Is looking at another woman and admiring their beauty as some say it is, adultry? Sorry im
a new Christian. I have been going to church for nearly three years now, I’ve done the alpha course and i was baptised a few mo the ago. I am going to study ministry this year as well, in hope it will help me understand more and also so I can tell others the word as well.
I look at beauty and admire beauty like a painting or statue....the difference is most people don't lust to have sex with art work.
Your husband asking your friend to pick up things while wearing a short skirt crosses a line....it's like he wants his own personal strip tease or imagining it in his head (why is she wearing it again? Would it pass dress code for schools?).,,, he needs some serious male mentoring from a mature Christian man.
It's not something you can fix. Its something he has to want to fix and change about himself to more like Christ and less like the world.
Keeping y'all in prayer and learning more about the Bible is great..,make sure you don't "go into ministry" too soon and burn out.
.the Bible says a fruit tree is to be planted and allowed to grow for 3 years before they are allowed to make fruit (pluck of blossoms so they spend time sinking deep roots instead of waste energy trying to make fruit) 4 year make fruit but don't eat. Its the 5th year that harvest is allowed.
We are fruit trees and too often people try and force people to have fruit instead of encouraging them to sink their roots deep into Christ and His gospel.
God has to heal and teach us His ways and tear down the lies we believed because the world taught us them. That all takes time.