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From personal studies i have discovered that so many people confuse those that they like and those that they love for the same thing. But in my humble opinion, i believe that they are two different things that people do see with the same perception and the truth is, they can be very deceiving sometimes. For me, here is how i know if what someone professes to have or what they say people have for them is truly love or they just like the person. You cannot separate yourself from someone you love. It takes a lot of effort to do so. But for someone you like, the moment the person stops doing those things you like about Him/Her or those things they do that make you like them, you can easily move on without much thought or regret.
Sometimes also, you may develop love for someone you like but it is hardly mutual because the other person was actually not meant to love you but to like you or you are not meant to love the person but to like him/her and it becomes a great problem in the relationship because one of the partner becomes more devoted to the relationship than the other, investing more time and effort to make it work while the other person cares less. This actually is not something anybody wants to be involved in. I believe a lot people can actually relate to this because they've been there at one time or are presently in it. And that's bad news because the end surely would not be pleasant.
This is what i believe a relationship should be like, the way it should begin and on what i believe it should be founded
Firstly, I believe nobody can actually have a successful relationship without being a christian and when i say a christian i mean a christian. A bible believing and practicing one..Not a fan of Christ but a follower who obviously is a Disciple that is living each day with the conciousness of who He/She is in this earth. The reason i say this, is because we humans are mean and selfish whether we accept it or not. This is the very thing that is in our nature. We are interested in a thing or in whatever we are into because of what we can get from it. And most of the things we do starts from us. What we like, what we want, what we can tolerate and so forth. It is always the Me, Myself and I kind of life that we live. This is meanness and selfishness. And the bitter truth is, there is no way we can succeed in getting rid of this meanness and selfishness without the help of an Authourity greater than ours. And that Authourity is Jesus Christ. Believe me all that have truly summited to this Authourity can testify of the radical change that they experienced when they did, and i can tell you that it is fun getting rid of the meanness and selfishness that is in us. You become so selfless and you would love the beauty of it.
Secondly, after becoming a christian or you are already a christian and have submitted to the Authourity of Christ, i also believe no believer in Christ Jesus should date for fun. It is so unscriptural and destructive that it has lead to the ruin of so many. I believe a believer should date only with the intention of settling down with the person he/she is dating. So if you are not yet ready for settling down, why date? that to me is like setting up yourself for a fall and a lot of people actually fell because of this. To me there is no fun in dating for the sake of dating, am yet to see anyone who won an award for doing so and the truth is, it is the quickest way of commiting that which the Bible clearing kicks against.
Thirdly i believe in God choosing a partner for a believer. That a believer should seek God's face for a partner before going into any relationship. Now i know a lot of people would disagree with me on this one but the truth is, it is heretic to say that God has stopped choosing a partner for His Children since after the fall of Adam. That Adam indirectly blamed God for his mistake when he said "the wife that You gave me made me do it". It is true that Adam indeed blamed God indirectly but this does not mean that God still does not choose a partner for His kids. Some even went further to say that, that's why the Book of Proverbs says "whoever finds a wife have found a good thing. That God does not want to be blamed anymore for His choice of a partner for anyone that's why He left it for us to find. This also is still heretic regardless of who has said or preached it. It may strike you to know that God choosed a partner for Isaac and this was obviously after the fall of man. Isaac didn't just go looking for any partner that he could find. His partner was actually cheerypicked by the Most High God.
Truly the servant of Abraham in the Bible went with the intention of finding a partner for Isaac but they didn't just go looking for any beautiful lady they could find but that which God has "appointed" for Isaac. Let's consult the Bible before going any further and see the prayer the servant prayed when he went to search for a partner for his master's son..Genesis 24:12-14....And he said( Abraham's servant) O Lord God of my master Abraham, I pray thee, send me good speed this day, and show kindness unto my master Abraham, Behold, I stand here by the well of water and the daughters of the men of the city come out to draw water. And let it come to pass, that the damsel to whom i shall say, let down thy pitcher, i pray thee, that i may drink and she shall say, Drink and i will give thy camels drink also, let the same be She that thou hast "appointed" for thy servant Isaac and thereby shall i know that thou hast shown kindness unto my master" Mark the word "appointed" in the verse. It is translated in the NIV translation as chosen...meaning, let her be the one You have chosen for thy servant Isaac. We all can attest to the fact that this happened after Adam indirectly blamed God for chosing a partner for Him.
