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my boyfriend told me that he was a prophet and this is something that i have alot of trouble with. i left him because i felt he was controlling and possessive and im worried that i am actually rebelious to a prophet of the lord. it was a really violent relationship on both sides and im really glad its over but its something i still struggle with. there have been many instances in which it really seemed like he could hear from god. however, he told me god showed him a vision of me sleeping with someone else and always told me that i had cheated on him when i didn't. he says though this this might be bacuse i was unfaithfull in thought. it is true that sometimes i wonder if other men think that im good looking and other thoughts like this and i don't really want to be concerned by these things but i don't feel like i it was really as bad as he said it was. i always told him about it and did my best to be as honest as possible and i never cheated on him. he tells me that im going to suffer for what iv done to him and it really scares me. id really appreciate any advice, thankyou for reading this

Being a violent relationship , gettin out now was the right thing to do.I'm surely no prophet but sounds to me like his words to you" You will suffer for what youve done to him" sounds like another control tactic to me. I dont think you have anything to worry about there....

thanks for replying denise i know its not your problem. god bless

I hope you didnt misunderstand my post honey. I think hes the one with a problem not you. God bless you too

First off, if someone tells you they're a prophet they probably aren't because prophets are usually humble and they're words and deeds speak for themselves. If I were you I would not believe that unless I had some evidence. Prophets in the New Testament tell you things about yourself that no one else could have known but God. And they do this for the unsaved to have them believe in Jesus Christ and join the church. Does your boyfriend even go evangelizing? You said yourself that some of the things he said were over stated. I very highly doubt he is a prophet. Sounds to me like he wants to feel special. Anyone can hear from God, not just prophets. Hearing from God is something Christians all over experience. I've heard from God; I've felt God's hand on my shoulder and my whole body warmed up as I was praying for Him to comfort me. I know God did that so I would be comforted and keep my faith alive. I am not a prophet. At least not according to what's written in the Holy Bible. And that's the only definition to go by. Not here-say crap. Would you have married him if he said he heard from God that you two should be married? I sure hope not. That's naive. People, I find, especially men like to have power, even if it takes a little pretending. The Bible says the heart is very deceptive and wicked. So he could have fallen into the trap of deceiving himself into believing it. Either way, he gains power over you if you believe that what He says means more than it does. People have been playing that card for millennia. Just think about what happened to the Pope and the Roman Catholic Church.

Let me answer your concern more directly. You say you're worried your rebellious to a prophet of the Lord. Rebellious to what? To dating him or marrying him? The Holy Bible never says who we are to date or marry apart from Jesus saying that we shouldn't be "unequally yoked" marrying unbelievers. And you might not have known this, but at the very end of the Holy Bible Jesus proclaims: "I testify to everyone who hears the words of the prophecy of this book: if anyone adds to them, God will add to him the plagues which are written in this book and if anyone takes away from the words of the book of this prophecy, God will take away his part from the tree of life and from the holy city which are written in this book." I don't think you're old boyfriend would do that, but that's just from what you've said about him; and be careful because there are people that would do that.

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thanks for replying brandon, its difficult sometimes when you don't have anyone to talk to about nig issues in your life. Its difficult for me to deal with because i became a christian solely through him and i did so because he did things and said things which i thought must be from god. to name a few things, i was angry with him one day and i checked out a male model on tv just to spite him in a way. he wasn't in the room with me but he came up right away and he told me that god had said to him that i was looking at another man in a way that i should only look at him. i just don't get it. these are the kind of things that converted me to christianty but it just got the point where i just felt like i was getting blamed for thigns i didn't even do wrong.im really struggling with my faith now because it came about because of this man that i thought could hear from god and was leading me down the right path. he did other things aswell like he would say that god gave him directions to a church and then we'de end up at a church. i don't think he was lieing aswell. thanks for reading.

A prophet would not be a mind reader, and God doesn't use prophecy in that way. Your ex-boyfriends concept of what a prophet is is way out of kilter. I encourage you to read your bible, find a good teaching church, and even ask questions to grow from other Christians. Really, this is a case of you being duped by someone who does not sound at all Christian.
Just from what you said, and the general tone of how you talk, you seem like a sweet person. Unfortunately, often times, those are the types that are easily taken advantage of, because they tend to be trusting as well. Don't be afraid to question or doubt a persons actions or intentions. If something doesn't 'seem right' somehow, there's a good chance its not right.
Ultimately be glad you're out of this insane relationship. Don't feel bad for being out of it. Instead thank God you didn't make the mistake of staying in it, or worse, marrying that nutjob.
If i were you, i'd move on with your life and leave this guy as a distant memory. You've got your whole life ahead of you, no point in dwelling on this situation. God will not punish you for any of it.

I don't know if he was making that up or not. If he wasn't then that still doesn't make him a prophet. Christians can hear from God. That's not unusual and it doesn't mean you're a prophet. And I agree with Ugly. My sense is that he made it all up to get you to go out with him. I mean what's the chance that a girl is going to wander to another guy in her thoughts? I assume you two had a disagreement. And he knew you two had a disagreement, so it was more likely. It's pretty common.

I don't know if he was making that up or not. If he wasn't then that still doesn't make him a prophet. Christians can hear from God. That's not unusual and it doesn't mean you're a prophet. And I agree with Ugly. My sense is that he made it all up to get you to go out with him. I mean what's the chance that a girl is going to wander to another guy in her thoughts? I assume you two had a disagreement. And he knew you two had a disagreement, so it was more likely. It's pretty common.

And like the other guy said. Get your own mind made up about God. There's a ton of stuff to sift through in Christianity. Make sure whoever you get taught by actually believes the Holy Bible and not their own crazy made up version of Christianity because that is very common. Let Jesus speak for himself to your heart. If you listen to sermons, listen for the words from the Bible and make your own mind up about it. Let the words speak for themselves if you know what I mean. Don't bother listening to hokey preachers that have a half dozen extended metaphors in explaining one little verse. The Bible explains itself if one looks into it. If you have trouble figuring out what something means in the Bible, nine times out of ten the answer is right around the verses your looking at. In any case. Whoever you ask to help you understand it, make sure they back up what they say with what the Holy Bible is teaching. It's easy for people to read their own thoughts into the Bible to make it say what they want it to say. If the Bible doesn't expressly explain something, why should they teach it as if it does?