I Got a Job, but Received a Disappointing Reaction Never Expected

Hello One & All!

I hope all is well.

For some of you who don't know me, I have been out of a job for so long since I have been in community college. I have earned my associates degree in social work back in 2013. Afterward, I have transferred to a 4 year private college, changed majors from social work to psychology and will be earning my bachelors degree in psychology in May 2017. However, I do work-study when school's in session and I have been working on campus since 2014. The pay isn't much but at least the money goes towards gas, lunch and anything else I need, can't complain sounds good, right? Yes and No. I say no because when the school year's up, no one is on campus and I can't work on campus over the summer, so I have to get a job outside of school until school starts back up again.

Over the weekend, I just broke down. I broke down not because I don't have a job, there are other factors and dynamics that are going on as well which made me broke down. So, I called my best cousin and told her what was going on and she said that she's going to come visit me and she did visit me yesterday. We went to a few shopping strips and I filled out a few applications. I was told that a manager or a supervisor will contact me within a week or so from the stores I've applied to. Later, my cousin pulled up to a hotel to see if there are any job opportunities that are available for me. So, we walked into the lobby and the receptionist greeted me while my cousin sat down. I asked the receptionist if there are any job opportunities and she said yes and they're looking for a breakfast attendant (and for those who don't know, a breakfast attendant is someone who replenishes food for hotel guests and cleans). She handed me an application to fill out and I handed it back to her and waited while she and the manager went over the application and talked.

Next, the manager told me that I'm hired!!! I was so excited when she told me that. Although she said that she's looking for someone to work 2 days a week, I accepted the job. She told me to come in for training this week and I will be working from this Friday. My cousin was happy to hear that I got the job. At least it's better than doing nothing. After that, she took me to Chipotle for lunch and we went back to my house to hangout and catch up.

After she left, I was waiting on my dad to come home from my brother's house. I heard him coming in the house and he went straight to his room. I knocked on his door, and this was the conversation that happened:

Me: Hey Dad, guess what???
Dad: What???
Me: I got a job today!!!
Dad: Doing what??? You cleaning up dirty rooms???
Me: No!! I'm going to be working as a breakfast attendant.
Dad: Oh, you're going to be cleaning up behind people. You went to school for 4 years, have a degree, went back to school to get another degree and did all of that for what, working at a hotel? Which hotel are you working at?
Me: Milton Inn (Not a real hotel name)
Dad: F*** you!!! If you don't know what that means, then ask somebody what that means!!! You busted your hump at school just to work at a hotel!!! How much are you getting paid?
Me: Hourly wage.
Dad: Get out! Get out of my room!!!
*Pushes me out of his room, slams his door*

From there, I was so upset. I could not believe that my dad would react that way. That was the most unexpected reaction I have ever encountered from my dad. I wanted to cal my cousin so bad to tell her what he said, but I couldn't because my eyes were filled with so much water that I could cause a flood in my house lol. As of right now, I'm still in shock. I waited for him to leave for work so that I can go out, get something to eat and clear my mind.

I have no one to talk to. All of my friends are away on their vacations and I live over 200 miles away from my friends that I grew up with. I'm so hurt and I'm alone.

Hello One & All!

I hope all is well.

For some of you who don't know me, I have been out of a job for so long since I have been in community college. I have earned my associates degree in social work back in 2013. Afterward, I have transferred to a 4 year private college, changed majors from social work to psychology and will be earning my bachelors degree in psychology in May 2017. However, I do work-study when school's in session and I have been working on campus since 2014. The pay isn't much but at least the money goes towards gas, lunch and anything else I need, can't complain sounds good, right? Yes and No. I say no because when the school year's up, no one is on campus and I can't work on campus over the summer, so I have to get a job outside of school until school starts back up again.

Over the weekend, I just broke down. I broke down not because I don't have a job, there are other factors and dynamics that are going on as well which made me broke down. So, I called my best cousin and told her what was going on and she said that she's going to come visit me and she did visit me yesterday. We went to a few shopping strips and I filled out a few applications. I was told that a manager or a supervisor will contact me within a week or so from the stores I've applied to. Later, my cousin pulled up to a hotel to see if there are any job opportunities that are available for me. So, we walked into the lobby and the receptionist greeted me while my cousin sat down. I asked the receptionist if there are any job opportunities and she said yes and they're looking for a breakfast attendant (and for those who don't know, a breakfast attendant is someone who replenishes food for hotel guests and cleans). She handed me an application to fill out and I handed it back to her and waited while she and the manager went over the application and talked.

Next, the manager told me that I'm hired!!! I was so excited when she told me that. Although she said that she's looking for someone to work 2 days a week, I accepted the job. She told me to come in for training this week and I will be working from this Friday. My cousin was happy to hear that I got the job. At least it's better than doing nothing. After that, she took me to Chipotle for lunch and we went back to my house to hangout and catch up.

After she left, I was waiting on my dad to come home from my brother's house. I heard him coming in the house and he went straight to his room. I knocked on his door, and this was the conversation that happened:

Me: Hey Dad, guess what???
Dad: What???
Me: I got a job today!!!
Dad: Doing what??? You cleaning up dirty rooms???
Me: No!! I'm going to be working as a breakfast attendant.
Dad: Oh, you're going to be cleaning up behind people. You went to school for 4 years, have a degree, went back to school to get another degree and did all of that for what, working at a hotel? Which hotel are you working at?
Me: Milton Inn (Not a real hotel name)
Dad: F*** you!!! If you don't know what that means, then ask somebody what that means!!! You busted your hump at school just to work at a hotel!!! How much are you getting paid?
Me: Hourly wage.
Dad: Get out! Get out of my room!!!
*Pushes me out of his room, slams his door*

From there, I was so upset. I could not believe that my dad would react that way. That was the most unexpected reaction I have ever encountered from my dad. I wanted to cal my cousin so bad to tell her what he said, but I couldn't because my eyes were filled with so much water that I could cause a flood in my house lol. As of right now, I'm still in shock. I waited for him to leave for work so that I can go out, get something to eat and clear my mind.

