Men Discussing Issues and Struggles Related to Christian Men

Greetings;

As we all know, we should forgive those who trespass against us. My problem is whenever I see those particular persons, it stirs up the memories of what the trespass was. I do forgive them, and the last thing I want to do is start an issue, but I feel the best course of action on my part is to stay away from these individuals. It is extremely hard to let this go. I guess I am like an old mule: I dont forget. Dont get me wrong, I would not wish harm on them, but because of these individuals, I do my best from associating with anyone associated with them.

As you can gather by my icon, you can imagine what my former occupation was. I retired 12 years ago.

I'll talk about one of my issues here, because this is mainly men talking here, but also because I don't mind if anyone else reads my issues. I have nothing to hide
I married an unbeliever , so I'm in a difficult place for a Christian. She said she's going to divorce me, and I believe she will. Until then, I pray for her as my wife.
I came to Christ later my life, after I already had children with two different women, neither of whom I married. The last women became Christian and joined a church that spent weeks praying for me until I was saved. I just feel really skittish right now, because I don't want anyone to think I'm trying to get with any other woman, but I also don't want to be rude. Just my own stuff, I know, and I'm sure I don't communicate anything wrong.
I know I'm profoundly different now. Before, I was bold with women, and had no problem with fornication, one night stands, or whatever. After I was saved, I became very shy and bashful around women, and I knew it was because the very core of me had changed.

I am glad you have come to Christ to be a brother in the family of God. My heart goes out to you. I wish I had something helpful, significant, or life changing to say.

All I can do is encourage you to draw closer to God's Son, Jesus, and seek His wisdom and strength in this difficult time you are in.

You have my compassion.

Had a similar experience in my conversion, though I wasn't married to her (thank goodness). I'm attracted to completely different things than I was before salvation.