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Good morning from sunny california! The sun is shining and the birds are singing, and too bad all is not right with the world. My world is right only because King Jesus rules! I have a question to ask that I have never had a satisfying answer to. I would like some serious biblical based answers - suggestions.
Here goes: My mother pushed me into dating a man that she decided would make a good husband for me. I was barely turning 15 years old. I felt frightened and confused. I had been taught and believed my mother was always right. I went out with him and within a moth he proposed and scared me to death. I went home and told my mother and she told me he would make a good husband for me.She went on to suggest that we get married. My dad was very passive, yet from the beginning insisted that I was too young to be dating anyone and they fought over this until mother had her way. Dad did not know about the proposal. Mom pulled me out of school, took us to the court house, lied to the registar about my age and signed papers with a falsified birthdate on it. She took us to a justice of the peace and had us married. This man turned out to be very abusive in every way - physically, vervally, and emotionally. I was married to him for twenty five years. He always told me if I tried to divorce him, he would kill me. A lot of bad choices on both our parts took place during that interim of time. I grew to hate him and just wanted out. Adultery happened within that doomed marriage, and now I am remarried and feel guilty all the time. I have repented and want to serve God with a whole heart. My current husband is not a christian and marrying him was wrong. It's done - what can I do? What does God want me to do? Has God forgiven me? Am I living in adultery? Was my first marriage ever recognized by God since it was based on a lie and I was not old enough to make the decision for myself?
Where do I stand in this? I just want right standing and peace with God!

As Christians, we recognize the ideal. For example, Marriage is a God ordained institution and what God has brought together let no man set asunder. God is therefore against divorce. However, we also know we live in a fallen and corrupt world. Where sin abounds, God's grace abounds all the more.

It is clear to me that you are genuine in your conviction and desire to please God. Don't allow legalism to rob you of the loving grace of God. If we lived in a perfect world according to God's ideal, there would be no divorce. But there would also be no cause for it either. Such things as abuse and manipulation and mothers who lie to unlawfully marry off their underage daughters who are too young to have a say themselves.

The enemy has been given a power to strike at our past (Genesis 3:15) IF we let him. So don't let him. Instead, use the Sword of the Spirit which is the Word of God to take captive those thoughts of guilt and MAKE them obedient to Christ.

If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. (1 John:9)

Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus, because through Christ Jesus the law of the Spirit who gives life has set you free from the law of sin and death. (Romans 8:1-2)

God has forgiven you already, have you forgiven yourself? It may be that you are the person you need to forgive to enter God's freedom in this area.

Qoute for Amen... btw most of my post was done in Microsoft Word so the tex is a llittle bigger...

Gotta go back to the beginning.

First and far most, G-d decides what is and what is not of everything. Me I’m only me but G-d knows the truth and all that’s right so me I’m not sure if G-d recognizes that marriage perhaps it was never recognized and you were both a couple just living together as if you were married.

If that’s the case then all of that was wrong and it is like how the secular world lives… just fornicating.

Now let’s say G-d did recognize marriage, then comes the question of who committed adultery? Now if the husband committed adultery, from what G-d has revealed to us, the Bible. It’s written that the only reason to divorce is adultery. If you divorced your husband because of adultery then you’re alright but if you committed adultery and then divorced him and remarried then you did wrong.

Now you say your current husband is not Christian…. And your telling us your story from when you were 15 so now I wonder if you had other husbands,
does it matter now that your married right now?

Not anymore.

I think we can close all this and forget the past because your married right now but ask G-d to forgive you if you did wrong, out of conscious because Jesus did forgive you for all sins if you truly accepted him. Now back to the original point of this paragraph since you your married right now…. Why?

Well G-d hates divorce, that’s why. Your married right now, were you thinking maybe of divorcing your current husband.

Your married right now honor this marriage if the non-believer is willing to stay with you… to make things clear, here are some verse... I can't put my finger on it but here this will clear things up
1 John 1:9


9 If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.

G-d is in authority and his willing to forgive your sins. Ask him to forgive you and just accept it. Now that your married with a non-believer.. more verses
1 Corinthians 7:12-15


12 But to the rest I, not the Lord, say: If any brother has a wife who does not believe, and she is willing to live with him, let him not divorce her. 13 And a woman who has a husband who does not believe, if he is willing to live with her, let her not divorce him. 14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband; otherwise your children would be unclean, but now they are holy. 15 But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart; a brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases. But God has called us to peace.

So a few things from the above verses.. some guidelines for your situation.

1. Don't divorce your spouse just because he/she is not a believer

2. You could santify your husband

3. Otherwise your children would be unclean if you divorce it seems to imply.

4. But if the unbelieving husband leaves you then let him leave because your not under obligation in such cases.

The rest of the verses are a bonus. But that's what you should do.. in summary.

Accept G-d's infinite mercy and accept his forgiveness you can't please G-d with your works and capabilities so accept that and say G-d almighty I need you and I have done wrong but you are willing to forgive me lord, I accept. Everyones done wrong in the past, feel guilty, don't dwell in it, ask for forgiveness.. accept G-d forgives you.


Bonus verses
1 Corinthians 2:12-15


12 Now we have received, not the spirit of the world, but the Spirit who is from God, that we might know the things that have been freely given to us by God.
13 These things we also speak, not in words which man’s wisdom teaches but which the Holy[a] Spirit teaches, comparing spiritual things with spiritual. 14 But the natural man does not receive the things of the Spirit of God, for they are foolishness to him; nor can he know them, because they are spiritually discerned. 15 But he who is spiritual judges all things, yet he himself is rightly judged by no one.

Welcome to CC. I read some of the other posts and it sounds like sound advice to me. I have prayed that you will gain wisdom and understanding.