Regret....We all have it. What are a few regrets you have?

Not saying sorry. Not saying goodbye. No closure sucks.

Oh, Tinkerbell I agree 100% with you!

I agree! I have had "friends" that have done this to me... always makes me feel horrible. For a really long time, too. But time heals all things! I just think when there's no closure, it takes longer.

Exactly, but saying goodbye sucks too. Could be worse than no closure. Which one is worse for you?

Hmmm...both are bad. However I think when people just abandon you, use you, etc. And simply walk away so therefore no closure. It's worse.

When you think you love someone - and they are not who u think they are

lets see... *thinks*

i started playing the violin as a kid. i regret not starting on cello, but i can still play. i just need to get a cello -_- hehe

i regret listening to a certain opinion when i was 13 yrs old. it shattered my self-esteem, and i spent too many years walking around wounded. BUT!!! thank God He has healed me!

i've only had one relationship. although i learned A LOT about myself and the opposite sex, i regret the relationship lasting so long. after we broke up, i felt those years were wasted. BUT!! (lol) i clearly see how God intervened

Wow, Tinkerbell and JeniBean, you guys are really getting at my heart this morning! This is SOOO much the stuff I've had to deal with, especially in the last few years, and -especially- with internet friends, who seem particularly fond of leaving without saying goodbye. I think the internet environment just makes it really easy for people to do that, sadly. My real-life situations with this tend to involve extended family members who have dysfunctional ways of interacting with everyone, and I just end up getting the very painful end of that bargain.

I have experienced different kinds of goodbyes...the articulate goodbye, the sudden goodbye, and the mysteriously silent goodbye. By far, the worst of these to get over is the person who just leaves. It creates worry. Not just this, but the person who just leaves frequently decides not to communicate about it at all, creating a "shut you out" effect, leaving you wondering, "What did I do?" to create the situation, or to make that person leave in the first place.

I don't know if the other party realizes how painful this is. I don't know if they're just lazy or avoidant, or what the issue is. I do know that it is a horrible way for people to handle things.

You should -always- say goodbye. No closure is the worst.

Yes indeed!

Jeni, I have learned through the years that the other person is selfish and simply doesn't care about your feelings. YES leaves deep wounds. Especially for the child it happens too. Sadly the world has gotten selfish and those of us who are caring and loving tend to get impacted by their selfishness the most.

Yeah its really the worst and I feel bad about it but what if he deserved it for being a pain in the ______?

It does leave deep wounds, I agree. <3 Have you, in your experience, found anything that really helps with this? Any special verses, or thought processes or anything? We might as well post solutions, if we've got 'em!

I wish so much I had gone to college and gotten a degree and a good job. I'm a single mom with three kids at home going to school and make less than $25,000 a year. But I sure didn't know this was going to happen either. One the other hand, if I hadn't married the man I did I would not have had the 3 beautiful children I have.

Out of 25 years of marriage, the only thing I can think of that I wish I could do over is not treat my husband the way I did when I had been a stay at home mom and had to go back to work. My dream was to stay home (my mom couldn't) and my husband got sick and couldn't work so I had to. I know it was probably the straw that broke the camel's back because he was constantly quitting and losing jobs for years and it was a miracle I did get to stay home, so when my dream ended I was not a very nice person to live with for a long time.

The number of regrets I have......there's a lot of them.

I feel the worst of my regrets encompasses a 7 to 8-year period, ending earlier, this year, in 2015.

They ended? That's a good thing... right? I hope so?

I don't entertain regrets. 'Tis better to ask yourself why you should move on rather than why you should hold on.

You need to stop being so wise, it's making the rest of us look bad. A new insight for sure!

Well, what I meant is how I lived in that span of time. It contradicted what I was trying to do....and, as much as I would like to say what caused that whole 7-8 year thing.....I believe I should keep that to myself, as I feel that it would do no good, if not be even more embarrassing. Seriously, no number of facepalms could even begin to be enough to express exactly how incredibly dumb it was.


Still, this kinda does make me wanna laugh at it, a little. For like the first time, ever.