I have no one to talk to. All of my friends are away on their vacations and I live over 200 miles away from my friends that I grew up with. I'm so hurt and I'm alone.

Oh bless you...sending you hugs. People can be so cruel and it's extra hard to take from those we expect support from. Jobs - any job is hard to find. My son is looking for a little job to supplement his 3 days at college and is willing to take anything but after a year of looking he has had no success so well done on helping support yourself. Your dad should be ashamed for dismissing this achievement. Your Father in Heaven will be proud of you and ultimately He is the one who matters.

God bless you in your new job, now dry your tears and show your dad what you are capable of! Go girl!

You are never alone,
If you were alone everyone that has replied to this wouldn't have, and we always have the Father.
It seems like your dad has something else going on that is possibly making him stressed and he found something to take it out on?
His reaction was not at all okay, I hope very much that things change with him. Keep up hope sweetie, you got a job and that is amazing no matter what anyone has to say!!!!!

I'm so sorry broken hearted. Many people have this expectation that going to college automatically lands you a dream job. I don't know why your Dad reacted this way, has he always been so harsh?

If he went straight to his room and his reaction was completely
unexpected. Then is it possible that there is something else going on with him.

Maybe he has something else on his mind and you just walked into the
firing line?

Is dad paying for college?

Thank you, Fenner. I appreciate it. My dad has never been to college, so he doesn't understand. No, he has never been so harsh but I think that he's just upset and frustrated.

Hi Sirk! No, my dad is not paying for college. My tuition's paid for in scholarships and financial aid along with student loans.

Thanks, Miri. I appreciate your input. He usually goes to my brother's house on the weekends and doesn't come back home until Monday and I'm usually in my room so when he comes back on Monday night, he always goes into his room and gets ready for work. He's just upset and frustrated at the fact that he's the only one working and he feels that I don't care at the fact that he pays all the bills and stuff because I don't have a job.

Hello One & All!

I hope all is well.

For some of you who don't know me, I have been out of a job for so long since I have been in community college. I have earned my associates degree in social work back in 2013. Afterward, I have transferred to a 4 year private college, changed majors from social work to psychology and will be earning my bachelors degree in psychology in May 2017. However, I do work-study when school's in session and I have been working on campus since 2014. The pay isn't much but at least the money goes towards gas, lunch and anything else I need, can't complain sounds good, right? Yes and No. I say no because when the school year's up, no one is on campus and I can't work on campus over the summer, so I have to get a job outside of school until school starts back up again.

Over the weekend, I just broke down. I broke down not because I don't have a job, there are other factors and dynamics that are going on as well which made me broke down. So, I called my best cousin and told her what was going on and she said that she's going to come visit me and she did visit me yesterday. We went to a few shopping strips and I filled out a few applications. I was told that a manager or a supervisor will contact me within a week or so from the stores I've applied to. Later, my cousin pulled up to a hotel to see if there are any job opportunities that are available for me. So, we walked into the lobby and the receptionist greeted me while my cousin sat down. I asked the receptionist if there are any job opportunities and she said yes and they're looking for a breakfast attendant (and for those who don't know, a breakfast attendant is someone who replenishes food for hotel guests and cleans). She handed me an application to fill out and I handed it back to her and waited while she and the manager went over the application and talked.

Next, the manager told me that I'm hired!!! I was so excited when she told me that. Although she said that she's looking for someone to work 2 days a week, I accepted the job. She told me to come in for training this week and I will be working from this Friday. My cousin was happy to hear that I got the job. At least it's better than doing nothing. After that, she took me to Chipotle for lunch and we went back to my house to hangout and catch up.

After she left, I was waiting on my dad to come home from my brother's house. I heard him coming in the house and he went straight to his room. I knocked on his door, and this was the conversation that happened:

Me: Hey Dad, guess what???
Dad: What???
Me: I got a job today!!!
Dad: Doing what??? You cleaning up dirty rooms???
Me: No!! I'm going to be working as a breakfast attendant.
Dad: Oh, you're going to be cleaning up behind people. You went to school for 4 years, have a degree, went back to school to get another degree and did all of that for what, working at a hotel? Which hotel are you working at?
Me: Milton Inn (Not a real hotel name)
Dad: F*** you!!! If you don't know what that means, then ask somebody what that means!!! You busted your hump at school just to work at a hotel!!! How much are you getting paid?
Me: Hourly wage.
Dad: Get out! Get out of my room!!!
*Pushes me out of his room, slams his door*

From there, I was so upset. I could not believe that my dad would react that way. That was the most unexpected reaction I have ever encountered from my dad. I wanted to cal my cousin so bad to tell her what he said, but I couldn't because my eyes were filled with so much water that I could cause a flood in my house lol. As of right now, I'm still in shock. I waited for him to leave for work so that I can go out, get something to eat and clear my mind.

I have no one to talk to. All of my friends are away on their vacations and I live over 200 miles away from my friends that I grew up with. I'm so hurt and I'm alone.