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savedandhopeful

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I have noticed in the last few weeks that I feel starved for God, for his word, in my spare time I only want to read scripture, watch sermon videos, do bible studies. I don't know why, or what has changed in me, but I do know that I like it. My husband does not understand it, and I think it is bothersome to him. I want to find a happy balance between doing what he wants, and doing what I like...but I just feel such a pull towards God. How do I do this? How can I feed my soul, but still be there for him. He wants to sit and watch shows like The Supranos, I have no interest in that.He is upset because I won't watch with him. I almost feel like he could be jealous of God. Which is just sad ....IMO
Am I being a bad wife because I choose not to watch the type of stuff he does?
 
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J-Kay

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I have noticed in the last few weeks that I feel starved for God, for his word, in my spare time I only want to read scripture, watch sermon videos, do bible studies. I don't know why, or what has changed in me, but I do know that I like it. My husband does not understand it, and I think it is bothersome to him. I want to find a happy balance between doing what he wants, and doing what I like...but I just feel such a pull towards God. How do I do this? How can I feed my soul, but still be there for him. He wants to sit and watch shows like The Supranos, I have no interest in that.He is upset because I won't watch with him. I almost feel like he could be jealous of God. Which is just sad ....IMO
Am I being a bad wife because I choose not to watch the type of stuff he does?

Oh, gosh I have been there where you are now. I really know your heart
and I relive it as I read your post. I really can't tell you how to deal with the
issue because we have different husbands. Oh, how I would just cringe
when Saturday night live came on, and my family watched it. I prayed and
prayed. Every home is different, every marriage. I believe you are right
our husbands not understanding us and the time we want to spend with
the Lord. I can only say 'pray' God will show you what He would have you
do. If your husband is working, can you spend that time with God then? It
takes patience on our part to please our husband and still give God the time
we want to be with HIM. Should you have to watch what he does ? Oh, gosh,
again that is difficult to answer. I remember so many of the 70 and 80's
shows, and I could not stand knowing what my family was watching.
Husband was head of house, so I had no say. But, today, with the really bad
shows on, my husband knows I can't tolerate cursing etc, and he will change
the channel.
God bless you and I will be so glad to hear what advice the others have to
share with you. I will be praying for you, okay ? God be with you ~ Oh, and
don't let up praying for your husband.... so he may be won over to the Lord
by seeing the Godliness in you. ~
 
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zaoman32

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I have noticed in the last few weeks that I feel starved for God, for his word, in my spare time I only want to read scripture, watch sermon videos, do bible studies. I don't know why, or what has changed in me, but I do know that I like it. My husband does not understand it, and I think it is bothersome to him. I want to find a happy balance between doing what he wants, and doing what I like...but I just feel such a pull towards God. How do I do this? How can I feed my soul, but still be there for him. He wants to sit and watch shows like The Supranos, I have no interest in that.He is upset because I won't watch with him. I almost feel like he could be jealous of God. Which is just sad ....IMO
Am I being a bad wife because I choose not to watch the type of stuff he does?
Absolutely not. However it makes you uncomfortable watching them, I would suggest telling him exactly that, and make it very clear "If you want to watch it, fine. I can't stop you, but don't expect me to watch it with you". See if there is anyway the two of you can compromise and find something else to watch together that you'll both enjoy. You'll both need to compromise on some level. Keep in mind serving God also means honoring your husband. Be respectful and loving towards him at all times, anything rude or condescending will not help. Find that medium of loving your husband without compromising your focus on God and those little tugs the Holy Spirit is giving you, such as the show you mentioned.
 

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I want to find a happy balance between doing what he wants, and doing what I like...but I just feel such a pull towards God. How do I do this? How can I feed my soul, but still be there for him.
Revelations 3
[h=3]The Message to the Church in Sardis


3 “Write this letter to the angel of the church in Sardis. This is the message from the one who has the sevenfold Spirit of God and the seven stars:


“I know all the things you do, and that you have a reputation for being alive—but you are dead. 2 Wake up! Strengthen what little remains, for even what is left is almost dead. I find that your actions do not meet the requirements of my God. 3 Go back to what you heard and believed at first; hold to it firmly. Repent and turn to me again. If you don’t wake up, I will come to you suddenly, as unexpected as a thief.


4 “Yet there are some in the church in Sardis who have not soiled their clothes with evil. They will walk with me in white, for they are worthy. 5 All who are victorious will be clothed in white. I will never erase their names from the Book of Life, but I will announce before my Father and his angels that they are mine.


6 “Anyone with ears to hear must listen to the Spirit and understand what he is saying to the churches.

[/h]No one who lives in Christ will not be persecuted... Our Lord and savior was persecuted and rejected by this world, yet we expect to be accepted... I am struggling with something extremely similar, instead of my husband :p mine is with a dad who calls himself christian yet acts nothing of the sort... A family who thinks they are Mormon and and disappointing in me for getting baptized today...

I say these things not so you go, wow his life is much harder... Why should I complain.. No, I tell you these things because I want you to know, God loves you... God loves you...
 
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Elisheba

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Hi, just registered and yours is the first thread I've read. I know what you mean about feeling starved for God, it's like the strongest desire one can have, you can't get enough, it's often scary to me because I feel there isn't time for all I want to know of Him. It's a tough thing when you have these desires and your mate isn't on the same page. I believe there is jealousy involved, be careful not to lose your yearning, it can happen, I know that all too well. I don't think you are being a bad wife at all, if your husband knew what God's word says about you as his wife and your role in his life, he would be quite pleased with you. According to the word there is no better woman on earth than a Godly woman. Take good care...
 
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I remember so well! Being unequally yoked, even to the most wonderful man, is a hard road to walk. I found it was best to say as little about it as possible. There was no doubt that he was jealous of my time spent with the Lord.

There was a TV program I couldn't tolerate. We talked it over and he felt it was so important to him he had to see it. I simply left the house. I think by simply acting on my principles it helped him see Christ that making a fuss wouldn't have accomplished.

One day a man sang the Lord's Prayer on TV so beautifully that he heard the words. I answered a question he had, later, about God that made him say "Oh!". He died a Christian.