I am not a good christian :/

I know many people at my church who are so wonderful. Then if look at myself and I'm ashamed. I'm not like the people at my church. I was born again three years ago and have found Jesus to be an amazing Lord who does great works. Unlike other Christians, I can't find myself reaching out to people and trying to spread his word, not only am I too shy but also some friends don't like when I talk about going to church and being spiritual. I am not ashamed to say I believe in Jesus though. Also, I find myself getting angry at people easily and doing things I shouldn't do. I try to change my ways but it's difficult. The one I'm most ashamed of is sexually sinning against my own body. I try my best but I fail miserably time and time again. I feel like I'm committed this sin too many times and that God looks down at me and is upset with me. I find it hard to grow close to Him lately too. Just some advice would be appreciated.

Say strong. I pry for help. Jesus Christ are Lord. Will be there for you. I am fight sin and demons in my life now. It has been nipping away at me. Keep your faith. Hold on yo it.

Many of us here are struggling with something(s). Some are better at practicing than others and some profess that they do no wrong, which I find to be worse than admitting to when you are wrong. As long as you don't give up then you won't be given up on.

Hello and welcome Kat, delighted to have you here. Do not let the enemy make you feel you are less, than who you are. You are very loved by God,because you are his child. As, humans we are flawed and we make many mistakes, but thank God for his son Christ Jesus and his grace that we are able to repent of our sins. My suggestion to you sister is continue to seek God and lean on him for strength. Keeping you in prayer and God Bless.

Hi Kat
You know who Paul is, correct? He wrote most of the New Testament. This is what Paul had to say about struggling with sin...
[h=1]Romans 7:15-20New International Version (NIV)[/h] [SUP]15 [/SUP]I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do. [SUP]16 [/SUP]And if I do what I do not want to do, I agree that the law is good. [SUP]17 [/SUP]As it is, it is no longer I myself who do it, but it is sin living in me. [SUP]18 [/SUP]For I know that good itself does not dwell in me, that is, in my sinful nature. For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out. [SUP]19 [/SUP]For I do not do the good I want to do, but the evil I do not want to do—this I keep on doing. [SUP]20 [/SUP]Now if I do what I do not want to do, it is no longer I who do it, but it is sin living in me that does it.

So, basically, what Paul is saying is 'i can't stop sinning!'. Did this discredit him in Gods eyes? Or did God use this sinner to be His mouthpiece and write the majority of the NT?


Two other things to consider.
One is that just because people seem one way at church does not mean that everything is ok in their life. Everyone at your church sins. Everyone struggles with sin, some people just choose to not let it show. Don't let what a person acts like in public make you think they are the same in private.
The other thing is you're still a new Christian. Being a Christian is a lifelong journey of growth, change and maturing spiritually. As long as you stay committed and don't lose the desire to become something better and to serve God then that is the most important thing. God honors a heart that desires to obey Him, even if you can't always do so in the way you wish. That's why Paul was used so mightily. Not because he had mastered his sins, but rather because he had a heart that sought after God, despite his sins.

As far as being a witness, we are all called to do so, but some people are better at this than others. The bible refers to the church (the collection of believers all over the world) as a body. And just like in a flesh body, the body of Christ is made up of different parts, and each part has a role to fulfill. A hand has a specific set of functions, a nose does also. These are two parts of the body that are there to do two different things.
I, like you, am not great at being a witness. I've often felt my role was more aimed toward people within the church, though i'm also aware it is still my duty to be a witness. It just may mean i don't go out and preach, but perhaps am a witness on a smaller scale, such as towards friends.

And concerning your friends getting angry, well, if you are just discussing your life, such as going to church, because that is a normal part of your life and your friends get angered by this, then that's not a true friend.
Also, the bible says that we will be hated because we choose to follow him. Some people will have a tinge of guilt, some will just be fully rebellious against God, but whatever the reason, people will hold your faith against you. It's just a part of being a Christian you have to learn to accept. And, really, you have it easy. Look at most of the Apostles. Jailed or killed for their faith. Check out a book called Foxes Book Of Martyrs to see what people have had to endure for following Christ. Look at the stories coming out of the middle east with the persecution of Christians. Christ himself was beaten, tortured and killed. If they did that to Christ, and you have Christ within you, then you can expect your faith will cause some dissension.


Hope some of this helped.. and, oh yeah, welcome to CC.

I feel the same about sharing Jesus. It's hard, when you keep getting knock backs. I find that just putting the word out that I am Christian, gives people the opportunity to come to me with questions. I let a friend know that I was available to help when he sold books, I now have the opportunity to give bible studies to a Christian woman who wanted to know more...
p.s. I'm sorry that you treat your body like that (I was like that too) your looking for love in all the wrong places. Ask Your Creator and Saviour for help. HE WILL!

