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Galahad

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Now see? Posting this picture in reference to atwhatcost was mean-spirited and unncessary.. :/
Okay. But you know blue, I've apologized twice to her. I've sent her rep. I've LIKEd some of her responses. Responded positively to several of her posts.

Then I find her spewing out all that stuff.

I'm done with her. She nails people so rudely all the time. She's rude. Period. I admit that I've been at times. But her postings are so dark and gloomy and negative.

It's like, Laugh. Lighten up. (Oh no...well, at least not in the fiery sense.) :eek: That's all.
 
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kaylagrl

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http://christianchat.com/miscellaneous/121490-what-i-need-know.html
That will take you to another thread that will lead you to Hypocrites thread.

Okay.

Those threads inspired me to do some soul searching.

I want to know how I can change my writing tone? I mean, do I seem mean spirited? Hateful? Angry? I hope not.

Any advice, any criticism will be greatly appreciated. Thank you.


So my advice to you is dont ask people for criticism,they will oblige you every time. It comes down to this,there are people you just arent going to get along with on here.They read you wrong somehow.I dont know you personally and reading your posts might help me some but I still dont truly know you.I posted in a thread that I agreed with capitol punishment,I was called everything but a lady. Doesn't change my opinion.I post what I believe.If someone makes a point that shows me I may be wrong I will admit that.But if I know what I believe is right and true then I could really care less what people say or what they call me.Thats their issue.I know who I am and some stranger in a chat room isn't going to tell me who I am.

I've never had an issue with you but I was raised in a sarcastic family so I pretty much get it.I am usually sarcastic back.I saw on a picture once "Im probably going to die from being sarcastic at the wrong time." Yep thats me. When I have an issue with someone I usually write them,personally and it usually clears up the issue.Like three of four people Ive written and we were able to clear up any misunderstanding. Id just say post what you believe,stand by it.If people dont get your sense of humor,explain and apologize. If they refuse your apology there's nothing more you can do.I dont let it bother me anymore.You wont get along with everyone.I have a guy on here,no matter what I say he tells me Im wrong.I actually agreed and liked something he said and he still called me anti Christ.My response? Get over yourself! Dont sweat it.Avoid those you dont mesh with and dont answer their posts. Thats how I handle it.
 

blue_ladybug

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Okay. But you know blue, I've apologized twice to her. I've sent her rep. I've LIKEd some of her responses. Responded positively to several of her posts.

Then I find her spewing out all that stuff.

I'm done with her. She nails people so rudely all the time. She's rude. Period. I admit that I've been at times. But her postings are so dark and gloomy and negative.

It's like, Laugh. Lighten up. (Oh no...well, at least not in the fiery sense.) :eek: That's all.

She has you on ignore. So it serves no purpose to respond to her, even though you know darn well she reads your posts and responds to them in kind.. Giving a person rep doesn't mean anything, and since she has you on ignore, she probably didn't receive the reps. Likewise, putting a like on someone's post only means that you enjoyed what they said. You apologized to her, now just leave her alone.. I'm tired of seeing you two bicker back and forth, and I'm sure others are, also.. :/
 

blue_ladybug

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So my advice to you is dont ask people for criticism,they will oblige you every time. It comes down to this,there are people you just arent going to get along with on here.They read you wrong somehow.I dont know you personally and reading your posts might help me some but I still dont truly know you.I posted in a thread that I agreed with capitol punishment,I was called everything but a lady. Doesn't change my opinion.I post what I believe.If someone makes a point that shows me I may be wrong I will admit that.But if I know what I believe is right and true then I could really care less what people say or what they call me.Thats their issue.I know who I am and some stranger in a chat room isn't going to tell me who I am.

I've never had an issue with you but I was raised in a sarcastic family so I pretty much get it.I am usually sarcastic back.I saw on a picture once "Im probably going to die from being sarcastic at the wrong time." Yep thats me. When I have an issue with someone I usually write them,personally and it usually clears up the issue.Like three of four people Ive written and we were able to clear up any misunderstanding. Id just say post what you believe,stand by it.If people dont get your sense of humor,explain and apologize. If they refuse your apology there's nothing more you can do.I dont let it bother me anymore.You wont get along with everyone.I have a guy on here,no matter what I say he tells me Im wrong.I actually agreed and liked something he said and he still called me anti Christ.My response? Get over yourself! Dont sweat it.Avoid those you dont mesh with and dont answer their posts. Thats how I handle it.

Nailed it... :)
 
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atwhatcost

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She has you on ignore. So it serves no purpose to respond to her, even though you know darn well she reads your posts and responds to them in kind.. Giving a person rep doesn't mean anything, and since she has you on ignore, she probably didn't receive the reps. Likewise, putting a like on someone's post only means that you enjoyed what they said. You apologized to her, now just leave her alone.. I'm tired of seeing you two bicker back and forth, and I'm sure others are, also.. :/
Hey, I ignored for three days. Nosiness got the better of me. There was a .00001% chance something changed.

You both have the same view of "apologizing."
And you "Haven't been to a church in over a decade."
That explains everything! :eek:

I'm fried!


http://christianchat.com/bible-discussion-forum/121255-bringing-bible-church.html
That's not apologizing. That's repeating the same thing over and over again. In his case, his form of apologizing is pretending it's a joke and then going to the venom again by judging before he knows all the facts, (or ignoring the facts.) Last time I'm not to be trusted because I thought the ten plagues had a logical biological course to them, even though it was still miraculous because Moses went to the Pharaoh and told him what was coming next back in the days when people really didn't understand cause and effect of upsetting the balance of nature. This time he simply ignores I cannot go to church because of my disabilities.

And you? You tend to stick up for anyone who mocks someone you don't like either. Your defense is "they're bullies" or "they're a cliche running the show." Not really. Most the time it's more about "they didn't like my way of doing things." And when you get tired of that it's "move on," as if that makes anything better. You see many "bicker" because that's what draws you in to begin with.

So "apologizing" really doesn't do a thing. Repenting does, but there was no repenting -- ever.

As long as both of you go for self-righteousness always, there is no chance of changing anything.

But for clarification's sake, yeah, I do see his likes and his Reps. And likes also mean "I read it" for you and me. lol