Alone

Please pray for me I feel so alone. I have been having problems with my marriage for some time now. I feel as if I have no one to talk to. My husband was my best friend. then he became abusive. I have lost my best friend, my lover and my soul mate. I have no other friends the ones I had were user. Everyone in my life becomes a user because I am a pleaser and I do for those I love. I have run out of the energy to keep it up. I have no one to turn too. I know god walks beside me and I always have him but I have the deep need for a flesh and blood person to understand and be there to talk to and walk beside. I miss the man I feel in love with and my best friend

being in such a place where you are , can absolutely rattle our world cant it? feels like an earthquake almost.. It numbs our senses, it grabs our attention , and it can "seem" like we are in a whirlwind of trouble when such things happen.
sister, this is where what "we believe" is also tested and refined.. Dear friend, Let me remind you to bring God down into the "center" of it. i have found when my world gets shaken i either forget God all together , remembered Him a little bit , or hold onto Him through the entire thing..
I have learned through crash and burn experiences when i forget Him totally, i have seen glimmers of hope when i remember occasionally and i have stood solid in His perfect peace when i bring him into the center and ealk hand in hand with Him through the entire thing of whatever is going on.
id like to encourage you to look up , raise your hands, and imagine you bringing Him right down into the very "present moment" of where you are. Share "every single" emotion with Him.. Yes! Every single one! Remember He already knows everything your thinking, how your feeling, even what you are intending to do . remember , he will habe no ither gods befite Him.. in trials he wants to look at our heart..will we call on Him, will we share our emotions with Him, will we ask for His
help.. our weakness is where He becomes strongest . I encourage you not to turn away from Him , but run with everything in you , directly to Him, towards Him. you have "choices" in whats happening in your circumstances.. You are not a victim, you are not helpless in it, and you are certainly not alone , unless "you choose" to be..
keep watch over your thoughts for just the next five minutes.. Just the next five.. Get your bible out.. look at what your thinking in those five minutes and "decide" if you are going to give a those thoughts to God and "trade them in" for something "better" ! This is "your choice", not your curcumstances, not anyone elses decisions.. this is all you.. All your control of whats happening to you. if you decide to trade in those thoughts , grab them and picture yourself holding them in your hand for a moment.. YOU have them now, THEY dont have you.. lift them up to God and imagine you handing them over to Him, release them into "His hands" .. open your bible to psalm 91.. and allow "God" to replace those thoughts,with TRUE thoughts from Him directly.. see if in those five minutes your focus shifts .. remember , the enemy wants is to do everything but keep our attention on God.. he wants to steal our focus, keep us from praying, from sharing anytjing with God, keep us from asking for His help.. Shake our belief in Him, His promises and who we are in Him..but God has already given us the victory..its our to claim!

Father, we come before you in agreement together in jesus christ, thanking You for all You have done for us., in your goodness and in tue righteousness of Your Son who lives in us we are able to come directly to You for all our needs. You are doing a good work in us and we know the more we come to know who You are the more You can equip us with Your truth.
You know who we are, You know and see all we are going through, we also know you wait for is to come to know You in Your full glory.. we open our hearts together before You Father, as You examine our hearts towards You..please remind us when we are senaitive to things, , situations, Your people, and our own needs, that these sensitivities are to be indicators to us from You that we are lacking somewhere within our own hearts , to strengthen in our relationship with you first..