Finally this is one of the funniest things i have seen in this 21th century. Ladies ( some guys still do it) going to a Pastor with the names of maybe four men that are coming after them that the pastor should pray and see the one that God would choose out of them. This is so funny in my humble opinion because, what if God's choice is not in any of them. Most of the time they already have interest in one of them and are just waiting for God to confirm their choice for them. The Pastor obviously would tell them to go and pray also and they go already having one in their heart and after listening to their own imagination they come back saying they've heard God's voice. Goosh! This is 21th century and we should act as people actually living in it. It is actually the century of knowledge and most people are still acting ignorantly. Lets take Isaac's example for instance, he was ready and has come of age so what did they do? They just prayed a simple prayer, lead me to the person You have chosen. so simple. He did'nt have to bring so many names to God and he obviously was not in any relationship until he was ready. So there was no room for him to be confused, so when it was time, a simple prayer was just made...Lead me to that which You have chosen. This is how every believer should pray, when you are ready to start dating someone you want to settle with, just ask God in a short line prayer. You do not have to fast or anything. Just tell Him..It's time Lord, i need my man or my girl and that's it. Believe me, that's all you need to do and when you finally meet this person, you will find fulfillment in him/her. It would be someone that would help fulfill your life's vision.
Truly if christians should imbibe this mindset it would save them the whole struggle of trail and error. The whole struggle of dating two to three persons at the same time not knowing the one that would work out. You don't date to know the one that would work out rather you date to make that which God has either shown or told you to get yourself involved in, to work out fine for you and God surely will be with you in it.
This is my take on relationship. Please if you read, comment because i want it to be interative and also it is opened to constructive criticism. But if peradventure you hear God's voice through it, then it means God wants you to accept it and make it your standard for relationship.You can only escape the arms of those who confuse their likeness for you as love and save others that you confuse your likeness for as love by seeking God's Choice.It is neccessary to seek His face before stepping in. God bless You
Sometimes also, you may develop love for someone you like but it is hardly mutual because the other person was actually not meant to love you but to like you or you are not meant to love the person but to like him/her and it becomes a great problem in the relationship because one of the partner becomes more devoted to the relationship than the other, investing more time and effort to make it work while the other person cares less. This actually is not something anybody wants to be involved in. I believe a lot people can actually relate to this because they've been there at one time or are presently in it. And that's bad news because the end surely would not be pleasant.
This is what i believe a relationship should be like, the way it should begin and on what i believe it should be founded
Firstly, I believe nobody can actually have a successful relationship without being a christian and when i say a christian i mean a christian. A bible believing and practicing one..Not a fan of Christ but a follower who obviously is a Disciple that is living each day with the conciousness of who He/She is in this earth. The reason i say this, is because we humans are mean and selfish whether we accept it or not. This is the very thing that is in our nature. We are interested in a thing or in whatever we are into because of what we can get from it. And most of the things we do starts from us. What we like, what we want, what we can tolerate and so forth. It is always the Me, Myself and I kind of life that we live. This is meanness and selfishness. And the bitter truth is, there is no way we can succeed in getting rid of this meanness and selfishness without the help of an Authourity greater than ours. And that Authourity is Jesus Christ. Believe me all that have truly summited to this Authourity can testify of the radical change that they experienced when they did, and i can tell you that it is fun getting rid of the meanness and selfishness that is in us. You become so selfless and you would love the beauty of it.
Secondly, after becoming a christian or you are already a christian and have submitted to the Authourity of Christ, i also believe no believer in Christ Jesus should date for fun. It is so unscriptural and destructive that it has lead to the ruin of so many. I believe a believer should date only with the intention of settling down with the person he/she is dating. So if you are not yet ready for settling down, why date? that to me is like setting up yourself for a fall and a lot of people actually fell because of this. To me there is no fun in dating for the sake of dating, am yet to see anyone who won an award for doing so and the truth is, it is the quickest way of commiting that which the Bible clearing kicks against.
