The problem is you are allowing yourself to be a doormat. There's nothing presumptuous about asking a person the reasons for breaking their word. You are letting people off the hook. We train people how to treat us, so if people know they have zero consequences with you, then you are encouraging people to minimize the importance of their word to you.
Don't be afraid to ask them. Asking doesn't require anger or accusation. They may have a legitimate answer, so it's good to give them the benefit of the doubt, until you learn the truth. But really you're just being passive. And as said above, if someone is doing this consistently then that shows a general lack of respect, whether it's towards you personally, or their attitude about people overall. Regardless you are being dismissed.
I find a major flaw in modern Christians is this misconception that being 'Christian' or 'loving' means never speaking up. There is nothing wrong with asking questions, issuing complaints and setting boundaries. In fact i'd say it's unloving, both to others, and yourself, to always stay silent.
Don't be afraid to ask them. Asking doesn't require anger or accusation. They may have a legitimate answer, so it's good to give them the benefit of the doubt, until you learn the truth. But really you're just being passive. And as said above, if someone is doing this consistently then that shows a general lack of respect, whether it's towards you personally, or their attitude about people overall. Regardless you are being dismissed.
I find a major flaw in modern Christians is this misconception that being 'Christian' or 'loving' means never speaking up. There is nothing wrong with asking questions, issuing complaints and setting boundaries. In fact i'd say it's unloving, both to others, and yourself, to always stay silent.