Hi Suzy.I posted this on your "My heart aches" thread, so not sure if you saw it, but was wondering if you could address it?
I'm sorry Suzy for your pain, and if this has been addressed already, but your profile says you are NOT married.
Between that, and the real possibility that he is having relationships with other women/girls, AND the fact he totally neglects the children, God's answer to your prayers MAY indeed be to move on and leave him.
He's not your husband.
He's likely with other women.
He mistreats your children.
He's never home and lies about the reasons.
This is all causing you to hate him.
What's the reason to stay again?
I'm not sure about your financial situation, but if you do leave HE will have to at least pay child support.
I don't think I have EVER counseled anybody to leave a spouse, but again, in this case, he isn't your spouse.
Yes, it will be very hard on you and the kids, but ultimately it appears to be the better option.
I pray the Lord will have His Hand of protection on you all during this.