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Yes,she was tragically killed was she not? I think I recall that. I haven't seen that movie.I used to have a movie channel with old movies but the package cost a little much and I told my husband to cut it.
Before I was married my mother and I used to have a marathon and sit up all night watching old movies.
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Yes,she was tragically killed was she not? I think I recall that. I haven't seen that movie.I used to have a movie channel with old movies but the package cost a little much and I told my husband to cut it. Before I was married my mother and I used to have a marathon and sit up all night watching old movies.
Before I was married my mother and I used to have a marathon and sit up all night watching old movies.
If you ever get a chance, do yourself a favor and see It Happened One Night. It is witty and romantic, with Claudette Colbert as the lead. I have a penchant for old movies. That's all we watched when we were growing up, lol.
Thanks for standing up for me. I really appreciate it. I didn't think I was being condescending, but you know how it is. You don't really have objective opinions about your own statements. Thanks again for vouching for me, I was rereading the posts in effort to figure out what it was that I said wrong.
Yes,she was tragically killed was she not? I think I recall that. I haven't seen that movie.I used to have a movie channel with old movies but the package cost a little much and I told my husband to cut it. Before I was married my mother and I used to have a marathon and sit up all night watching old movies.
Before I was married my mother and I used to have a marathon and sit up all night watching old movies.
K
I thought I had read about that but couldn't remember the details. That is sad.I did enjoy his acting,I'll have to check that out.The last movie I saw him in was Mutiny on the Bounty. I love those old movies too.
I dont think you said anything wrong. When someone has a chip on their shoulder they take everything wrong. Its not your fault.As I said,if someone has a short fuse a discussion forum is the last place they need to be.
I dont think you said anything wrong. When someone has a chip on their shoulder they take everything wrong. Its not your fault.As I said,if someone has a short fuse a discussion forum is the last place they need to be.
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Mutiny on the Bounty was good, I like the one with Mel Gibson better, though.
Yes, it does seem strange for people with short fuses to be on forums, but perhaps by unloading on people online, the person is not unloading on people in real life. Maybe it is a way to get out frustrations. Thanks for reassuring me as I did not know. I can be a know-it-all, so I have to be careful about patronizing people.
Yes, it does seem strange for people with short fuses to be on forums, but perhaps by unloading on people online, the person is not unloading on people in real life. Maybe it is a way to get out frustrations. Thanks for reassuring me as I did not know. I can be a know-it-all, so I have to be careful about patronizing people.
When I was married for 29 years before my divorce, my wife at the end, became aggressive in her ungodly spirit toward me. Before she was trying to live in the flesh the godly life. She tried very hard in fact to do that. She wanted God but thought morals with worldly benefits was more her style, despite knowing the Scriptures which devoured those considerations in Spiritual truths. She went from arguing everything in counter measure to me, for no real reason, to complete powerful persecution of my faith in God.
She was my Jezebel, with power and controlling manipulative intentions, even to the point of poignant lies and selfish self-endowed victimization. I still loved her dearly but I was at a lose to know what to do. The more I loved her the more she twisted it to sound as if I was selfish. But that was the opposite of what I was doing, and the lie began to frustrate me to a point of self-awareness.. But, I knew from day one that her change over to powerful persecution wasn't coming directly from her. So, I went into closed doors and prayed like I haver never prayed before... seeking God's wisdom and refuge.
This was not a battle between me and her, even though there were those debates of what was right and wrong in our choices of everyday living. But, suffice it to say, it wasn't a battle between flesh and blood at all. Of course that was not her take on it. God had me let go of the fight Satan wanted me to gain with her to deal with her personality. God simplified my life to deal with my spirit - to be above reproach, and love her all the more despite being persecuted - literally this was my commissioned task - to love her all the more... My human reasoning was seriously discontented. It told me I was foolish and a putz. When she would boast that my God was my crutch, etc etc my human reasoning and common sense exploded. But this conflict only drove me closer to God not further from Him. Thus, I put my flesh in its place and obeyed God in loving her all the more in gentleness and respect. I never let the anti-god spirit have my respect, or my allowance, but I always respected the potential in her as a Christ-like child of His, for God has that much power to accomplish it.
