Anybody else here angry???

I am. It comes from all of the abuse I have had to endure over the years and am still having to endure. Sometimes on a daily basis. I control it, but that's the killing part. I'm angry almost all the time and nothing is easing the pain. I have tried counseling, deep breathing, talking to others, reading, listening to the preacherman, exercise, you name it. But it just seems that over the years, it has gotten worse. It's gotten so bad, that I'm thinking of quitting my job, just to avoid having to deal with others who treat me like I'm not worth anything.

But, is anyone else here dealing with anger issues? How are you coping with it?

I can relate in a kind of abstract way. I make people treat me fairly, employers included. But I have an intervening for others thing that has causes serious trouble, both for offending companies and myself.

I tend be angry at some certain things. The vanity of the rat race while I see people work overwork themselves and overwork others. Then I see people turnaround and outright waste that time they put in by spending it on garbage. People mistreating others drives me mad, I very often can't sit by and tolerate it but I see it constantly.

I have a freestanding punching bag that can be useful. When that or other excersize is not available prayer and meditation helps. You can always pray, and often meditate.

You said that it comes from the abuse. I'd start by separating myself from whoever is abusing me.

We can only control anger for so long before it begins to control us, consuming us. Finding ways to express my anger never helped me any, if anything I was just practicing how to be angry. Learning to deal with the anger by just letting it go and committing it to God is the reason that I have been rid of my old anger issues. Trust me...no, trust GOD, it works.

Also, forgiveness plays a huge role in letting go of anger. Hope this helps.

Have you tried praying for those who persecute you? Not trying to be flippant but praying for them will lead you to learn to see them through Christ's eyes. You can't pray for someone and not care. God is good. Trust him to his promises.

Thank you, Brothers! I really needed to hear from others. I don't know if people look at me and see 'stupid' written on my face or what. But I always seem to be the target of others who want to belittle me, harrass me, talk down to me, disrespect me, and just out right bully me. And I'm sick of it. And it's not just my co-workers eithers. It seems a complete stanger will treat me the same way. Go figure!

JGPS, I have been praying and now, I'm just waiting on God to move. Thank you, for your advise!

HEIsRiSen, that's what I'm afraid of. I don't want my anger to start consuming me. But like you, I haven't really found a way to control that anger long term. I can do it, for a little while, but then it always comes back, stronger. But the way that I do it, is to try not to think on those things that have made me angry in the first place.

Tintin, yes. I have prayed for these people over and over again. Whenever they persecute me, I always turn the other cheek and am guick to forgive. Why I'm still being persecuted by them, I don't know! My best guess would be, maybe I'm not seeing things the way God wants me to see them and I'm failing the tests and so, I have to keep retaking them! I don't know.

I'm not going to give up finding ways to control the anger.

God bless you and keep you.

It is far easier to just let go of the anger than it is to try controlling it. Your trying to control it may be what causes it to come back stronger. I would say that not dwelling on the anger is a great start. Don't suppress it, don't ignore it, acknowledge that the anger is there and make a conscious commitment to just drop it.

Good point! I'm practicing now!

I used to feel that way. The key is forgiveness. Read my testimony on forgiveness.

Hi FaithnLove,

I am sorry to hear of your anger problem. Anger is a normal and God given emotion we feel at times. Unresolved anger can cause all sorts of issues for us, including health issues. I suggest you consider buying a book. This book is written by two Christians and includes scripture and examples of the different ways anger can be mis-used.

The book is called "The Anger Workbook: A 13 Step Interactive plan to help you..." by Dr. Les Carter and Dr. Frank Minirth. It is available online from a major online retailer whose name is a south American jungle.

Please consider buying that book. Also there is another option, if you are willing. You can go to a deliverance ministry and see if they can help you. It is my experience when ever we feel like an emotion is out of our control, it is a deliverance issue.

I have anger issues. Satan has gotten to me by making things happen that anger and/or upset me (Which later on leads to anger towards God).

I have learned to control my anger, by prayer

After spending over half my life taking meds. [antidepressants] I never needed, while on the meds. and everytime another doctor would test drive me on a few new ones. So being a guinea pig over 20 years, Anger was the first emotion in my life. I had bad reactions to the antidepressants tremors, shakes, panic attacks, I could be this sweet pianist at church one minute, next you should really get out of my way. Its effected my relationship with my adult children now. I cant change any of it. But I was taught 2 Tim 1:7 for God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and a sound mind. I love it, I didnt care what doctors said. The creator of the world and universe and everything in it, says I have a sound mind. Also 2 Corinthians 10:5. the last part of bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ Jesus. To walk, talk, do, be, think as Jesus does. Does Jesus hold anger? Even for the one that betrayed Him, I believe He still loved Judas, then Pilate, He most certainly love the thief on the next cross. After all HE went through I believe He should have been very angry, I'm sure He was depressed when He went to pray, the disciples fell asleep. He asked Cant you watch for one hour? When He came back, they were asleep again. Then that moment on the cross, when He cried My God My God why hast thou forsaken me. I feel he was so depressed, didnt feel love after all He went through, Then He knew who HE was, and what HE had to do for something as unworthy as me. Dont you think somewhere that evening He was angry, for a moment at someone? I've had to work so hard, first, You got to learn to forgive others, I dont mean say "I forgive you" tonight then you wake up, angry again. I'm saying Pray hard about it, give it all to God, Leave it with Him, then ask for forgiveness, and give forgiveness. You will be surprised at how letting go junk that is no longer needed in your life now, completely gone, with forgiveness, can lighten your load, put a smile on your face. joy in your heart. God doesnt want you to be upset all the time. Really, who or whatever your mad about, is in the past, if it was an hour ago its the past, God's got past it, you should get past it. Forgive the ones who hurt you over and over, still be friendly to them, even at work, no matter what they say, they're trying to impress someone, their own self. no one else cares what is said. They've picked you to bully on, but you do know behind every bully is a coward with their tail tucked ready to run the other way? If you continue to allow all this that should be gone, in the past, where it needs to stay, you'll make yourself physically sick. And it is not worth it. Which of people make you angry, how many, lets say 10. Next time you see one, no matter how they seem to be, like ignoring you, or on the edge of pointing their finger at you to laugh in your face, say 'Hello, how are you?' and go on about your business. One, they arent expecting it, and two, you freaked them out! Know God will be right there with you at all times, He'd rather you be talking to Him, than about what anger you cant control. Its your mind, is it sound? Can you go to bed tonight, with a prayer and determination on your lips, that you're going to sleep well and wake up thanking God for a new day? You know Satan comes to steal, kill, destroy and devour, sounds like he's got a little gnawing on you already, when are you going to tell the lying devil, go back to where you come from, leave you alone and you go get what people or things he may have taken from you back. It isnt his, its yours. I dont believe anyone is too weak to be beaten up daily by the devil, cuz he is the author of this confusion, for hon, its not of God. Give forgiveness, even if they havent asked for it. Ask for forgiveness and dont dare tell me it will make you seem weak, no seriously, being angry day after day like a child, is weak. Then ask God to forgive you and give all this stuff to Him. Dont forget to forgive yourself, know with a humble heart, it is done. Live in His joy and peace. There's nothing like it. God bless you, I will pray for you.