First off hello and welcome to Christian Chat. The Lord has different things in store for different people. Not all of us can go out and reach out to absolutely everyone and tell them about Jesus. That may not be your calling. Perhaps you could do something a bit easier like handing out tracts or putting brochures in mailboxes etc. There are lots of things you can do to help get the word out to people. And all of us struggle with something, many of us struggle with many things. It is important for you to keep the faith in God, pray to him daily, read his word daily. In this way the Holy Spirit will guide you and be with you all the time. God bless you and again welcome to the site.

Reading this really helped me see things in a new light and understand so much more. I am still new to the bible and haven't read all of it yet, but the chapter you showed me from romans really speaks to me. Thank you so much, may God bless you!

I'm a bit late to the conversation, but may I say that I am very proud of you for coming forward? That is a great step forward, because when we keep our sins and struggles hidden we aren't letting God to take them from us; we keep ourselves chained to them.

I understand what it's like to look at other Christians and feel inadequate. There is one specific Christian, an author who I follow the work of online. To me, she always seemed so much more Godly and 'cleaner' than me. Then one day she shared something on her blog, talking about the dark parts of herself that she puts into her characters, who I adore for the realness of them. Some of those darker parts lined up with my own personal struggles. Pride, perfectionism, vengefulness, to name a few. Someone I had thought so much better than me was really a lot more like me than I could have ever imagined from just looking at outward appearances.

We're not meant to compare ourselves against other Christians. Faith and spiritual growth isn't a race, but a personal, intimate walk with God, where our aim should be to become as much like Him as we can be.

There is no 'good' Christian, because the only good that is in us is Him. Some people may seem better Christians, but you can never know what is in their hearts. They could be putting on a mask of 'goodness' or they could simply be more mature in their Christianity. And spiritual maturity only comes from spending time with Him, in prayer and in reading and applying His word to our lives.

Of course, we will still fall. I have struggled with sexual sins and other temptations and will likely continue to struggle until the end of the world and I am given a new body, free of sin nature. Some days I still wonder how He can still possibly love me, but He does. No matter how many times we fall down, as long as we ask His forgiveness and do our best to turn away from the bits of Old Man we still wrestle with, He will hear us and give us His grace. Every time that you feel tempted to sin, say no to it. Out loud if you have to. Pray over yourself right away and seek Him. Read his word. Sing His praises. Sometimes having an accountability partner helps. I know it does for me and helps me to grow. One of my favorite Christian songs is How Can It Be by Lauren Daigle: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6UXn_OuJkvE&list=PLB91Pe4r9yYGfQXbZ86Fqh7lRnPR8L2sR&index=175

As far as spreading the word God, the people that got through to me were not the ones passing out tracks or asking me if I wanted to be saved. Not that they don't have their purpose in God's plan, they certainly do. But for me, it was the Christians that loved me with the 1 Corinthians 13 type of love that that drew me to Him. Those that were willing to let their scars and struggles show and admit that the Christian life isn't about perfect people, but broken sinners that are covered by God's perfect grace and by Him made whole. The man who was my pastor, and now my father in law, never offered me a tract and never pressured me to ask God into my heart. Instead, he lead me by the example of his life and love, to God. And the book that helped me finally see that I was not too far gone was about a drug-addicted assassin who came to find God. The sort of person that I am with the life that I've lived, a 'sunshine and rainbows' type of Christian could never have reached me. I felt more worthless and dirty in their presence, through no fault of theirs. The lack of evidence that they ever struggled made me feel alone in mine. God led you down the road that you're on for a reason. Maybe it is so that you can help those struggling with the sins that you do find Him.

God bless you and keep fighting the good fight!

I'm not exactly great at giving advice and im exactly where you are so don't really have a place to give advice. But I want you know that your not alone and God still loves you. Here's a bible verse that has helped me.
In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of sins, in accordance with the riches of God's grace
-Ephesians 1:7

Welcome to the site. You know, God works in wonderful ways. Cos literally as I opened this thread and read it I was litteraly going through the same thing of realizing just how much I sin and take for granted the blood that saved me and the advice here has helped me too and re-reminded me of the truth. God is true and steadfast and loving. So so loving. And I know it'd been said here but I'll say it again, you aren't alone in this. We're all here together in God's love. It's truly a wonderful thing.
On witnessing to friends, I know how you feel. I'm not too good either, but I heard something once that the shortest distance between two strangers is a story. And I heard someone else say once that sharing your story is a good way to reach people. And ask them their story. Ask them why they think the way they think. I think sometimes people are more open to dialogue, and if you tell them how God has come into your life. Use your pain as a platform. I hope you have a wonderful experience here.