This isn't normal.... Is it?

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OrionsBelt43

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Just yesterday, after a spiritual battle, I felt a tad weary. I got a moment at work to sit down and I said out loud, "I feel like... not talking to people for a bit." It wasn't that anyone had done anything wrong. But I kind of wondered- "why? Now why would I feel this way?" I read about this lady who talked about say, giving the silent treatment to her husband when she was mad at him. But what would that turn into over time- resentment? The long run. So these Bible verses came to mind- about not forsaking the gathering of the brethren and also to be a witness to people. How could I be a witness if I wasn't interacting with anyone? Sure, I can, but it kind of makes it harder, doesn't it. I was going to message people to let them I wasn't mad- just that I didn't feel like talking, cancel Knit Wits (a crochet/knitting/loom group I started tehehe!) for a bit, not go to church-- just hardly speak and hardly go out. The thought even crossed my mind to not care about fitness anymore-- that's serious for me, man. But after those Bible verses came to mind, I felt like-- even if it was just for a time, taking those actions would kind of run contrary to God's Word. I felt like it was probably of Satan. And I was like, "nope!! I'm keeping on FB, keeping up with Knit Wits, texting, going to church!" I don't regret my choice, I'm thankful for those Bible verses. My point is- maybe you're being spiritually attacked. God is faithful- and I'm happy to remind you that you have spiritual armor. I have a study Bible that explains Ephesians 6:10-18
- I encourage you to read about the armor, not just read the Bible verses. Because commentaries often point out really cool stuff. I think I'll post about it on here, actually.
Resist Satan and he will flee, that's God's promise to us all, and it works!!! I've experienced it for myself. Just try to think of what could happen down the road with the choices you want to make, and what could Satan's agenda be? But you don't have to focus too excessively on that either- pray and read God's Word! God will raise you up!! I care about you. For real. God will raise you up. <3
 
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I'm really starting to hate people very much. I know that I'm supposed to love everyone but I just can't. And I'm pretty sure everyone else besides my family hates me too. Well not hate... But dislike me very much and I'm fed up. Everytime I go to the store... A public place, people would be all happy and smiling but when they see me they stop smiling and I can see they don't like me. I can feel the tension. I want to know what is it. That really makes me hate everyone that I'm not familiar with. I'm not a bad person or anything. I don't cuss. I am helpful to others in the store but I'm gonna stop that now. I'm gonna be how everyone is to me. I'm gonna look at people with bad attitude. Ugh probably not but I will definitely just avoid making eye contact. I am fed up with people. I tired of all the boys going up to my sisters in public and not me. I'm standing there looking so stupid trying to look happy for them. I want to know what's my purpose on earth... Get it over with and leave. But then that shows the lack of faith I have for God :( I don't see myself going far in life at all. Still haven't had my first job yet nor do I know how to drive. Long ways to go. But I am fed up with people in general and I'm just tired.
It's very normal for the world. I gather you're not a believer yet? Ask God to get you to believe in him. And then what's normal stops being normal.

And if you say you are a believer then I have to ask the obvious question -- why don't you know your purpose in life? Jesus stated it clearly enough. (Mark 12:30-31)
 

SparkleEyes

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Get thee to a Christian counselor. Yes, they do exist. Don't rely completely on your pastor or friends. This is serious and you need someone trained in counseling and psychology to help you sort this out. Yes, prayer is called for too, but you would benefit from some professional help. God Bless.
 
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Heeeey Sweetie. Im going to pray for you now.. Prayer changes everything.
Father God I thankyou for Brittany's life. I thankyou that you have good plans for her. Plans to prosper her and not to harm her plans to give her hope and a future, I ask you father to fill her with your peace and joy, help her to trust amd fix her eyes on you not people, peolple let us down but you Lord are forever faithful.. I pray that she would know the length, breadth height and depth of your love. In Jesus name I take authority over every spirit of deception and rejection. I pray protection over her mind and I ask father that you would stir up a desire in her to read your word and for her to seek ypu with all of your heart. Amen xx Read these scriptures. Jeremiah 29 : 11 - 14. Romans 12:2. Romans 15:13. God has a plan for you xxxxx
Awe thanks so much! That was really sweet of you. I tried so very hard to hold my tears. I claim it and will open my Bible :)
 
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Hey there,

So how old are you? You sound like a teenager going through a very typical teenager phase.