I used to be, for abuse that has happened in my life and the long-term effects of it. However, God has helped me overcome my anger, as well as fear an anxiety attacks. He can certainly help you, you just need to let go and surrender It is soo so hard sometimes at first because maybe we feel they don't deserve it or whatever, but what helped me was thinking about just how much that person who was abusing me must have suffered to learn the same behavior.

Unfortunately, I find myself getting angry at the false prophets and fire and brimstone people on here, also sometimes the KJV-Onlyists. I have to be reminded that it's the message that is the problem and that the person isn't my enemy.

I have found that confronting people with the truth of what is going on helps. we are not doormats, to be run over
or put up with others abuse. we can however talk to that person and tell them its not right ect

I'm surprised I haven't seen some of those yet. Usually they're crawling all over any kind of theology forum.

I've seen quite a few of them here. Most are loving but misguided in their zeal for the only True translation (lol), others are hateful people who look down upon everyone. Obviously, the latter kind are the most vocal.

Hugs faith and love, like others have said, forgivness is the key.
I had alot of deeply burried anger do to the abuse I sauffered as well.
I struggled to forgive, it wasnt that I could nt forgive, but I found there was still something in me that struggled.
Then Jesus showed me this.
I sawmyself and those that injured me before Jesus on the cross.
The question came before me, what more do you want me to suffer to forgive them?
It was then I saw again, how we all are sinners, and that Jesus loved the ones who injured me as much as He loved me.
Suddenly the anger fell away, and I was filled with the mercy, compassion, forgivness and love of Jesus for all.

Hugs and God bless
pickles

There are so many people who can relate toyour feelings. People, including Christians,can sometimes be so cruel.

Anact of cruelty I suffered

I experienced a daily or even hourly boutsof cruelty at work which went on for months. This was very difficult to endure.

The person at work was so mean and cruelthat it made me unhappy all the time, it consumed my thoughts; it changed mypersonality from jolly to sad. As a Christian I did not want to return evil forevil. Here are some things that I did. Remembernone of this was easy.

1. Constant prayer. After he would do something or say somethingI would find a place to pray. I prayedfor endurance, to relax, to forgive among other things. I prayed all the time. I highly recommend praying for the person(s). Matthew 5:45-47.

2. Do not return evil. I wanted so badly to return evil. Instead I tried following the admonitionfound at Romans 12:20. If your enemy ishungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him drink; for by so doing you willheap burning coals upon his head.

Taking vengeance on the individual wouldlikely harden them, but treating them with kindness may eventually soften theheart, thus reaping fiery coals, causing good qualities to come out.

3. Regain your power. Because he took my joy his cruelty was havingan extended affect. I hated that he wasdefeating me in more than one way. Ilove being happy so I decided to accept the cruelty as a refining of mypersonality, a way to build up my endurance.

4. Focus on good things. I focused on the individuals who were kind tome. They knew of the unjust treatment Ireceived from him. There were too manywho were nice to me to let one, or a few, destroy my peace.

TheResults

After months of ill treatment from thisperson he came to me and said, “You are truly a Christian.” Because he did not break me he came to admireme. I always treated him with respect.

Today, after 20 years of working with him weare great friends. We talk about theBible regularly. Over the years I haveseen many good changes in him (refined from the coals).

We never know if the kind things we do and sayto those whom treat us badly will work. We do know that the kind things we do and say pleases our Creator. Ultimately that is what we want to do.

I hope that this can offer you somecomfort. I feel your pain from myheart. I will have you in my prayers.

Just to add a little thing here..."HEALING" is a choice. God has healed some folks miracusly but for the most part we are to turn to Him for wisdom and strength.

It sounds like you have alot going on here. I suggest alot of private time with God. Seek out good ( real live) Christian Counceling. I suggest real live counceling so that the councelor can read your body language.

Thanks everyone for your encouragements, advise and prayers.

I have being taking control over my anger issues by not focusing on what's making me angry and instead, taking everything to God in prayer. This could be a long and bumpy road for me as I have had these issues for a while. Years. But, I am going to take it one day at a time and stay positive!

Danschance, I believe I will check out that book!