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Welcome to CC! GOD BLESS YOU!
M
I want to thank everyone for their encouragement for me. My husband came home this morning saying he wanted to not only do marriage counseling but he was going to ask for help for himself. This is a huge step and I'm just "being still" but I can breathe again.
He said he went up to the mountains and parked.
Thank you sweet Jesus.
He said he went up to the mountains and parked.
Thank you sweet Jesus.
I am sorry for the disappointment you are feeling. I hope you will remember that you do not need to have the strength to do this/get through this, you only need to have the small amount of trust to believe that God will help you get through this. Even when our feelings fail us, our faith can get us to God who is sufficient in our weakness. Since God has provided you with support and encouragement from your church friends, continue to allow them to walk alongside you through this. And the fact that your husband went to the counseling appointment, agreed to continue the counseling, has the intention to do the "right" thing, these can all be ways that God will be working in him and in your marriage. Do you believe this is true?
M
I do believe those things. It's just so hard. I don't know this man anymore. Everything I thought we were is gone. I'm so afraid. I'm striving to be a Godly wife and my heart hurts.
The truth is that God will never force someone to Him. If he chooses to turn from God that's his decision.
I'm scared for him, hurt, angry, lonely, and feel utterly useless. My hope for him is so small and insignificant right now. I wish I even knew how to act toward him.
I can't stop crying and everyone is used to us together all the time. So I can't breathe and not think about it at all because they all ask how he's doing.
I thought our lives were wrapped around God and each other. And now I can't seem to get my balance.
The truth is that God will never force someone to Him. If he chooses to turn from God that's his decision.
I'm scared for him, hurt, angry, lonely, and feel utterly useless. My hope for him is so small and insignificant right now. I wish I even knew how to act toward him.
I can't stop crying and everyone is used to us together all the time. So I can't breathe and not think about it at all because they all ask how he's doing.
I thought our lives were wrapped around God and each other. And now I can't seem to get my balance.
You are absolutely right that it is incredibly hard to figure out what to do when your heart is broken and everything that was your "normal" way of life has changed. And you are also right that you cannot change anything in his relationship with God. But God has told us what to do in every situation where we have no control, we can give Him all our worries and burdens, we can lean on Him in our weakness and we can have hope because God is able to work in every circumstance. And when people ask you how your husband is doing, I hope you will tell them honestly that your husband is struggling right now and ask them to pray for him and for your marriage. People don't need to know the details but they can certainly be supporting you in prayer.
I would also suggest that it might help you to talk with a pastoral counselor on your own. That can be so helpful in guiding you to sort out all of your emotions. I have received support from the ministry of Focus on the Family. They offer a free counseling phone line at 855-382-5433. Maybe you could give them a call to see if this would be helpful for you too. You will continue to be in my prayers for comfort and peace!
I would also suggest that it might help you to talk with a pastoral counselor on your own. That can be so helpful in guiding you to sort out all of your emotions. I have received support from the ministry of Focus on the Family. They offer a free counseling phone line at 855-382-5433. Maybe you could give them a call to see if this would be helpful for you too. You will continue to be in my prayers for comfort and peace!