But regardless of your age, I think you should speak to your pastor. He will be able to guide you and help you figure out if you need counseling or just some good Bible study!

My mom said two things that stick with me to this day.

1. To make a friend, you gotta be a friend.
2. You catch a lot more flies with honey than with vinegar.

In other words, be the best you can be -- not because you want life to treat you better, but because you want to honor God. Try focusing on God and being what He wants you to be, and you'll be on the right track.
I'm no teenager. That's what everyone thinks :( not good. I am 20. Will be 21 in May. I don't attend church anymore unfortunately. Yes I will take your advice thanks so much :)
 
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Ultimatum77

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I don't think you need a doctor (all they'll do is prescribe some meds you probably don't need), but like a few others said just some prayer and talk to a pastor to help you through this phase of life...it's not permanent....
 
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Perfect strangers? Or familiar strangers? Why would they not like you?
Perfect strangers. I'm not so sure why but I'm guessing it's because of the way I look. A few days ago I asked some guy what type of female do I look like. He says I look like a tomboy :( I am not a tomboy at all. And that I look hardcore and play sports. That was a little insulting but a compliment I guess. I'm not a girly girl neither. I'm just a regular girl. As the days went by he saw that I was far from what he thought of me. Maybe people fear me. I know that whenever I seen a tomboy, I would get scared. Idk maybe that's not even the problem.
 
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John 15:17-21
[SUP]17 [/SUP]These things I command you, that ye love one another.
[SUP]18 [/SUP]If the world hate you, ye know that it hated me before it hated you.
[SUP]19 [/SUP]If ye were of the world, the world would love his own: but because ye are not of the world, but I have chosen you out of the world, therefore the world hateth you.
[SUP]20 [/SUP]Remember the word that I said unto you, The servant is not greater than his lord. If they have persecuted me, they will also persecute you; if they have kept my saying, they will keep yours also.
[SUP]21 [/SUP]But all these things will they do unto you for my name's sake, because they know not him that sent me.


My guess is that you are a Christian...
Thanks so much I really needed to know that :) yes I am a Christian.
 
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Why operate under the assumption that everyone immediately dislikes you? Seems like an 'uphill battle' and incredibly unproductive approach to getting through your day.
I know that it's true. Just the other day I put my nephew in the swing and this lady comes to the park with her child and places her in the swing next to my nephew. I was sitting at the table watching and when I went to swing my nephew a little higher, she immediately took her daughter out of the swing with an attitude. She just placed her in the swing but as soon as I go over there she takes her out. That woman clearly didn't like me whoever she was. These things happens to me and I hate it very much.
 
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I TOTALLY know what you mean! Sometimes I feel like a complete failure, I feel like all my sisters are better/cuter/smarter/more talented than I am, and I hate the world, and I hate the life that God gave me, and you know what? Too often that turns into a hate for God Himself! (very, very scary transition).

My coping method is to immediately confess my sin (because discontent IS a sin), and then go out and try to find someone who is worse off than I am. Do it. Just try walking down the streets of a biggish town, or going into hospitals, nursing homes, or homeless shelters. It is very humbling. So often we see people that we knew existed, but we haven't seen before. The girl with her dad in the grocery store, who you can tell her parents don't care about her and she knows it. The man struggling to cross the street because he's in a wheelchair because he doesn't have any legs. The old lady in the nursing home who used to live a full life and have people who loved her and now has...nothing. The adult man who has to be taken care of all his life because he has the mental capacity of a 3-year-old child. Try it. If you go out REALLY looking for those people, you'll see them. Pray for their salvation, their present happiness, their comfort.

