interracial relationships and marriages

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pandy72

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Just really wanted to know your guys opinions on interracial relationships. My mom is really strict about me not dating people of another race and says its because God forbids us to marry people that are a different race from you. She's my mother and I love her, but I can't think help but think that maybe she's wrong. I'm just so confused cause I did some research and I didn't find anything saying that God forbids us to marry a person of another race. Please please please help clarify this for me!
 
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There are a few places in the Old Testament that speak of God's people not intermarrying with specific races, but the important thing to ask yourself is WHY. We must always look at scripture, study it, and understand it's context before we can really know what it means.

For example, Deut 7:3-4 says: You shall not intermarry with them, giving your daughters to their sons or taking their daughters for your sons, for they would turn away your sons from following me, to serve other gods.

It's clear in this passage that the reason God did not want his people to marry into another race was because he didn't want the Israelites to be in danger of losing their faith in him.

We are in the New Testament now.

Galatians 3:28 says: There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free, there is no male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.

On marriage, this is what matters:

2 Cor 6:14 Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?

You are free in Christ to marry any man of any race as long as they are a believer. :)
 
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biscuit

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Just really wanted to know your guys opinions on interracial relationships. My mom is really strict about me not dating people of another race and says its because God forbids us to marry people that are a different race from you. She's my mother and I love her, but I can't think help but think that maybe she's wrong. I'm just so confused cause I did some research and I didn't find anything saying that God forbids us to marry a person of another race. Please please please help clarify this for me!
God doesn't have anything against racial marriages. As a matter of fact, one of Moses' wives was Black, and his sister Miriam had a problem with it and was severely punished for the hatred by God.
 
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[h=3]Numbers 12:1-16[/h]King James Version (KJV)

12 And Miriam and Aaron spake against Moses because of the Ethiopian woman whom he had married: for he had married an Ethiopian woman.
[SUP]2 [/SUP]And they said, Hath the Lord indeed spoken only by Moses? hath he not spoken also by us? And the Lord heard it.
[SUP]3 [/SUP](Now the man Moses was very meek, above all the men which were upon the face of the earth.)
[SUP]4 [/SUP]And the Lord spake suddenly unto Moses, and unto Aaron, and unto Miriam, Come out ye three unto the tabernacle of the congregation. And they three came out.
[SUP]5 [/SUP]And the Lord came down in the pillar of the cloud, and stood in the door of the tabernacle, and called Aaron and Miriam: and they both came forth.
[SUP]6 [/SUP]And he said, Hear now my words: If there be a prophet among you, I the Lord will make myself known unto him in a vision, and will speak unto him in a dream.
[SUP]7 [/SUP]My servant Moses is not so, who is faithful in all mine house.
[SUP]8 [/SUP]With him will I speak mouth to mouth, even apparently, and not in dark speeches; and the similitude of the Lord shall he behold: wherefore then were ye not afraid to speak against my servant Moses?
[SUP]9 [/SUP]And the anger of the Lord was kindled against them; and he departed.
[SUP]10 [/SUP]And the cloud departed from off the tabernacle; and, behold, Miriam became leprous, white as snow: and Aaron looked upon Miriam, and, behold, she was leprous.
[SUP]11 [/SUP]And Aaron said unto Moses, Alas, my lord, I beseech thee, lay not the sin upon us, wherein we have done foolishly, and wherein we have sinned.
[SUP]12 [/SUP]Let her not be as one dead, of whom the flesh is half consumed when he cometh out of his mother's womb.
[SUP]13 [/SUP]And Moses cried unto the Lord, saying, Heal her now, O God, I beseech thee.
[SUP]14 [/SUP]And the Lord said unto Moses, If her father had but spit in her face, should she not be ashamed seven days? let her be shut out from the camp seven days, and after that let her be received in again.
[SUP]15 [/SUP]And Miriam was shut out from the camp seven days: and the people journeyed not till Miriam was brought in again.
[SUP]16 [/SUP]And afterward the people removed from Hazeroth, and pitched in the wilderness of Paran.
 

penknight

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The Lord will give you the answer to your question if you ask Him. Personally, I think there's nothing wrong with it, so long you're not unequally yoked with a non believer. Any at rate, ask God to send you a husband that's ideal for you, which may time, so be patient.
 
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biscuit

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Question: "What does the Bible say about interracial marriage?"

Answer:
The Old Testament Law commanded the Israelites not to engage in interracial marriage (Deuteronomy 7:3-4). However, the reason for this was not primarily racial in nature. Rather, it was religious. The reason God commanded against interracial marriage was that people of other races were idolaters and worshippers of false gods. The Israelites would be led astray from God if they intermarried with idol worshippers, pagans, or heathens. A similar principle is laid out in the New Testament, but at a much different level: “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?” (2 Corinthians 6:14). Just as the Israelites (believers in the one true God) were commanded not to marry idolaters, so Christians (believers in the one true God) are commanded not to marry unbelievers. To answer this question specifically, no, the Bible does not say that interracial marriage is wrong.

As Martin Luther King noted, a person should be judged by his or her character, not by skin color. There is no place in the life of the Christian for favoritism based on race (James 2:1-10). When selecting a mate, a Christian should always first find out if the potential spouse is born again by faith in Jesus Christ (John 3:3-5). Faith in Christ, not skin color, is the biblical standard for choosing a spouse. Interracial marriage is not a matter of right or wrong, but of wisdom, discernment, and prayer.

