What's Wrong with Being Quiet Anyway?

I'm a pretty quiet person, and shy until I get to know someone. Then I have no problem with one on one conversations or small group discussions. Even so, I'm still a really quiet person. I do a lot of thinking, maybe too much. Yet, I'd rather think things through then not. Some people seem to think I just need to open up more or get out more. I get where they are coming from, I mean, too much isolation can lead to other problems. Most times though I like to be alone, because I can be myself which is quiet. I actually like to be around people if they don't expect me to speak a lot. I like to observe and really listen to what's being said, then before I respond sometimes it takes me a day or to think or pray about the response, but that doesn't seem quick enough for some who need an immediate response. I've done that by the way and nine times out of ten I've regretted the responses or more like reactions I've given later and I need to repent. Just because I'm quiet doesn't mean I want to hurt someone either. It seems to me that I really get a bad rap for being who I am, quiet. Despite this, I've come to be more and more secure in Christ. This is who He made me, and He doesn't convict me every time I'm quiet, just sometimes. What's important is that I know who I am in Christ and that He excepts my quietness. I guess it would be nice if the people who have a hard time with my quietness would slow down to get to know me instead of making quick assumptions of me. Even though I'm getting more secure in Christ it still hurts when people make assumptions of me instead of getting to know me. I know I shouldn't care what others think, and that's right (I'm working on that). I'm still a human being, with feelings. I work on forgiving, it's sure hard to keep up with all the misconceptions that people make about me. With the Lord's help I will continue to work on forgiving and loving them. I know I'm not alone with these thoughts and feelings. I am not looking for a pity party. I'm just bringing up something that seems to be put on the back burner a lot and was something that I was thinking about. If it sounds judgmental, I didn't mean it that way. What's your thoughts?

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I think the world needs quiet people to balance up all the rapid ones

Hey foundling,

Jesus was quiet on many occasions, as well. As the adage goes: we have two ears and one mouth; therefore, we should do twice as much listening as we do speaking.

I'm also quiet, and I quite enjoy observing people more than I do interacting with them at times!

I am very shy and quite also!