Honestly, the root of the problem is selfishness. It happens when we don't look at other people and see how they hurt. Sometimes it won't be something physical like amputated legs or homelessness. Sometimes it's a heart problem that we CAN'T see. But everyone struggles...and so often we don't see them, and forget to thank God for what we have. A God who loves us personally, even when we stumble, food, clothing, shelter, family that loves us, bodies that move and work. Maybe there's someone on the next block who doesn't have those things.
Thanks so much :) I'm trying and I will get better hopefully. You seem to have much more confidence than I do and I'm much older :( I will definitely take your advice in praying for those who are sad and grumpy..... Or just not in their right mind. Thanks :)
 
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Siberian_Khatru

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Thanks so much :) I'm trying and I will get better hopefully. You seem to have much more confidence than I do and I'm much older :( I will definitely take your advice in praying for those who are sad and grumpy..... Or just not in their right mind. Thanks :)
I struggled with insecurity for a long time. For the life of me, I can't figure out why, exactly; there's no catalyst that stands out in my memory. It gradually subsided with a lot of hardship/growth and a lot of reflection. Maybe that's not relevant to you, but in case it is, know that you've got peeps that can empathize. And then, sometimes people are just jerks. Gotta let those ones roll right off of you!
 
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If guys don't like you so what? Who cares?? No guy likes me in that way, what on earth do I care? You don't get the annoying ones that bother you either, be happy.
Huh?!
You're kidding, right?!
Cause I'm not buying this for a second.
But just in case...I like you.
There!
In fact, how about a date together?
(Don't worry, I'm used to rejection, just say get lost. :p )
But anyway, since you're way over in Norweegiastanville,
we'll have to settle for an on-line experience,
at least until I can get a passport and a plane ticket.
Unless you wanna go for a loooooong boatride.
Anyway, now you have a guy that likes you,
and would be happy to go on a date with you,
AND is annoying and bothersome! Lucky you, ;) !

Thanks so much :) I'm trying and I will get better hopefully. You seem to have much more confidence than I do and I'm much older :( I will definitely take your advice in praying for those who are sad and grumpy..... Or just not in their right mind. Thanks :)
Okay, make sure you get this first.....
Jesus loves you. Got it?!
JESUS...LOVES...YOU!!!
Now that you have that settled, try taking those situations
and turning them on their ear.
Like, how bout, if someone's giving you the evil eye,
walk up and smile and ask, 'Excuse me, is my hair on straight?'
and while they're looking goofy, say, 'I didn't think so, thanks.'

Or ask one of these 'enemy' peeps what time it is, and
when they tell you say, 'No it isn't.' or 'I don't believe you.' and
walk away. Try not to let them see you giggling as you go, though.
And remember to say a prayer for them.....sincerely.....
just whisper as you walk away something easy, like,
'Dear Jesus, please bless that person with your love today.
Do something special in their life, Jesus, so they know you
love them as much as me. You're such an awesome Savior! Amen.'

Maybe carry some bible verse cards with you,
and if somebody gives you the business,
take out one of those promises, read it to yourself,
(and mean it in your heart for them too,
as you glance up at them once or twice)
put it back in your pocket, smile, and walk away.
They'll go nuts wondering what you read!
And if one has the nerve to follow and ask you,
hand it to them to keep, they may wind up getting saved.
Remember, the Lord knows them that are His...
(and yet He loves us anyway, lol) Let's try to do like He does.
You were right when you said we're supposed to love.
If it came to us naturally, He wouldn't have had to tell us to.
(Or die for the sin of NOT loving...Him OR others.) God bless you.

{Sidenote to tinuviel...}
I agree with Willie, at 16, you're already quite the blessing.
So grateful you are in the body of Christ.
May the Lord bless and keep you in His protective love.
 