The issue isn't how to deal with her character and personality and attacks, it is dealing with loving her in the power of Christ. Thus, it is in maintaining your joy in the Lord which will give you strength to love her all the more in Christ as a draw to lift God up and let Him draw her to Himself. Let us pray with you for the Saul to change to Paul, who will lay down (her) weapons of verbal enterprising and boldly go into the uttermost parts to declare the awesome, transformational power of the Prince of Peace. The persecutor transformed into evangelist. I reckon Paul, would be the first to say that this sort of thing is more than possible. It won't be that all people will let God in, but some will, and this is our hope in Christ.
You don't have to deal with her tactics, you must deal with your Spiritual fervor and position in order to power-up thru grace and thru prayers on her behalf. This is where you must pour yourself out like wine for her; and it will cost you! Let God show His grace thru you, while holding true to the loyalty of His Spiritual truths in the Word. But the key is gentleness and respect. The key is also in seeing her as what God sees her as, the Paul from the Saul, yet unmasked into the beauty He purposed her to be. If you are in the wrong at all, confess it to God and be at peace therefore to act as He makes it clear to act in accordance with righteousness.
My wife became that cancer to my bones, yet I would have let God love her thru me nonetheless, even unto death, for I had laid her at His feet and fought to let that love transform her into correction and reconciliation to the faithful fulfillment of a proper relationship with God once again. But, alas, she went into worldliness by willful choices. She is loved by the worlds system for she is apart of it now. This crushes my spirit and yet the cancer to my bones has left my arena of experiences now. We didn't start out unequally yoked but we certainly became it. The Jezebel Spirit was in her a very brawling character, yet God was never moved in me to fear it; only to love her all the more, and hate the anti-god Spirit all the more. I invite you to go to God and pray; not for answers, but for more of Himself, in order to love her all the more in Christ. He is the answer to not only this situation, but to all situations indeed. God will come in and serve you in this, for thru your will you will have asked Him, and sought after Him in it thru faith. May God richly Bless you and show His glory thru it. I will keep you in my prayers. let us know how it turns out will you?
[h=1]Proverbs 12:4The Voice (VOICE)[/h]4 A dignified wife brings honor to her husband,
but a shameful wife is like decay eating away at his bones.
She was my Jezebel, with power and controlling manipulative intentions, even to the point of poignant lies and selfish self-endowed victimization. I still loved her dearly but I was at a lose to know what to do. The more I loved her the more she twisted it to sound as if I was selfish. But that was the opposite of what I was doing, and the lie began to frustrate me to a point of self-awareness.. But, I knew from day one that her change over to powerful persecution wasn't coming directly from her. So, I went into closed doors and prayed like I haver never prayed before... seeking God's wisdom and refuge.
This was not a battle between me and her, even though there were those debates of what was right and wrong in our choices of everyday living. But, suffice it to say, it wasn't a battle between flesh and blood at all. Of course that was not her take on it. God had me let go of the fight Satan wanted me to gain with her to deal with her personality. God simplified my life to deal with my spirit - to be above reproach, and love her all the more despite being persecuted - literally this was my commissioned task - to love her all the more... My human reasoning was seriously discontented. It told me I was foolish and a putz. When she would boast that my God was my crutch, etc etc my human reasoning and common sense exploded. But this conflict only drove me closer to God not further from Him. Thus, I put my flesh in its place and obeyed God in loving her all the more in gentleness and respect. I never let the anti-god spirit have my respect, or my allowance, but I always respected the potential in her as a Christ-like child of His, for God has that much power to accomplish it.
The issue isn't how to deal with her character and personality and attacks, it is dealing with loving her in the power of Christ. Thus, it is in maintaining your joy in the Lord which will give you strength to love her all the more in Christ as a draw to lift God up and let Him draw her to Himself. Let us pray with you for the Saul to change to Paul, who will lay down (her) weapons of verbal enterprising and boldly go into the uttermost parts to declare the awesome, transformational power of the Prince of Peace. The persecutor transformed into evangelist. I reckon Paul, would be the first to say that this sort of thing is more than possible. It won't be that all people will let God in, but some will, and this is our hope in Christ.
