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There are two ways of judging someone. Wrongly judging someone to put them down in an way and then there is righteously judging out of love because you care for someone.
There is nothing wrong with any type of love, even tough love may it be, that encourages someone to live healthier. But the judging (negative judging) in your mind is not any healthier for you anymore than that extra weight on someone else. I can't be the first to point at you and say not to judge wrongly because I myself am ashamed to admit I have wrongly judged as well. And people who were bigger I judged too. But as I got older after going through much bullying and being a bully myself, I became wiser. I learned to treat people nicer and would never purposely judge someone to hurt them. But in my mind I was secretly out of habit (not to be mean) judging bigger people because I was afraid of becoming bigger myself.
Its easy to look at someone and be distrubed, annoyed, frustrated or angry at them. I even hear people say things like "how could someone let themselves get that big, why would you do that to yourself, its gross and unhealthy so why would you hurt yourself like that?". And I try to bring those questions down because I remember that our outer actions and apperances reveal what we are dealing with on the inside. Whether it be an emotional, mental heart/mind problem or a health condition. Everyonedeals with hurt, everyone goes through something. So while looking at someone always be curious about them. Ask questions in your mind as if you are asking that person questions out loud. "What are you going through, what are you hiding from everyone else, how are you really, what are you like, do you know Jesus?
This all brings me back to you saying that a healthier lifestyle should be encouraged AnnaBou. I agree because even through all the hurt or health problems someone may be dealing with they can't let those things hold them back. Its easier said than done. But at the end of the day becoming healthier, stronger and wiser, gaining courage is what NEEDS to be done.
There is nothing wrong with any type of love, even tough love may it be, that encourages someone to live healthier. But the judging (negative judging) in your mind is not any healthier for you anymore than that extra weight on someone else. I can't be the first to point at you and say not to judge wrongly because I myself am ashamed to admit I have wrongly judged as well. And people who were bigger I judged too. But as I got older after going through much bullying and being a bully myself, I became wiser. I learned to treat people nicer and would never purposely judge someone to hurt them. But in my mind I was secretly out of habit (not to be mean) judging bigger people because I was afraid of becoming bigger myself.
Its easy to look at someone and be distrubed, annoyed, frustrated or angry at them. I even hear people say things like "how could someone let themselves get that big, why would you do that to yourself, its gross and unhealthy so why would you hurt yourself like that?". And I try to bring those questions down because I remember that our outer actions and apperances reveal what we are dealing with on the inside. Whether it be an emotional, mental heart/mind problem or a health condition. Everyonedeals with hurt, everyone goes through something. So while looking at someone always be curious about them. Ask questions in your mind as if you are asking that person questions out loud. "What are you going through, what are you hiding from everyone else, how are you really, what are you like, do you know Jesus?
This all brings me back to you saying that a healthier lifestyle should be encouraged AnnaBou. I agree because even through all the hurt or health problems someone may be dealing with they can't let those things hold them back. Its easier said than done. But at the end of the day becoming healthier, stronger and wiser, gaining courage is what NEEDS to be done.
With the thread title alone, I think we can see how you feel, without any more justification in the actual post.
You're just young, looks are everything to your age group. Having tact and coming to understand people's individual/different situations more in depth, comes with time and prayer.
Remember, this is a society that teaches it's in bad taste to tease the people with weight problems.....yet thinner people are fair game.
Does that at all bug you?
Double standards are everywhere, avoid the hype of being PC, true thoughts overflow from the heart no matter what they teach us. If being overweight was sexy in pop culture, this guy would've been someone to be admired.
It's up to you to see the flaws in what you're fed, trash the things that don't fit scripture, and just try and figure out what it takes to be a decent, compassionate person.
You're just young, looks are everything to your age group. Having tact and coming to understand people's individual/different situations more in depth, comes with time and prayer.
Remember, this is a society that teaches it's in bad taste to tease the people with weight problems.....yet thinner people are fair game.
Does that at all bug you?
Double standards are everywhere, avoid the hype of being PC, true thoughts overflow from the heart no matter what they teach us. If being overweight was sexy in pop culture, this guy would've been someone to be admired.
It's up to you to see the flaws in what you're fed, trash the things that don't fit scripture, and just try and figure out what it takes to be a decent, compassionate person.