Does anyone else find facebook depressing?

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blue_ladybug

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I don't have fake book, twitter, instagram, or any of that other ridiculousness..

I only have CC, which is indeed, depressing sometimes. :/

LOL
 

Magenta

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Yes, that is the creepiest part about the site.Once you have overshared and come to your senses - it is too late and you will always have an account floating out there in cyber space.
It's all about the numbers. They can show their advertisers that they have a gazillion members, and that makes the site more valuable. Facebook may have aided in the eventual demise of myspace. Though it was resurrected and reclaimed for its original purpose (music), they had about 90 forum categories. I was on myspace doing Christian apologetics for four years on their religion forum shortly after becoming Christian. What an education! Yowzers, the non-believers were brutal and quite profane, but I got used to it fairly quickly, I guess, as much as one can get used to such treatment.

I used to tell my daughter (who will be 31 this summer) about some of the things people said to me, simply because I was a Christian, and she would wonder how I could stand it. Some of it seemed quite hilarious to me, though. Anyways, the thing is, myspace forums all went bye bye October 26, 2011. Though it is not likely facebook is going anywhere any time soon, I was simply trying to make the point that not everything is forever :) Some sites are also set up to drop info after it gets so old, to save server space. Still, stuff could be there for a long time before it falls off the back end...
 

notmyown

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I used facebook to connect with family and share treasured photographs for an upcoming huge family reunion that I actually never attended because I chose to go to my mother's funeral earlier the same year instead. However, even in the short time I was there, I found it very disturbing how people I hardly even knew forty years ago now were wanting to friend me. What could I possibly share with those people? There are already too many demands on my time :p After a certain incident, I shut down my page as much as possible and have not been back since, for the greater part of a decade. Because, you know, you can check out any time you like, but you can never leave :D
welcome to the Hotel California ;)
 

Reborn

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I was going to post a link...but there were too many articles to choose from.
Just Goggle why Facebook makes people depressed.

Overall, FB will most likely make us feel one of two ways...

-Depressed. We see what others want us to see, their best moments, their best possessions, their best selfie angles...making us feel like we have nothing going on in our lives. It also leads to feeling like we've wasted our time sifting through...yes, FB. Most log on to interact with loved ones...but never actually do it.

- It ego boosts. People subconsciously search for those who don't have it as good as they do.

Social media seems to be like a drug. Its addictive. We roll the dice in the hopes that we will feel better, in the end, it makes us feel terrible. We know its bad and yet we keep on going back for more.



I actually like following my parents generation.
I have relatives that will post about how their teeth fell out as they were eating something. The pics they post aren't photoshopped or in certain cases, ...even flattering.


My generation seems to think that they are 'keeping it real'
When in realty...we do the complete opposite.
 
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I find CC more depressing than FB. On FB I can control what I want to see, or not see. I've had very little problems with drama because I limit who I add. And those I do add, and feel obligated to keep, that I don't want to see, I just unfollow.
Come to CC and it's not uncommon for me to close it out feeling worse than before I opened it. Which is one reason I cut back so much compared to a few years ago.
Seems if FB is that much of a problem for you perhaps you need to reconsider who you add and follow.
You need to have that eye looked at.
 
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Mooky

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I was going to post a link...but there were too many articles to choose from.
Just Goggle why Facebook makes people depressed.

Overall, FB will most likely make us feel one of two ways...

-Depressed. We see what others want us to see, their best moments, their best possessions, their best selfie angles...making us feel like we have nothing going on in our lives. It also leads to feeling like we've wasted our time sifting through...yes, FB. Most log on to interact with loved ones...but never actually do it.

- It ego boosts. People subconsciously search for those who don't have it as good as they do.

Social media seems to be like a drug. Its addictive. We roll the dice in the hopes that we will feel better, in the end, it makes us feel terrible. We know its bad and yet we keep on going back for more.



I actually like following my parents generation.
I have relatives that will post about how their teeth fell out as they were eating something. The pics they post aren't photoshopped or in certain cases, ...even flattering.


My generation seems to think that they are 'keeping it real'
When in realty...we do the complete opposite.

This is a wonderful , informative post.I had never thought of googling the subject and you have come up with some very good points! Thank - you.:)
 
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Mooky

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It's all about the numbers. They can show their advertisers that they have a gazillion members, and that makes the site more valuable. Facebook may have aided in the eventual demise of myspace. Though it was resurrected and reclaimed for its original purpose (music), they had about 90 forum categories. I was on myspace doing Christian apologetics for four years on their religion forum shortly after becoming Christian. What an education! Yowzers, the non-believers were brutal and quite profane, but I got used to it fairly quickly, I guess, as much as one can get used to such treatment.

I used to tell my daughter (who will be 31 this summer) about some of the things people said to me, simply because I was a Christian, and she would wonder how I could stand it. Some of it seemed quite hilarious to me, though. Anyways, the thing is, myspace forums all went bye bye October 26, 2011. Though it is not likely facebook is going anywhere any time soon, I was simply trying to make the point that not everything is forever :) Some sites are also set up to drop info after it gets so old, to save server space. Still, stuff could be there for a long time before it falls off the back end...
Can't rep you but this deserves a rep!Never knew all that about myspace and how it's a numbers game for companies! Interesting and informative post! Thank-you :)

Also, I am sorry that you had to endure abuse on myspace - but at least you came away with an education! :D
 
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Mooky

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I find CC more depressing than FB. On FB I can control what I want to see, or not see. I've had very little problems with drama because I limit who I add. And those I do add, and feel obligated to keep, that I don't want to see, I just unfollow.
Come to CC and it's not uncommon for me to close it out feeling worse than before I opened it. Which is one reason I cut back so much compared to a few years ago.
Seems if FB is that much of a problem for you perhaps you need to reconsider who you add and follow.