You don't have to deal with her tactics, you must deal with your Spiritual fervor and position in order to power-up thru grace and thru prayers on her behalf. This is where you must pour yourself out like wine for her; and it will cost you! Let God show His grace thru you, while holding true to the loyalty of His Spiritual truths in the Word. But the key is gentleness and respect. The key is also in seeing her as what God sees her as, the Paul from the Saul, yet unmasked into the beauty He purposed her to be. If you are in the wrong at all, confess it to God and be at peace therefore to act as He makes it clear to act in accordance with righteousness.
My wife became that cancer to my bones, yet I would have let God love her thru me nonetheless, even unto death, for I had laid her at His feet and fought to let that love transform her into correction and reconciliation to the faithful fulfillment of a proper relationship with God once again. But, alas, she went into worldliness by willful choices. She is loved by the worlds system for she is apart of it now. This crushes my spirit and yet the cancer to my bones has left my arena of experiences now. We didn't start out unequally yoked but we certainly became it. The Jezebel Spirit was in her a very brawling character, yet God was never moved in me to fear it; only to love her all the more, and hate the anti-god Spirit all the more. I invite you to go to God and pray; not for answers, but for more of Himself, in order to love her all the more in Christ. He is the answer to not only this situation, but to all situations indeed. God will come in and serve you in this, for thru your will you will have asked Him, and sought after Him in it thru faith. May God richly Bless you and show His glory thru it. I will keep you in my prayers. let us know how it turns out will you?
[h=1]Proverbs 12:4The Voice (VOICE)[/h]4 A dignified wife brings honor to her husband,
but a shameful wife is like decay eating away at his bones.
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Hi Slave,
I was very sorry to read the above.
I find it incredible how you could maintain the personality and character you have after going through this ordeal.
When I see an unhappy person, I Always feel that they're either having health problems, or spouse problems. The two type problems that will have the biggest effect on a person.
I have a comment for you but it might be too late...
Sometimes a man can love a woman too much and accept too much.
That's all I'll say.
You deserve a loving wife.
I was very sorry to read the above.
I find it incredible how you could maintain the personality and character you have after going through this ordeal.
When I see an unhappy person, I Always feel that they're either having health problems, or spouse problems. The two type problems that will have the biggest effect on a person.
I have a comment for you but it might be too late...
Sometimes a man can love a woman too much and accept too much.
That's all I'll say.
You deserve a loving wife.
G
I think it is the difference between love languages. For example, if I were married and my husband loved me through actions without words, I would feel unloved and hurt. If he washed 1,000,000 dishes for me but never said the things I long to hear, it would not matter to me. The action is invalidated for me. I'm very language oriented. I always have been. Cards and letters with hand written messages are more valuable to me than someone washing my car or whatever favor.
My point to the OP is that his wife may be brawling because she feels like he doesn't love her. If he finds out her love language, he can better demonstrate love toward her and maybe she won't brawl anymore.
Zi is a woman who has blocked me, I do believe. I will honor her wish and not speak to her again. I'm really bad about knowing people's boundaries. But, when people tell me to "get lost", I try to obey their wishes.
My point to the OP is that his wife may be brawling because she feels like he doesn't love her. If he finds out her love language, he can better demonstrate love toward her and maybe she won't brawl anymore.
Zi is a woman who has blocked me, I do believe. I will honor her wish and not speak to her again. I'm really bad about knowing people's boundaries. But, when people tell me to "get lost", I try to obey their wishes.
This, to me is all about selfless love. It must be the priority for all of us as Christians. Whether by acts set and wrapped in love, or by words of understood relationship to her or his love language, it ultimately comes in action set forth in worthiness based on our devotion thru righteousness to follow God's lead and do what he makes clear to do. The Bible is not quiet about this stuff either.