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mrdesire

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I'm really starting to hate people very much. I know that I'm supposed to love everyone but I just can't. And I'm pretty sure everyone else besides my family hates me too. Well not hate... But dislike me very much and I'm fed up. Everytime I go to the store... A public place, people would be all happy and smiling but when they see me they stop smiling and I can see they don't like me. I can feel the tension. I want to know what is it. That really makes me hate everyone that I'm not familiar with. I'm not a bad person or anything. I don't cuss. I am helpful to others in the store but I'm gonna stop that now. I'm gonna be how everyone is to me. I'm gonna look at people with bad attitude. Ugh probably not but I will definitely just avoid making eye contact. I am fed up with people. I tired of all the boys going up to my sisters in public and not me. I'm standing there looking so stupid trying to look happy for them. I want to know what's my purpose on earth... Get it over with and leave. But then that shows the lack of faith I have for God :( I don't see myself going far in life at all. Still haven't had my first job yet nor do I know how to drive. Long ways to go. But I am fed up with people in general and I'm just tired.
You want to know your purpose, how can you find that out if you need to be told. No, purpose is something you have to discover yourself otherwise you'd be doing what some else thinks you need to be doing. Work work work, so long as you're improving yourself then that's enough. Cars, guys and hating people, I wonder if you can put those all together and deal with them all at once. You need to learn how to drive, get guys and stop hating people or dislike.
 
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It's very normal for the world. I gather you're not a believer yet? Ask God to get you to believe in him. And then what's normal stops being normal.

And if you say you are a believer then I have to ask the obvious question -- why don't you know your purpose in life? Jesus stated it clearly enough. (Mark 12:30-31)
Yes I'm a believer. I didn't think anyone knew their purpose in life. I have no idea what's my purpose but I'll find out soon.
 
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coby

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Perfect strangers. I'm not so sure why but I'm guessing it's because of the way I look. A few days ago I asked some guy what type of female do I look like. He says I look like a tomboy :( I am not a tomboy at all. And that I look hardcore and play sports. That was a little insulting but a compliment I guess. I'm not a girly girl neither. I'm just a regular girl. As the days went by he saw that I was far from what he thought of me. Maybe people fear me. I know that whenever I seen a tomboy, I would get scared. Idk maybe that's not even the problem.
Oh well let them. Who cares?
When I dated my ex everyone would look at me because I wore a dress and make up and everything and normal here is walking around like a tomboy.
Here this is considered normal but who decides what's normal?

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Onk5OCqpJ0I

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=KNUlPGPzbiM
 
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Perfect strangers. I'm not so sure why but I'm guessing it's because of the way I look. A few days ago I asked some guy what type of female do I look like. He says I look like a tomboy :( I am not a tomboy at all. And that I look hardcore and play sports. That was a little insulting but a compliment I guess. I'm not a girly girl neither. I'm just a regular girl. As the days went by he saw that I was far from what he thought of me. Maybe people fear me. I know that whenever I seen a tomboy, I would get scared. Idk maybe that's not even the problem.
Would you feel comfortable putting a pic of yourself in your profile or avatar (that way you can change or delete it later if you want)? If we can see what you look like it would make it easier for us to figure out if theres something in your appearance that might be working against you or not. Just a suggestion..
 

SparkleEyes

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I don't think you need a doctor (all they'll do is prescribe some meds you probably don't need), but like a few others said just some prayer and talk to a pastor to help you through this phase of life...it's not permanent....
In the US, counselors do not prescribe medicine. IMO, this person needs more than a pastor's (who are for the most part NOT trained in psychology) advice. Hate is a deepseeded emotion that often times needs to be ferreted out by an educated professional. Yes, prayer is important.
 
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Ultimatum77

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I know counselors don't prescribe medicine (they have no prescribing rights) they only suggest CBT cognitive behavioral therapy. But I'm trying to spare her from going to the doctor and getting medicated for no reason other than being down.... There is no reason she needs zoloft or any other anti-depressant for the rest of her life for a temporary down season of life....it will pass just pray and talk to someone....because most of these medicines have horrible side effects such as weight gain, nausea,etc and damage the liver...
 
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I know counselors don't prescribe medicine (they have no prescribing rights) they only suggest CBT cognitive behavioral therapy. But I'm trying to spare her from going to the doctor and getting medicated for no reason other than being down.... There is no reason she needs zoloft or any other anti-depressant for the rest of her life for a temporary down season of life....it will pass just pray and talk to someone....because most of these medicines have horrible side effects such as weight gain, nausea,etc and damage the liver...
Do you really think it's that bad? I don't think I need medicine.