Grateful 4 Advice

Struggling and feel alone am grateful for any advice on my faith and my life. Thanks
I'm Jaz. I joined cause I need some advice. Why not ask a friend? Yes I have a best friend but she ignores me and I don't really feel to comfortable talking to her. I even have a sister but we have a unique relationship. My mom has some health problems, one being leukemia and she's blind. She's lost her hair. Needs help walking anywhere (even in the house) and when were out is in a wheelchair. She also has pain and a dozen other issues I don't exactly care to disclose. I need advice because im struggling with hope. I feel as if there is none. Also I have a addiction problem only me and God knows about. And I've sinned so many times and asked for forgiveness I feel like a hypocrite. Like I can never have a good relationship with God again because of all the mistakes I've made. I feel alone and have so many many regrets. Mistakes I wish I could take back. I'm have trouble with my relationship with God and my faith. My father isn't in the picture and my extended family is a bit screwed up (but I'm still grateful to God for blessing me with them) I know this isn't exactly detailed and not the full story but I'd like some advice before I truly say all that I need to. I don't feel sorry for myself or want any kind of pity, I don't deserve any of that or any advice. But I'm here asking for some advice? So.... Help please????? God bless you all. ( ;

Hi Jaz
It sounds to me like much of your life is mired in misunderstanding. For example 'a best friend that ignores me' is not a best friend.
Or that you have problems sinning over and over, making you a hypocrite. Not true also.

See, God knows we're going to sin. What God desires first and foremost is to see that we work towards and continue to seek out change. So as long as you're praying and trying and pushing towards being the kind of person God wants you to be, that is a more important factor than the actual sin. Not that the sin is irrelevant, but God sees our hearts over our actions many times. This is what grace is all about, special favor we don't deserve, but God gives us anyways.

Hypocrite. Let me tell you how i define a hypocrite. A person who teaches one thing, and willfully and without conscience does the opposite. What a hypocrite is not... a person who believes in something, possibly even teaches it to others, but is struggling themselves in the same area. Notice, one person is purposeful in their actions, while the other is working against their behavior. And since you seem to show genuine regret, which leads me to believe you are striving to change, i don't see you as a hypocrite.

We all have things we wish we could take back, but we can't, and spending our time focusing on them only serves to bring you down. Mistakes are in the past. Learn from them and move on. And don't define yourself by your mistakes, but look to redefine yourself by making better choices in the future.

It sounds to me as though you are very hard on yourself. God is forgiving you, God has shown you grace and mercy, yet you continue to reject that and bring your past and your mistakes to the forefront and hold things against yourself God has let go of. Are you so much mightier than God that you would refuse His gift of forgiveness?

Ill start n finish only on the hope part and your relationship between u n God. Ill not get to the family thing since Idk u tht well. I have sinned so many times I lost count. Sin is in our blood we cant get rid of it. it wht define us as humans. U can try not to sin but u will end up sinning any way. Paul once said "The things I want to do, I do not do, but the things I do not want to do, I do." so how do we deal with sin. It simply really. Strengten your relationship with God. Do not see God as a God who will be quick to judge u and call out your sins. See him as your father. Who is waiting for you to come home after your journey on Earth is over. If u do tht. The Devil or no amount of sin can stop you from having a father-daughter relationship with God.

I know because I have been where u r st now.

hi jazz, first of all is the simple fact that when we come to god in repentance we are forgiven ..... the problem is that it isn't always easy to forgive ourselves. it appears that there are so many things happening in your life that it is even more difficult to forgive yourself FIRST!! the addiction. see a good christian counselor. not a pastor who counsels but a trained licensed professional counselor. that would be a good start. if you cant find one, call a salvation army corps or institution and they can give you a referral. believe me ...... god is here and if you can get all of these other things at least organized it will be much easier to feel his presence and rely on his holy spirit for strength. but see a counselor to start organizing the confusion and pain in your life. i am praying for you

I agree with Ugly. I'm going to share with you some of my favorite bible verses, Philippians 3:12-13 12 Not that I have already obtained this or am already perfect, but I press on to make it my own, because Christ Jesus has made me his own. 13 Brothers, I do not consider that I have made it my own. But one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead. https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Philippians 3&version=ESV

Verse 13 is the one that really speaks to me. I look back on what I've done and wish that I could redo things, but I can't do anything about what is past. I can do something about my future and that is what I try to focus on.

As for hope, I like the verse Jeremiah 29:11: For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope. And also Matthew 10:29-31: Are not two sparrows sold for a penny? And not one of them will fall to the ground apart from your Father. 30 But even the hairs of your head are all numbered. 31 Fear not, therefore; you are of more value than many sparrows.

God bless.

Hello Jaz and welcome to Christian Chat. You've gotten some great advice already from the people who replied to your original post. And I'm sure you'll get much more from the forums and from the online chat. You do have some problems but never give up. You are definitely not a hypocrite - far from it. Pray to the Lord and He will give you strength and set you on the right path. God bless.

Welcome to Christian Chat, Jaz.

Of course, I can’t understand your problem well, but from what you’ve said, my advice would be: Understand that you are forgiven, but you must escape your addiction.

Hello and welcome,I hope you enjoy it here.

Hello and welcome Jaz, delighted to have you here. May your stay be filled with the love of Christ and the support you seek. God Bless.