Creepy awkward almost scary....

so this guy I had been in contact with for a while, we broke off contact but were never really 'dating' it was complicated but he wont stop calling me. My phone answers calls automatically if a call comes in while im texting. And this guy called me after I repeatedly asked him not to. I tried to quick hang up but he must have heard me do so and threatened me he was going to hurt me if I didn't answer him again. I am glad God led me away from him but needing prayer for protection please. I would change my phone number but 1-my company charges fee's for that. 2- i wont bend for this person, he isn't going to make me hide. I just don't feel safe.

That's harassment. File a police report.

Yeah, I agree with Elizabeth... it's time to talk to the police.

I once dated a guy who wouldn't stop calling after we broke up. He finally left me alone when I threatened him with my best friend's brother in law, Mark. Mark was a prison guard at the time. Very big and very scary.


However Elizabeth is right. Document every time he calls and get the police involved. I would think that carrying pepperspray or mace might be a good idea too.

There's a difference between not bending to someone and not using wisdom. He is apparently a stalker, and many stalkings end violently. Either they end in the person getting caught, or killing the focus of their obsession. And violent attacks often are a precursor to the murder. By doing nothing, you are leaving yourself open for this to continue. Threats against a person can be handled by police. And even if they can do nothing, if you file a report each time he calls, threatens, etc.. if and when he does act violently against you, there will be a list of recorded threats and harassment against you, giving them more power to prosecute and prosecute him as a stalker, rather than a one time random attack against you.
I've known women who were stalked, one threw a rock through he sliding glass door before he finally got arrested. The other was attacked by him with a knife, and there was at least one other occasion where he tried to assault her and she managed to get away. He follower her all over the country as she moved to get away from him.

Yes I know, one of my best friends was a cop. He advised this to me once, but I figured this guy will just go away. Now it is only getting worse. I will document every time this happens again and the one today since it is still in my phone. Thank you all and if it gets really out of hand, like he shows up and confronts me or something then I will call the police. these things to my phone are just an annoyance for now though it was the threat that got to me. With no physical proof of the threat ie: voice recorded. The police cant do much for that. But looking into a tap for my phone. Just incase.

Give him my address I have a mossberg 12 gauge that needs to be broken . Or tell him you will be borrowing Duchess's prison guard Mark to take care of things

I recomend not waiting till he does more, as these things can escalate quickly,( I know a cop too) I was also stalked when I was much younger.
At least make a report, the officers will give you the info, advice and any papers you need, as if things do escalate, you will want to be ready.
Ill be praying in Jesus for your protection and this guy to leave you alone.

God bless
pickles

Learn martial arts then you aint gotta worry about involing the cops sence theyll most likely just give you a restaining order usless pice of paper but if you knew how to fight than you could defend yourself if he showed up.

Sounds scary to me. I think a restraining order might be a good idea. Then if he calls you he will go to jail.

Good idea I will look into that

Learning to defend yourself is a good long term goal. But, in reality, it takes years of regular practice to actually put into practice what you learn, so that it is natural, and not something you have to stop and think about. And your average generic karate school isn't going to do that.
If you do wand to still take that route, here is a cool list i found a while back that should help you decide how to go about figuring out what to do...

Top 10 Martial Arts for Self Defense - Listverse

Thank you so much. Really. I have been getting in shape--getting more muscles--so I think some classes would be good for me, I should have looked into it a long time ago I suppose this whole situation is just really making me think ya know. I'm aware it can take years but I know the general rules of protection ie: yell fire not help cause people dont take help seriously anymore, kick, bite, scream, take an eye out if necessary. But never investigated classes. Guess I just got used to getting beat on as a kid ya know. Figured God saved me from that without really fighting back, but I know I may have to get out of my 'comfort zone' and take my safety into my own hands. We shall see. TY again for the info!!