Sorry you feel this way, Ugly.I have always really enjoyed your posts and thought that you have brought a very valuable contribution to this online community.
 
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Yeah, I wuz thinkin 'bout getting me one of those them thar Space Book accounts so I could tell the world what I'm doing all the time.
I'm sure they're all waiting to hear what all I been doin
 

G00WZ

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I don't really find it depressing, i just find it as a waste of time because i am bombarded with selfies, cat pics and people begging for likes.
 
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Galatea

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I don't spend a whole lot of time on facebook, but one of the good things about it is when people post prayer requests for people who are sick or in some sort of trouble. It is not all bragging. Sometimes, I read posts about people having hard times as well as good times.

Another thing I like are the articles from various pages. My sister will post articles she knows I would like to my page, and we talk about it.

I like looking at pictures of peoples' kids and seeing how they have grown. I also like seeing pictures of peoples' pets.

If you dislike some of your friends' posts, simply unfollow them and they won't show up in your feed.
 
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Victimized

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I have found Facebook to be so gossipy, shallow and depressing that I deactivated my account.
 

p_rehbein

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I don't facebook, so no problems there.......as for being depressing.......try sitting on the river bank in 90 degree weather, and the durn fish ain't biting..............
 
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joefizz

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I'm still on facebook and I find it more of boring,but I stay on their to talk mainly to family so no big deal,really glad I found this chat site,facebook is crummy,like when someone is playing an online game,it posts what you got in place of an actual post someone types and on top of that they switched to msn which I can't use,making it twice as annoying and boring though I posted a testimony in the testimony forum a day ago about God leading me to find my family through facebook,so I can't complain too much,myspace wasn't much better,I doubt my account still is active with them lol though my view point cannot be entirely accurate since I use an android phone(my only source of internet)for both facebook and christian chat,still I think it could use more improving and proper censorship.
 
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Miri

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I didn't have a face book account for ages due to all the bad things I'd heard.

Then I decided to try it, I only accept friend requests from people
who I actually know and refuse the rest. Even then I set categories for them,
ie family, close friends, church, acquaintances etc and I post according to
catagory.

I never post publically and I never open my profile to the public.

Some of us are real, others just post happy pictures which I agree, isn't true to
life. But maybe its because like me, they select which audience to post to and
only put their difficult times out to family and close friends.
 
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Miri

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i heard a guy talk about this once....

he related a personal story of he and his wife taking their little kids to the park.
he said he and his wife bickered all day, the kids misbehaved all day, there was strife and tension all day.
at the end of their park time, they handed their camera to a stranger and asked him to take a family photo.

when they got home, he posted this one picture of them all smiling for the camera on FB and captioned it
"Great day at the park!"

:rolleyes:

i had to leave FB after a couple of years. even among Christians it seemed competitive, and there are just too many pictures of what people are eating. ;)

Ive been rather surprised about all the drinking too. It seems every week there is a post
about someone having cocktails somewhere. I didn't realise the people I knew enjoyed
their alcohol so much. I'm surprised some of them even manage to stagger to church on
Sunday.
 

notmyown

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Ive been rather surprised about all the drinking too. It seems every week there is a post
about someone having cocktails somewhere. I didn't realise the people I knew enjoyed
their alcohol so much. I'm surprised some of them even manage to stagger to church on
Sunday.
lol! i deactivated my account years ago. this must be a new thing?

oh, the ads! my kids talk about the annoying ads, but i don't remember that much.

ps-- i sometimes have a glass of wine at Christmastime. please don't unfriend me. :eek:
 

Magenta

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Can't rep you but this deserves a rep!Never knew all that about myspace and how it's a numbers game for companies! Interesting and informative post! Thank-you :)

Also, I am sorry that you had to endure abuse on myspace - but at least you came away with an education! :D
Thank you :) We are really very blessed that there are no ads on Christian Chat, as they can become quite intrusive and annoying over time, but of course, that is how most sites are able to pay the bills to operate, and the more members a site can show they have, the more site traffic, the more page hits and refreshes, then the more advertisers are willing to pay to have their product displayed and hopefully hawked. That is partially what makes a site so valuable when you hear something selling for mega millions: it is us, the people who use the sites!

I had no idea what I was getting myself into when I first stumbled upon the myspace religion forum :eek: But I got hooked right away, found it very challenging, and became a quick study in many things in order to converse with the non believers on a variety of topics, being already well equipped with knowledge of what is required to come to faith, and how the natural man does not accept the things of God (because I wandered the world for almost fifty years before I was baptized :D).

One thing I learned right away, too, was that when you are discussing a topic, a serious subject that you would want to stay on track, you cannot give the other person wiggle room. That old adage about giving people an inch and they take a mile is so true! People who write these long rambling posts, what or where is the point? The actual POINT? It gets lost, if there is one. So right away I learned that it was best to cut everything away but the essentials, and then it was really very easy to see if/when the other tried to divert.

Shortly after I first got here I was accused of keeping my posts brief and to the point for nefarious reasons. It is amazing the things people will assume about you when they really have no idea at all :p

After myspace shut down, I went to another site to carry on doing Christian apologetics with agnostics, atheists, and secular humanists. This second bunch seemed a lot more sophisticated somehow, like there was no way no how anyone was going to penetrate their hardhearted hostility toward God and Christians. I was there for about three years, before coming here. That second site was Christian run, and so there was better moderation and no profanity allowed, but still, the level of dishonesty and abuse was utterly gobsmacking at times. Truthfully, sadly it can be much the same here.

So, yes, I learned a lot and found out there is so much more to learn and also that it is not all for me to know, either, and I am certainly okay with that. It makes me wonder about how much freedom we have in the new earth to learn about all sorts of things without having time constraints :)