I thought Christians were supposed to be family. I thought they were supposed to be there for you. Almost every Christian I've met has let me down big time. My own family, who are all Christians, can't manage to not put so much weight on me. I have no friends and I don't know why. I'm so alone. I don't understand. I keep hearing about people who have best friends, ones that they can rely on and who want to be with them. Where are mine? Why doesn't anyone want to be my friend? It makes me feel ugly inside and out and I can't get past it. I don't know what's driving them away. My own father did something horrible to me and yet I'm supposed to be there for him? Everybody wants me to be that person who does things for them, who knows who they are, who gives them a shoulder to cry on or someone to talk to, but they want me to help myself and keep my mouth shut. I have learned more of what not to do by the adults in my life than what to do. I know no body's perfect, but to treat someone the way people have been treating me... how is that being a Christian? The moment I say or do something my family doesn't like, suddenly I should leave or it's my problem not theirs, but apparently they can say whatever they want to me. You know, not one of them has ever stepped up to protect me. I have to older siblings have just stood there and watched. When my dad did what he did before I was born and could protect myself like I've always done, he didn't think about me. I died because of what he did! I'm so angry because people keep treating me like I don't even matter. Where is the Christianity in that, huh?! I'm a people pleaser and I hate myself for it. I know GOD has been the one teaching me and helping me where everyone else has failed. I just wish that I knew how to let this go. If almost all the people I meet don't really change then how is there hope for me?
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Some people are lucky and are able to meet up with standards that are around others and become content with it, others have a harder time and end up being the outcast and most beaten down. It's just how it works within the social latter. As far as family goes, that's just an unfortunate biological thing that at least someone would end up being apart of. No family is perfect but then there's just disaster with some and it may just happen by chance that end up having... well, us.
I know I'm not helping much here. But do know that you're not alone. The past hurts and is so much harder to get rid of than to know what the future has in stored, which may be feared of as well since the past does in a way dictate the future (which is even now known as the present with what we do with it). The only one who can change is yourself and that can be a chore in of itself since we can't change the next person. There's hope as long as you see it and hang onto it, even within the darkest hours.
I know I'm not helping much here. But do know that you're not alone. The past hurts and is so much harder to get rid of than to know what the future has in stored, which may be feared of as well since the past does in a way dictate the future (which is even now known as the present with what we do with it). The only one who can change is yourself and that can be a chore in of itself since we can't change the next person. There's hope as long as you see it and hang onto it, even within the darkest hours.
Yeah, you're not alone and please know that you matter very much! It's hard to find someone who will show you love unconditionally like the bible teaches. But just learn on how to depend on God alone. People will come and go and some will fail you, but like you said, God teaches you and helps you when everyone else fails. 
That's why I love God so much! He never leaves and His love for us is the purest! I'm really sorry for all the hurt and things you've been through. Keep the faith and keep holding your head up high with your eyes on the Lord. If you ever need someone to talk to, please message me anytime!
-Tim
That's why I love God so much! He never leaves and His love for us is the purest! I'm really sorry for all the hurt and things you've been through. Keep the faith and keep holding your head up high with your eyes on the Lord. If you ever need someone to talk to, please message me anytime! -Tim
Just saying all that out loud (in a way) helped put it in perspective. I'm one of those people who just bottles hurt up without even knowing it and because I just unknowingly automatically keep myself from feeling the pain I assume that I have forgiven those people, but GOD always brings the Truth out, doesn't HE. I haven't gotten over it, but I getting there. We are all a constant work in progress, but there always needs to be progress. Can't just sit in it and pretend it's not there.
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Its funny you say you have learned what not to do by adults because that is exactly what I have always said. Growing up I didnt have good parents, my first family was extremely abusive and starved me and drugged me sexually abused me and verbally abused me they even treated me like a slave- literally I was a little kid younger than 8 years and a slave.
eventually I was taken away and put into a better home but even then my parents were mean they were not very good people and now even though i am 22 because of my medical issues I cannot live on my own so i live with my mom but she is a tyrant and child protective services has been called twice in the few years we have lived in here okc.
I could have easily adopted their ways and their language I could have easily become corupted but instead i took it as what not to do so when and if i become a father I will be a pretty darn good one. I also have no friends as I am trapped in my house 24/7 and i am the only Christian in my family.
But I still love them I would die for them not because they loved me first but because Jesus loves them just as much as me and he died for their sake and sees them as beautiful treasures so then I will too.
eventually I was taken away and put into a better home but even then my parents were mean they were not very good people and now even though i am 22 because of my medical issues I cannot live on my own so i live with my mom but she is a tyrant and child protective services has been called twice in the few years we have lived in here okc.
I could have easily adopted their ways and their language I could have easily become corupted but instead i took it as what not to do so when and if i become a father I will be a pretty darn good one. I also have no friends as I am trapped in my house 24/7 and i am the only Christian in my family.
But I still love them I would die for them not because they loved me first but because Jesus loves them just as much as me and he died for their sake and sees them as beautiful treasures so then I will too.
You are not alone my friend, I can understand your pain-in fact thats one of the reasons I went and still go through such things so I can understand and connect with such ppl who know the pain the sadness the lonelyness how you feel unloved worthless like no one cares believe me I know all this and more. But trust me when I say its all for a good reason and in the end will bless you