Yeah, the whole bite, scratch etc... may be more effective against a random attacker. But stalkers are more purposeful and driven. To them its a more personal act to be violent, and therefore, harder to run off, even if you fight back.
Personally i think Aikido looks awesome. Same stuff Steven Segal does. Check this video out of a Grand Master demonstrating..

[video=youtube;XxPlQGxvoy0]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XxPlQGxvoy0&feature=youtu.be[/video]

WHOA! whaaatttt?! How did he just do that? looks like he just uses the guys' weight against them and pressure points??? No offense to him but he looked..well...older than 60 atleast. HOW! *repeat repeat repeat*


Made note of 5 more attempts to contact me 2 phone 3 text. ughhh

Using ones weight against them is a common move to many styles of martial arts as are pressure points there very useful for a smaller or older person... an its true becomeing a fine tuned fighter does take many years of traing but just learing some basic self defense dosent take all to long an can be very useful exspecially against anperson without any training..

You know, before I met my wife she became acquainted with a young man who worked as a clerk for a convenience store. Several times a week she would go their on her walks and buy something to drink. Then he started to show up on her walks as she walked a particle route. He seemed nice but she always declined his offer for a date.

One day she came home and he had broken into her apartment, he was drunk and told her it was his birthday. He would not allow her to leave or call the police. He became threatening and she managed to run out the front door. He tackled her on the grass in a common area and with a knife cut her cheek. When neighbors saw the blood they called the police. At the trial my said she did not want him to go to jail but wanted for him to get psychological help. He received a very light sentence.

When he got out on probation and he was ordered to stay away from her via a court order. The parole officer told a detective that his birthday was coming up soon. The detective informed her that he was out and his birthday was in a few days. He managed to get a patrol car to drive by once an hour on the day it was his birthday. Late at nite he was discovered wandering around the apartment complex with a knife. He went back to prison for violating his parole.

We got married and she changed her name so when he got back out he could not find her. We also moved to a nearby city. In the meantime I had bought a .357 magnum hand cannon and became proficient with it. After several years we moved back to that city and nothing happened for years until one day he saw her walking. He pulled over and shouted her name. He went thru AA and sobered up. Part of his sobriety he had learned to forgive everyone he had harmed. So he apologized for what he had done and that was the last we ever heard from him.

A restraining order is just a piece of paper but it also allows the police to arrest him for violating it. If you think he could be violent, I would not hesitate in getting one. You might also want to buy some pepper spray. I am not trying to scare you. No one should live in fear. All I am saying is be prepared.

Thank you guys very much for your support and help. This person is a menace and my friends in the police said I can go down to the courthouse and get a civil harassment order but not much else until he does something outlandish that would call for a restraining order. So I am going to do that tomorrow, I prayed this morning especially when I was out for a run today, my heart just felt odd I couldn't put a name to it just...odd. So, I prayed asked God to keep my soul no matter what I know He loves me and will protect me. No attempts to contact me yet today. Thank you Jesus.

Thank you again everyone, Mr. danschance, sorry to hear about your wife's encounter with that man. Glad she is safe and good on you for being prepared for her and yourself. A friend of mine got me some pepper spray and said I should always carry it no matter where I go, out in the open so predators see that I am willing to use it, so hopefully, Lord willing, I am atleast a bit safer.

You should be a professional disguise artist and be like to some random dude, hey I'm not really (your name) and be like I'm really a dude who looks like Jimi Hendrix and totally put on the disguise and walk around lol

The reality is when Aikida is performed in situations like that, the students have learned to roll with the moves purposefully. Many of the moves he did, if done for real, would break bones. This isn't to say the demonstrations are fake or exaggerated, the moves do have the shown effect, just much more dangerous than they can fully demonstrate.
And yes, Aikida is a martial art that focuses on fighting defensivly with almost no offense. Offensive attacks always have an element that leaves you open, therefore if you don't attack, you don't leave an opening. Its all using their own momentum against them and keeping yourself protected. I'd love to learn it.