would they not like you?

Grandpa · Feb 25, 2016

John 15:17-21
[SUP]17 [/SUP]These things I command you, that ye love one another.
[SUP]18 [/SUP]If the world hate you, ye know that it hated me before it hated you.
[SUP]19 [/SUP]If ye were of the world, the world would love his own: but because ye are not of the world, but I have chosen you out of the world, therefore the world hateth you.
[SUP]20 [/SUP]Remember the word that I said unto you, The servant is not greater than his lord. If they have persecuted me, they will also persecute you; if they have kept my saying, they will keep yours also.
[SUP]21 [/SUP]But all these things will they do unto you for my name's sake, because they know not him that sent me.

My guess is that you are a Christian...

Hellooo · Feb 25, 2016

Why operate under the assumption that everyone immediately dislikes you? Seems like an 'uphill battle' and incredibly unproductive approach to getting through your day.

coby · Feb 25, 2016

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=jsSGYzrgRdI

Tinuviel · Feb 25, 2016

I TOTALLY know what you mean! Sometimes I feel like a complete failure, I feel like all my sisters are better/cuter/smarter/more talented than I am, and I hate the world, and I hate the life that God gave me, and you know what? Too often that turns into a hate for God Himself! (very, very scary transition).

My coping method is to immediately confess my sin (because discontent IS a sin), and then go out and try to find someone who is worse off than I am. Do it. Just try walking down the streets of a biggish town, or going into hospitals, nursing homes, or homeless shelters. It is very humbling. So often we see people that we knew existed, but we haven't seen before. The girl with her dad in the grocery store, who you can tell her parents don't care about her and she knows it. The man struggling to cross the street because he's in a wheelchair because he doesn't have any legs. The old lady in the nursing home who used to live a full life and have people who loved her and now has...nothing. The adult man who has to be taken care of all his life because he has the mental capacity of a 3-year-old child. Try it. If you go out REALLY looking for those people, you'll see them. Pray for their salvation, their present happiness, their comfort.

Honestly, the root of the problem is selfishness. It happens when we don't look at other people and see how they hurt. Sometimes it won't be something physical like amputated legs or homelessness. Sometimes it's a heart problem that we CAN'T see. But everyone struggles...and so often we don't see them, and forget to thank God for what we have. A God who loves us personally, even when we stumble, food, clothing, shelter, family that loves us, bodies that move and work. Maybe there's someone on the next block who doesn't have those things.

Willie-T · Feb 25, 2016

Tinuviel said:

I TOTALLY know what you mean! Sometimes I feel like a complete failure, I feel like all my sisters are better/cuter/smarter/more talented than I am, and I hate the world, and I hate the life that God gave me, and you know what? Too often that turns into a hate for God Himself! (very, very scary transition).

My coping method is to immediately confess my sin (because discontent IS a sin), and then go out and try to find someone who is worse off than I am. Do it. Just try walking down the streets of a biggish town, or going into hospitals, nursing homes, or homeless shelters. It is very humbling. So often we see people that we knew existed, but we haven't seen before. The girl with her dad in the grocery store, who you can tell her parents don't care about her and she knows it. The man struggling to cross the street because he's in a wheelchair because he doesn't have any legs. The old lady in the nursing home who used to live a full life and have people who loved her and now has...nothing. The adult man who has to be taken care of all his life because he has the mental capacity of a 3-year-old child. Try it. If you go out REALLY looking for those people, you'll see them. Pray for their salvation, their present happiness, their comfort.

Honestly, the root of the problem is selfishness. It happens when we don't look at other people and see how they hurt. Sometimes it won't be something physical like amputated legs or homelessness. Sometimes it's a heart problem that we CAN'T see. But everyone struggles...and so often we don't see them, and forget to thank God for what we have. A God who loves us personally, even when we stumble, food, clothing, shelter, family that loves us, bodies that move and work. Maybe there's someone on the next block who doesn't have those things.

Wow, Girl! Are you sure you're only 16? Too bad I won't be here to see the kind of magnificent woman you are bound to become.

Tinuviel · Feb 25, 2016

Willie-T said:

Thanks. Not to sound completely cliched, but it's a 'God thing' lol. I am amazingly blessed to grow up in a household where the Gospel is taught, and faith thrives. Frankly, I don't thank Him for that enough.

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