I will pray God gives you the right words so when you ask for help, your husband responds with a loving willing heart. I find if I ask God for the way to talk to my husband, he is more willing to help me. Sometimes they respond grumpy because they can't fix what is wrong, and they feel guilty.
I don't think they always mean to be grumpy. I will pray God gives him a heart of compassion and insight. In Jesus Name Amen