Do You Have a Problem With People

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Magenta

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We can all have fun! As long as you realize that there is NO Absolute, And you never debate MY truth. :rolleyes:
You probably realize it, but saying there are no absolutes invalidates the statement of there being no absolutes :)
 

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It's taken some time this evening for me to gather my thoughts.

I market myself as a misanthrope, and for the most part, it's true. I don't like people. In general. There are very few people I have any personal issues with, not because I haven't antagonized a situation to exist between us (because I have), but because for the most part, there are very few people on Earth who can have any appreciable effect on my life.

There are people I like. That like though is fairly superficial. Have a conversation; share a laugh; have an inside joke - all of these are fine. Be friends? Meh...if you want to consider me a friend, that's fine, but no guarantee I consider you the same way. I don't do that because I think I am too good to be anyone's friend. I do it because I think I am not good enough to be anyone's friend. That, and having moved so much as a kid, I never developed any long-lasting friendships so I considered them temporary fixtures in my life and I treat them as such.

I don't like going out in public. Not because I hate people, but I'd much rather be able to go grocery shopping without having to hear anyone else, or smell anyone's B.O., or have to weave my way through the aisles like Billy in Family Circus because people want to park their fat midwestern butts in the middle of the aisle and impede traffic. Hate though? No. Hate is an active emotional state and one I just don't feel like putting my energy into maintaining. I do my best (most days) to try and be indifferent. Having a permanent case of RBF (look it up on urban dictionary if you don't understand), my indifference comes across to most people as frustration or anger.

tl;dr - I don't hate people. I just don't like most people and don't want to figure out if I should like them or not.
**** some shoppers are pretty rude---- or oblivious...
 

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You probably realize it, but saying there are no absolutes invalidates the statement of there being no absolutes :)
**** usually the people who believe in no absolutes---- absolutely believe it...
 

Magenta

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**** usually the people who believe in no absolutes---- absolutely believe it...
I would not expect a Christian to say there are no absolutes... in fact it was a pet precept for atheists to proclaim, while at the same time believing themselves to be superior in rationality, logic, and intelligence to anyone who believed in any God, especially the God of the Christians, though they often failed to see any humor in it being pointed out to them, by a Christian no less, that their little motif was a self-defeating statement, and they would often fall silent for a short time at least, to discover that there were gaping holes in their logic :)
 
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Pain of silence

I have a relative who if you express emotion towards just gives a blank response.
Sometimes they will be grumpy, mainly quiet, and sometimes very involved.

It creates a kind of sink hole that just sucks life away.

But I thought this is crazy. If I was speaking to a chair it would be no different.

In someway this is like devaluing what you sharing and treating it as totally irrelevant.

But now once I know what they are like, I just expect nothing, or something random.
I know there is not really anything there between us, and probably is true with most
of the other people they know as well.

I have a theory, they are dislocated between the emotions in their hearts and what
they show, so they are as much a victim as anyone else.

This makes people hard, because on the surface, you would not be able to spot this
vast array of different people and responses. Some are truly a blessing and brings
a lift in difficult situations.