As we look at it resoundingly we see selfless love is patient; it is kind; it is not jealous; it does not brag, and is not arrogant; Selfless love does not act unbecomingly (or as the NIV translates it: "It is not rude."); it does not seek its own (slow down and think about that one); It is not provoked; It doesn't take into account a wrong suffered (This became my lesson and character builder for me); It does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; It bears all things; Selfless love hopes all things; and it endures all things.
Humorist Sam Levenson says, “Love at first sight is easy to understand. It’s when two people have been looking at each other for years that it becomes a miracle” (Reader’s Digest [3/83]). Stanley says, "It only takes a pulse to fall in love, but it takes a plan to stay in love." We can see in Scripture it’s not really a miracle; it’s the result of yielding to God, repeatedly confronting our selfishness and daily practicing biblical love in our homes.
An old legend says that in his old age the apostle John was so weak that he had to be carried into the church meetings. At the end of the meeting he would be helped to his feet to give a word of exhortation. He would invariably repeat, “Little children, love one another.”
The disciples grew weary of the same words every time. Finally they asked him why he said the same thing over and over. He replied, “Because it is the commandment of the Lord, and the observation of it alone is sufficient.”
Someone has said that if we discovered that we had only five minutes left to say all we wanted to say, every cell phone would be occupied by people calling other people to stammer that they loved them. Selfless love must our priority for in it is success.. "Love one another as I have first loved you!" Submission is an act with variables, (and we are talking about those variables even here) but to love another we must find and seek the formula God would have us use in that way to maintain our love with growing fervor. God, thru Jesus, is not just the means to the end in finding that answer, Jesus is the end which means He is the answer. Lean not in your own understanding but in all your ways acknowledge Him and He will direct your paths.
As we look at it resoundingly we see selfless love is patient; it is kind; it is not jealous; it does not brag, and is not arrogant; Selfless love does not act unbecomingly (or as the NIV translates it: "It is not rude."); it does not seek its own (slow down and think about that one); It is not provoked; It doesn't take into account a wrong suffered (This became my lesson and character builder for me); It does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; It bears all things; Selfless love hopes all things; and it endures all things.
Humorist Sam Levenson says, “Love at first sight is easy to understand. It’s when two people have been looking at each other for years that it becomes a miracle” (Reader’s Digest [3/83]). Stanley says, "It only takes a pulse to fall in love, but it takes a plan to stay in love." We can see in Scripture it’s not really a miracle; it’s the result of yielding to God, repeatedly confronting our selfishness and daily practicing biblical love in our homes.
An old legend says that in his old age the apostle John was so weak that he had to be carried into the church meetings. At the end of the meeting he would be helped to his feet to give a word of exhortation. He would invariably repeat, “Little children, love one another.”
The disciples grew weary of the same words every time. Finally they asked him why he said the same thing over and over. He replied, “Because it is the commandment of the Lord, and the observation of it alone is sufficient.”
Someone has said that if we discovered that we had only five minutes left to say all we wanted to say, every cell phone would be occupied by people calling other people to stammer that they loved them. Selfless love must our priority for in it is success.. "Love one another as I have first loved you!" Submission is an act with variables, (and we are talking about those variables even here) but to love another we must find and seek the formula God would have us use in that way to maintain our love with growing fervor. God, thru Jesus, is not just the means to the end in finding that answer, Jesus is the end which means He is the answer. Lean not in your own understanding but in all your ways acknowledge Him and He will direct your paths.
If she's your daughter, set some boundaries and enforce them. If she's your wife, state clearly what the inappropriate behaviour is, that you won't tolerate it, and stand by your words. Either way, pray for her.
Otherwise, if she is neither, avoid her. To help get better feedback, perhaps you need to define "brawling". It clearly means different things to different people. I assume physically brawling... if a woman tried that with me, I'd charge her with assault.
Otherwise, if she is neither, avoid her. To help get better feedback, perhaps you need to define "brawling". It clearly means different things to different people. I assume physically brawling... if a woman tried that with me, I'd charge her with assault.
G
Zi, honey -- I want to try to help you lengthen your fuse...
Please read the first two posts of this thread.
See if it might help just a bit...
Please read the first two posts of this thread.
See if it might help just a bit...