Thirdly i believe in God choosing a partner for a believer. That a believer should seek God's face for a partner before going into any relationship. Now i know a lot of people would disagree with me on this one but the truth is, it is heretic to say that God has stopped choosing a partner for His Children since after the fall of Adam. That Adam indirectly blamed God for his mistake when he said "the wife that You gave me made me do it". It is true that Adam indeed blamed God indirectly but this does not mean that God still does not choose a partner for His kids. Some even went further to say that, that's why the Book of Proverbs says "whoever finds a wife have found a good thing. That God does not want to be blamed anymore for His choice of a partner for anyone that's why He left it for us to find. This also is still heretic regardless of who has said or preached it. It may strike you to know that God choosed a partner for Isaac and this was obviously after the fall of man. Isaac didn't just go looking for any partner that he could find. His partner was actually cheerypicked by the Most High God.
Truly the servant of Abraham in the Bible went with the intention of finding a partner for Isaac but they didn't just go looking for any beautiful lady they could find but that which God has "appointed" for Isaac. Let's consult the Bible before going any further and see the prayer the servant prayed when he went to search for a partner for his master's son..Genesis 24:12-14....And he said( Abraham's servant) O Lord God of my master Abraham, I pray thee, send me good speed this day, and show kindness unto my master Abraham, Behold, I stand here by the well of water and the daughters of the men of the city come out to draw water. And let it come to pass, that the damsel to whom i shall say, let down thy pitcher, i pray thee, that i may drink and she shall say, Drink and i will give thy camels drink also, let the same be She that thou hast "appointed" for thy servant Isaac and thereby shall i know that thou hast shown kindness unto my master" Mark the word "appointed" in the verse. It is translated in the NIV translation as chosen...meaning, let her be the one You have chosen for thy servant Isaac. We all can attest to the fact that this happened after Adam indirectly blamed God for chosing a partner for Him.
Finally this is one of the funniest things i have seen in this 21th century. Ladies ( some guys still do it) going to a Pastor with the names of maybe four men that are coming after them that the pastor should pray and see the one that God would choose out of them. This is so funny in my humble opinion because, what if God's choice is not in any of them. Most of the time they already have interest in one of them and are just waiting for God to confirm their choice for them. The Pastor obviously would tell them to go and pray also and they go already having one in their heart and after listening to their own imagination they come back saying they've heard God's voice. Goosh! This is 21th century and we should act as people actually living in it. It is actually the century of knowledge and most people are still acting ignorantly. Lets take Isaac's example for instance, he was ready and has come of age so what did they do? They just prayed a simple prayer, lead me to the person You have chosen. so simple. He did'nt have to bring so many names to God and he obviously was not in any relationship until he was ready. So there was no room for him to be confused, so when it was time, a simple prayer was just made...Lead me to that which You have chosen. This is how every believer should pray, when you are ready to start dating someone you want to settle with, just ask God in a short line prayer. You do not have to fast or anything. Just tell Him..It's time Lord, i need my man or my girl and that's it. Believe me, that's all you need to do and when you finally meet this person, you will find fulfillment in him/her. It would be someone that would help fulfill your life's vision.
Truly if christians should imbibe this mindset it would save them the whole struggle of trail and error. The whole struggle of dating two to three persons at the same time not knowing the one that would work out. You don't date to know the one that would work out rather you date to make that which God has either shown or told you to get yourself involved in, to work out fine for you and God surely will be with you in it.
This is my take on relationship. Please if you read, comment because i want it to be interative and also it is opened to constructive criticism. But if peradventure you hear God's voice through it, then it means God wants you to accept it and make it your standard for relationship.You can only escape the arms of those who confuse their likeness for you as love and save others that you confuse your likeness for as love by seeking God's Choice.It is neccessary to seek His face before stepping in. God bless You