I don't want to feel this way

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Suzy4

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My anger and hurt are turning to hatred and I don't like the thoughts I'm having. Is this normal ? I feel disgust and hatred when I look at him especially when he walks in the house texting and smiling and continue to do so for hours not caring what I might feel. I find myself hating him and having bad thoughts amd wishing harm. I don't like to feel this way but seems I can't shake it.
 
levi85

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Lord we pray for Suzy4, let you please remove these angerness, and bitterness, fron Suzy4's heart, and fill with your love. yes Lord bless with your character, and give peace, and comfort to Suzy4, Lord, let Suzy4, be your true disciple, in jesus loving name, Amen!
 
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His callous disregard for you and your children is inexcusable. The fact that it
is so in your face makes it all the harder to deal with, I would think. He is there,
but not for you or the the children, only for whatever his own selfish desires are
at the moment, that obviously have nothing to do with the life he built with you.
It is like he is gone already except he keeps showing up just to taunt you and let
you know he is not really participating at all any more. Prayers for you and yours.
 
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johnthree

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Sorry you are going through this Suzy, I will pray for you now. God bless you.
 
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Ugly

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Have you tried professional help? Obviously there is something more serious going on that can't just be 'shook off. People are so quick to rush to anonymous strangers but so reluctant to get real help. Then wonder why their lives are a mess.
 
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BeyondET

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Some times when someone has disgust or hatred, it can be felt like a resonating vibe per say from a mile away and Some times people think their feelings are hidden and no one knows what their thinking or feeling now this maybe true to a point but at the same time that negative vibration is there in the open and that can keep people from talking to one another.
 
resurrection33

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Suzy4 said:
My anger and hurt are turning to hatred and I don't like the thoughts I'm having. Is this normal ? I feel disgust and hatred when I look at him especially when he walks in the house texting and smiling and continue to do so for hours not caring what I might feel. I find myself hating him and having bad thoughts amd wishing harm. I don't like to feel this way but seems I can't shake it.
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It sounds to me like you are allowing your hurt, and resulting anger, to get pent up inside you. It could result in an angry "explosion," sooner or later. If you haven't already, I'd have a talk with this man and let him know that you are hurt.
 
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Suzy4

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resurrection33 said:
It sounds to me like you are allowing your hurt, and resulting anger, to get pent up inside you. It could result in an angry "explosion," sooner or later. If you haven't already, I'd have a talk with this man and let him know that you are hurt.
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It does seem like I'm allowing it by letting him still be here. I worry the kids will miss him and wonder where he is and blame me but I'm at the point where I can't keep letting him take my joy and make me miserable. I can't enjoy anything because I'm constantly sad or crying or now angry.
 
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Galatea

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You need to talk to him and then get some marriage counseling. I will pray for you. :)
 
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Suzy4

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Ugly said:
Have you tried professional help? Obviously there is something more serious going on that can't just be 'shook off. People are so quick to rush to anonymous strangers but so reluctant to get real help. Then wonder why their lives are a mess.
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It takes 2 people to agree to get professional help, he won't do it , and he won't pray either because he doesn't believe in God or prayer, but yet he'll say things like " God blesses him by letting him find a watch, a bIke, a girl talks to him, to him those are blessings. His kids he says are what makes him broke all the time by supporting them, he has told me he despises them.
 
Magenta

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Suzy4 said:
It takes 2 people to agree to get professional help, he won't do it , and he won't pray either because he doesn't believe in God or prayer, but yet he'll say things like " God blesses him by letting him find a watch, a bIke, a girl talks to him, to him those are blessings. His kids he says are what makes him broke all the time by supporting them, he has told me he despises them.
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You could still go for counseling whether he is going or not. It will help you better understand your situation, yourself, and your options. It will also give you a healthy outlet for your anger, frustrations, disappointments, hopes, dreams, etc. You may also find other resources, such as a support group, that could be of assistance to you, through a therapist.
 
PennEd

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Hi Suzy.I posted this on your "My heart aches" thread, so not sure if you saw it, but was wondering if you could address it?



I'm sorry Suzy for your pain, and if this has been addressed already, but your profile says you are NOT married.

Between that, and the real possibility that he is having relationships with other women/girls, AND the fact he totally neglects the children, God's answer to your prayers MAY indeed be to move on and leave him.

He's not your husband.
He's likely with other women.
He mistreats your children.
He's never home and lies about the reasons.
This is all causing you to hate him.

What's the reason to stay again?

I'm not sure about your financial situation, but if you do leave HE will have to at least pay child support.

I don't think I have EVER counseled anybody to leave a spouse, but again, in this case, he isn't your spouse.

Yes, it will be very hard on you and the kids, but ultimately it appears to be the better option.

I pray the Lord will have His Hand of protection on you all during this.
 
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Suzy4

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PennEd said:
Hi Suzy.I posted this on your "My heart aches" thread, so not sure if you saw it, but was wondering if you could address it?



I'm sorry Suzy for your pain, and if this has been addressed already, but your profile says you are NOT married.

Between that, and the real possibility that he is having relationships with other women/girls, AND the fact he totally neglects the children, God's answer to your prayers MAY indeed be to move on and leave him.

He's not your husband.
He's likely with other women.
He mistreats your children.
He's never home and lies about the reasons.
This is all causing you to hate him.

What's the reason to stay again?

I'm not sure about your financial situation, but if you do leave HE will have to at least pay child support.

I don't think I have EVER counseled anybody to leave a spouse, but again, in this case, he isn't your spouse.

Yes, it will be very hard on you and the kids, but ultimately it appears to be the better option.

I pray the Lord will have His Hand of protection on you all during this.
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We have been together since 2005 and married since 2009. Sorry haven't really paid attention to my profile.
 
FaithfulservantofGod

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I'm sorry for what was happened to you hence I'll be praying for you and may the Lord Jesus Christ leads you to the perfect and great will into your life. Blessings.
 
KBond

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Magenta said:
You could still go for counseling whether he is going or not. It will help you better understand your situation, yourself, and your options. It will also give you a healthy outlet for your anger, frustrations, disappointments, hopes, dreams, etc. You may also find other resources, such as a support group, that could be of assistance to you, through a therapist.
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I second this idea of counseling just for you if he won't go. Cleansing Stream is a good option if you think counseling might be too expensive.
 
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kittycat7

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Fear of man will prove to be a snare, but whoever trusts in the LORD is kept safe.
 
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