The only reason interracial marriage should be considered carefully is the difficulties a mixed-race couple may experience because of others who have a hard time accepting them. Many interracial couples experience discrimination and ridicule, sometimes even from their own families. Some interracial couples experience difficulties when their children have skin tones of different shades from the parents and/or siblings. An interracial couple needs to take these things into consideration and be prepared for them, should they decide to marry. Again, though, the only biblical restriction placed on whom a Christian may marry is whether the other person is a member of the body of Christ.



 
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pandy72

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Thanks guys!
 
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We've (the World) all moved on from that old world racist hysteria.

My Grandfathers fought the Japanese in WW2, and they (the Japanese) tortured Australians and they bombed Darwin. (More bombs dropped on Darwin than were dropped on Pearl Harbor).

But I have a half Japanese nephew.

People get over it.
 

Jruiz

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I'm sorry but that is so offensive ...there is a lot of people who think like that..honestly honestly does your mom realy think god doesn't want us to mix races?? Or is this something that had been passed down to her, something she was taught...I know it says not to mix your seed but that means if your a christian don't marry an atheist ..ask where it says not to mix races?? Lol silly.
 
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biscuit

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I'm sorry but that is so offensive ...there is a lot of people who think like that..honestly honestly does your mom realy think god doesn't want us to mix races?? Or is this something that had been passed down to her, something she was taught...I know it says not to mix your seed but that means if your a christian don't marry an atheist ..ask where it says not to mix races?? Lol silly.
I have met many ladies like Pandy whose life is on hold because of a parent(s) objection because of the other person's race. Many of these women are not strong enough to rebuke their parents and marry the love of their dreams. Instead, they are likely to marry someone they have lesser feelings for and have an unhappy marriage, blaming the parents. I know a mix couple (b&w) who were married and the daughter went against her parents' wishes and they REJECTED her from the family. She is and has been in pain since the marriage.
 
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pandy72

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I have met many ladies like Pandy whose life is on hold because of a parent(s) objection because of the other person's race. Many of these women are not strong enough to rebuke their parents and marry the love of their dreams. Instead, they are likely to marry someone they have lesser feelings for and have an unhappy marriage, blaming the parents. I know a mix couple (b&w) who were married and the daughter went against her parents' wishes and they REJECTED her from the family. She is and has been in pain since the marriage.
The reason why I'm asking is cause I am currently dating a "white" guy and I'm Asian. My mom came up with this idea of that he's just going to cheat on me and not only that but plot to kill me. I honestly did not purposely go out looking for a white guy to date to make her mad. I just started talking to him and I don't know, I just fell in love with his goofy self. But my mom is just stuck on the idea of him being this horrid person and won't even give him a chance. So if you guys have time, please pray for God to open her eyes and make her more understanding.
 

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Interracial?
Aren't we all from Adam and Eve?...usually called the 'human' race?
 
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biscuit

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The reason why I'm asking is cause I am currently dating a "white" guy and I'm Asian. My mom came up with this idea of that he's just going to cheat on me and not only that but plot to kill me. I honestly did not purposely go out looking for a white guy to date to make her mad. I just started talking to him and I don't know, I just fell in love with his goofy self. But my mom is just stuck on the idea of him being this horrid person and won't even give him a chance. So if you guys have time, please pray for God to open her eyes and make her more understanding.
Pandy, in my younger days I dated & lived with this Asian woman (Japanese) and her mother was very similar to yours, and my girlfriend's mom couldn't handle the notion that I was living with her daughter. She put all types of things in her head and I notice my girlfriend was changing for the worst. So I ask her point blank: who will it be, your mom or me?? She wouldn't answer so several weeks later I packed and left.
 
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ww_21

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I face the same issue as you do however my personal opinion is that- love is love who cares about race? If two people truly love eachother, nothing else should matter. Just my two cents
 
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biscuit

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I face the same issue as you do however my personal opinion is that- love is love who cares about race? If two people truly love eachother, nothing else should matter. Just my two cents
I think the bigger problem is looking for approval of parent(s) on one or both sides. Believe it is more prevalent among women than men. If I dated a Latina and my mother start disapproving of it, I probably would have told my mother to "take a hike" or mind her own business."
 
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I think the bigger problem is looking for approval of parent(s) on one or both sides. Believe it is more prevalent among women than men. If I dated a Latina and my mother start disapproving of it, I probably would have told my mother to "take a hike" or mind her own business."

I am an Indian girl and I am hopelessly in love with a Canadian. It's not easy, but if people disapprove because of our races my parents included, they can do as they please. I am not giving him up because they have a problem with his race of all things.
 
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biscuit

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I am an Indian girl and I am hopelessly in love with a Canadian. It's not easy, but if people disapprove because of our races my parents included, they can do as they please. I am not giving him up because they have a problem with his race of all things.
That's what I like to hear. Too many just cave in to parent(s). I am proud of you.
 
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pandy72

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I just feel so hopeless right now. I really want to be with him. Like so so bad, but my family keeps telling me that I'm just falling for earthly things. They tell me that maybe if I get older I'll be able to make good decisions cause right now I'm just young and stupid. I've never done anything stupid that I regret horribly. I use my head and obviously if he was a bad guy I wouldn't had even continued to talk to him.
 
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Spokenpassage

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I just feel so hopeless right now. I really want to be with him. Like so so bad, but my family keeps telling me that I'm just falling for earthly things. They tell me that maybe if I get older I'll be able to make good decisions cause right now I'm just young and stupid. I've never done anything stupid that I regret horribly. I use my head and obviously if he was a bad guy I wouldn't had even continued to talk to him.
Do they know that in the bible that Jesus said its wrong to judge people? For them to believe that this person is bad without knowing him is considered judgemental. God doesn't approve that. If they don't know his heart, they have no right to judge his character.