May you open our eyes and we begin to see that in light of anutjing going on, we can always , no matter when or where, come to You.. Directly to Your throne and lay our burdens at your feet. You have told us " I will never, no never, leave You nor forsake you, No never will I"...
May we open our hearts to You Lord and ask for forgiveness when we do not come to you First, relying On Your strength and Your ability to withsatand against things we have no inderstanding in, increase our faith and belief during such times to "know and trust" that you do.
we know we sometimes want to run to others to be comforted, but truth is , only You can fill those times of need..
Thank you for loving us, thank you for being mindful of us when we are not mindful of You..We trust and have
Confidence in Your ability in all things, knowing You can do all things in them..
We pray these things in Jesus name . Amen,

you are not alone. I know it feels that way, maybe a little perspective will help. My grandfather had a stroke, he doesn't speak so well. Though he is still with my grandmother and we are around him we can often see the frustration in his eyes when he is trying to tell us very basic things. (he really can't talk to anyone completely. Even if he were to try to speak with a stranger it would be to no avail.) I empathize with you. I know what a loss it is to lose someones companionship who was so important to you. Even the most important of those living in flesh and blood. Never give up. Nobody knows the future, but often times we lose everything so that we may see clearly in the end that Jesus truly is everything. Everything else will fail us, but God will not.

This happened to me. Please take a class on abuse and you can learn to deal with it. My husband stopped abusing me! But it took learning to listen to really repair our marriage. I had to learn to listen! Now we are like newly weds.

Praying this can also happen to you.

Alot of good words already.
From one who has walked a simular road, just keep your eyes on Jesus, talking to Him and trusting in Him.
And you will know in Him, a love that brings the love and peace you seek, never ending and overflowing.

Huge hugs and God bless
pickles

Praying that God will restore and heal your marriage ^^ What the wicked dreads will overtake him; what the righteous desire will be granted.

Wow!

I wish you find and answer to cope with this.

I hate to give advice... but someone gave me some a few weeks ago and I am going to pass it to you.: Go into your church (or any good Christian church) and ask for help. If you don't know what help you need, then say simply that.

I walked into my church on a Tuesday morning, with my toddler in my arms and tears in my eyes. I told the first person I saw that I needed some Christian counsel. You know what I was told? "You are in the right place." And with her arm around my shoulder a nice lady led me to someone who prayed with me, and from there I have been directed to several other excellent sources of help.

I walked into the church that day with Jesus next to me. But I walked out of there on his shoulders. What a gift!

Praying for you. Don't give up.

I posted this story in another thread but thought that this might be fitting for here as well:


This reminds me of a story I read in a book im reading... A couple was having marital problems and close to divorce. The wife ran into a minster seeking help. The advice he gave her was simply this: Tell your husband that the divorce is going to be on hold for 90 days. Meanwhile he suggested that she envision herself as beautiful and attractive. To envision a picture of the restoration of old time companionship and to picture goodness in her husband. He gave her instructions on how to pray and how to 'spiritually picturize'. The woman followed this for 90 days. The man went out night after night with his friends. Soon he began to hang around the home. After the 90 days the woman asks her husband 'well do you still want the divorce?' the husband replies 'what divorce?' She replied 'Dont you remember, we agreed to wait 90 days to settle that divorce matter and this is the day'.... He looked at her and said 'Dont be silly, I couldnt possibly live without you, where did you get the idea I was going to leave you?.

The fact is this, sometimes we bring out the best and worst in ppl. We can influence others greatly by our attitude, even without saying a word, just our subconscious thoughts can be picked up with expression. She picturized, prayerized and filled her mind with hope and positivity.

Not that this applies to you but I thought this was quite interesting and your story reminded me of it.

God bless you

praying fore peace, strength and restoring of your marriage

I wish time healed wounds quicker and that I could figure out what god is trying to tell me because I am tired of the tears and feeling as if I am alone and not good enough

Hi dear sad to hear
look this wat happen now you have to tell Jesus he is our advocate.iam just a saying for your faith to be strong it may give you courage. 12years ago I came from Pakistan to south Africa I did bible study and in 12years I have never been home to Pakistan and I am missionary in south Africa and serving the lord .there were many night I felt I am alone and I am just a go back to my family but my focus was the gospel . Now I was staying alone alone no one was with me work hard to make people happy .than I have realize this is happening that I may come close to the father Nd those situation help me draw close to god . So today am a happy and smily person in my life I still never go but Jesus let us go through some time
so trust in god I will really keep you in my prayer

God bless you