Sorry to hear about the hardships that you are going through. Hopefully your husband is a Practicing Born Again Christian.
If so!... May be worth for the both of you!.. Coming to a real grasp/mindset that the Bible is True and Correct in all of the teachings.
I like to reflect on GALATIANS 5:16 - 5:23 . Life by the Spirit!..
Live by the Spirit,and you will not gratify the desires of the sinful nature. For the sinful nature desires what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what is contrary to the sinful nature. They are in conflict with each other,so that you do not do what you want.
5:19 The Acts of the Sinful Nature are obvious:
Sexual immorality,impurity, debauchery, idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, envy, drunkenness, and the like.
The fruit of the Spirit!..
Love, joy, peace, patience, faithfulness, gentleness, and self control.
We all have the choice to walk in the Spirit, Or walk in the sinful nature of the flesh. We can do only our part. I would think showing your husband GALATIANS 5:19- 5:22. He and You both then knowing of Gods truth in this matter. You can then both choose to walk in the Spirit. Even make that a goal. I would hope you could find some comfort in knowing of this one Biblical opposing force we all struggle with at times, if not always for some.