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FIRST PAIN
"Don't move alone at night you may be raped. Don't listen to secular music or watch movies." these wre some of the rules my ex-boyfriend gave me. He got sick I left home to take care of him for more than a month. When I came back my parents could not trust me anymore. One day I was going from my town to his town to do some urgent shopping mum sent me. I called telling him that I was going to his town but I will be back the following day day but he told me, "I am very busy today don't disturb me with your calls again". I arrived midday the same day and I did not call him as instructed. His friend told him that I was in his town He accused me of not telling him that I arrived. The follong day I was suppose to go shopping and he told me that he will take me to shopping and then escort me to the bus deport. Guess what I waited for 3 days the fourth day I was tired in the afternoon I went for shopping. As I was leaving the compound I saw him comming to take me to shopping. Since I was frustruted I turned him down. In the evening he came and asked me why I did that to him I explained to him my views but he kept on telling people that I ended the relationship since I had another guy. I LOST MY RELATIONSHIP AND MY PARENTS TRUST(FOR THE SECOND TIME). THIS WAS 2005.
SECOND PAIN
It all started in 2009 when I graduated from a certain university and started working a distance of 766km away from my fiance. My girl friend I was living with knew a married male friend who wanted to also be my friend but he realised that i showed no interest. Mid 2011 I was travelling with my fiance and this man told my fiance that he want me back and that we were in a relationship since 2009. I refused to give him my phone number but i don't know who gave him my phone number and email address. he kept calling, sending emails and text message saying I should tell him the day he should come to take me to his house to be his wife. He said the time that we agreed has come. I tried to change my phone number and stop responding his email but it did not work, he kept sending more messages.
At this time my friend who was outside our country for one year just arrived. the weekend I was planning to go and see her this man sent a text message that if am free I should meet him there the same weekend. I saw that my life is useless. I lost my (5 year) relationship, happiness, joy and performance in class dropped(since this time I was at school doing my further education), and I was lonelly. I said why me Lord this time again. For two days I rocked my self in my room not talking to anyone and indeed life was useless.
I tried to talk to my fiance that I was innocent but I was unable to convice him. After a month he told me it was difficult to believe me that I was innocent and he said he will trust me again if a wealth to be trusted. Since 2011 I have never been happy. I don't know if I will be happy again in my life.
"Don't move alone at night you may be raped. Don't listen to secular music or watch movies." these wre some of the rules my ex-boyfriend gave me. He got sick I left home to take care of him for more than a month. When I came back my parents could not trust me anymore. One day I was going from my town to his town to do some urgent shopping mum sent me. I called telling him that I was going to his town but I will be back the following day day but he told me, "I am very busy today don't disturb me with your calls again". I arrived midday the same day and I did not call him as instructed. His friend told him that I was in his town He accused me of not telling him that I arrived. The follong day I was suppose to go shopping and he told me that he will take me to shopping and then escort me to the bus deport. Guess what I waited for 3 days the fourth day I was tired in the afternoon I went for shopping. As I was leaving the compound I saw him comming to take me to shopping. Since I was frustruted I turned him down. In the evening he came and asked me why I did that to him I explained to him my views but he kept on telling people that I ended the relationship since I had another guy. I LOST MY RELATIONSHIP AND MY PARENTS TRUST(FOR THE SECOND TIME). THIS WAS 2005.
SECOND PAIN
It all started in 2009 when I graduated from a certain university and started working a distance of 766km away from my fiance. My girl friend I was living with knew a married male friend who wanted to also be my friend but he realised that i showed no interest. Mid 2011 I was travelling with my fiance and this man told my fiance that he want me back and that we were in a relationship since 2009. I refused to give him my phone number but i don't know who gave him my phone number and email address. he kept calling, sending emails and text message saying I should tell him the day he should come to take me to his house to be his wife. He said the time that we agreed has come. I tried to change my phone number and stop responding his email but it did not work, he kept sending more messages.
At this time my friend who was outside our country for one year just arrived. the weekend I was planning to go and see her this man sent a text message that if am free I should meet him there the same weekend. I saw that my life is useless. I lost my (5 year) relationship, happiness, joy and performance in class dropped(since this time I was at school doing my further education), and I was lonelly. I said why me Lord this time again. For two days I rocked my self in my room not talking to anyone and indeed life was useless.
I tried to talk to my fiance that I was innocent but I was unable to convice him. After a month he told me it was difficult to believe me that I was innocent and he said he will trust me again if a wealth to be trusted. Since 2011 I have never been happy. I don't know if I will be happy again in my life.