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faithfulone1995

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i love my boyfriend very much..we have started our whole relationship over...i am a christian..he is not..i know it is best for me to be with someone who is a christian..i need some prayers that his heart will be touched by God..he has started going to church but it does not seem to touch him..i will do whatever it takes..i have made him listen to songs..have gave him some christian advice but he seems to just not be interested..please pray that God will touch his heart and change him..save him..change him and his life..i am believing God for this miracle for my boyfriend..if we come together in agreement..there will be one more life saved! thank you!
 
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BarlyGurl

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ummm... YOU, christian girl, should NOT have a boyfriend who is not a christian.
 
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Jordache

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My dear, you don't want to here this, but you can't save your boyfriend. You don't get to pray him to Jesus. You should break up. Let him find God on his own. Pray for him from a distance. But do not risk you own walk by dating him who by your own admission isn't even interested in God.
 
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Tommy4Christ

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faithfulone1995 said:
i love my boyfriend very much..we have started our whole relationship over...i am a christian..he is not..i know it is best for me to be with someone who is a christian..i need some prayers that his heart will be touched by God..he has started going to church but it does not seem to touch him..i will do whatever it takes..i have made him listen to songs..have gave him some christian advice but he seems to just not be interested..please pray that God will touch his heart and change him..save him..change him and his life..i am believing God for this miracle for my boyfriend..if we come together in agreement..there will be one more life saved! thank you!
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You are not to be yoked with unbelievers, but sad to say this is the norm in the apostate church today, since most are not following Jesus on the narrow road. You both need to depart, stop putting yourself in harms way with temptation, and I sure hope you are not fornicating with him. I dont know your heart, but you need to get right with God first, and you both need too repent, and seek the mercy of God.

God has nothing for the double minded, lukewarm Christians, He wants your heart and you must repent, and count the cost of following Him, which might mean seperation from all temptation, your church, and many other things!
A Call to Repentance
Joel,2-12 “Now, therefore,” says the LORD,
“Turn to Me with all your heart,
With fasting, with weeping, and with mourning.”
13 So rend your heart, and not your garments;
Return to the LORD your God,
For He is gracious and merciful,
Slow to anger, and of great kindness;
And He relents from doing harm.
14 Who knows if He will turn and relent,
And leave a blessing behind Him—
Here is more strong proof what the lord requires of His creation to be reconciled to Himself, it’s very simple but made so complicated by the heaps and heaps of pastors and ministries who have the nerve to say mankind does NOT have to repent to be saved.
They come with a simple plan that was concocted by many reformed preachers and bible scholars, making the way to the cross more of a simple confession you are a sinner, then accepting the great substitution Jesus miraculously made for them, but they fail to give any proof that the word of God let alone the King of Kings taught this non sense!
Many will fight with all they have to preserve their man made doctrines including original sin, which then gives them many excuses to ignore the powerful verse above as well as many more strong warnings to repent, turn, come broken in heart before the mercy seat, and hope and pray God will grant pardon!
Now if this was being preached in the church system today, and well understood by the saved in sin defenders, then the mess Christianity is in today would not be so, instead, the word of God would become real, and powerful, converting the lost soul, once in love with sin, rebellion and the world, now cleansed and purged of all filthiness, and wickedness, ready to receive the implanted word of God!
But today these verses are totally ignored, and replaced with a sin message, undermined by many, many, reformed errors, where simple repentance is lost in a sea of original sin, imputation, substitution, OSAS etc, producing a church that was called poor, blind and naked by Jesus Himself!
2 Corinthians 6;17 The.refore
“Come out from among them
And be separate, says the Lord.
Do not touch what is unclean,
And I will receive you.”[d]
18 “I will be a Father to you,
And you shall be My sons and daughters,
Says the LORD Almighty.”[e]
Act 26:20 But to those first in Damascus, and Jerusalem, and to all the country of Judea, and to the nations, I made known the command to repent and to turn to God, doing works worthy of repentance.
Tommy
PS. We must come to Jesus on His terms, not mans, I know many are taught the opposite today, they either were indoctrinated into these teachings at an early age, and refuse to even search the scriptures, search what the early church taught, or dig deep to see just how far off the mark many liberal translations of the Bible are.
When the reformation came about, around the year 1500, many denominations were formed that took these errors and built on them, leading to what we have today! Many will profess anything different from what their beloved denominations teach is heresy, and a lie, especially those who cling to Calvinism, or any form of it.
This I understand, and accept, as God predicted this would happen, when the few remnant come with the truth. But it’s a bitter pill to swallow, when you see so many sincere people, young and old, so angry and upset when the truth is presented to them, and they attack the messenger.
To me this shows just how far off the mark they are in their minds, they love the lie, refuse to hear anything else except the born sinner, Jesus sub plan, made so famous by the likes of Billy Graham, Ed Young, and many more mega preachers, selling a gospel that is totally backwards from what the early church and Christ taught.
Are we full of pride and arrogant to say these things? Are we evil, uncaring, and full of hate when we confront the wall of deception accepted as truth today?
I guess I can also say this about the many who cling to the saved IN sin message, repeat after me crowd, who has every excuse why they can sin with impunity, then just confess, and then continue as a vile sinner in heart, where purity and separation is a pipe dream never to be accomplished in this life, even though the whole council of God is against them.
Dig deep as commanded, have some confidence in the Lord to lead you into truth, not some ministry or church pastor you support, who clings to these errors for whatever reason.
The gospel according to godliness is a TO DO gospel, which can only be received and understood in its form and context when the sinner wakes up and does this:
James 1-21-22;
21 So get rid of all uncleanness(repent) and the rampant outgrowth of wickedness, and in a humble (gentle, modest) spirit receive and welcome the Word which implanted and rooted [in your hearts] contains the power to save your souls.
22 But be doers of the Word [obey the message], and not merely listeners to it, betraying yourselves [into deception by reasoning contrary to the Truth].!
1, You repent first and foremost, see 2 Corinthians 7-10-11.
2, Then if the repentance is real, and from the heart, godly sorrow as described in 2 Corinthians, you then can receive the implanted word of God, and understand it as written by God.
3, Now you become a passionate doer of the word, obeying God from your heart, cleansed and purified, broken and willing to learn and grow more, and more in His great truth.
 
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Adloe

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I've discovered personally that u coz ur own heartache wen u fall in-love with a person that disapproves ur beliefs,bt reali it wont work.if a person rejects christ then wat mre can you do,only god has everlasting mercy,i pray god intervenes.bt u cnt live in such hope tho u can.its gna b hard bt u have 2 go seperate ways.{peace and love
 
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SheLovesJesus

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I know you really don't want to hear this....trust me I didn't either. You really need to breakup. I know its hard and you feel like your hearts shattered and you will never love again, but you will!! It is not good to be with a nonbeliever. Trust me when I say you cannot make him Love Jesus the way you do! I wasted 3 years of my life trying to convince a man that he needed Jesus. You will never be able to have a relationship that works if you are unequally yoked. Trust me God has someone for you, it may not seem like it now but he does and he will be everything you've ever wanted and more. He will draw you closer to God and it will be so worth it. Hang in there girl, I know you can do it!! If you ever need to talk I am here for you. :)
 
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Ugly

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You can pray pray pray for someone to be saved, but really what you're doing is praying against someones free will, which God will not override. This man has to make a personal choice to come to God, and that choice should have nothing at all to do with you. Lets say he does 'convert', how can you believe he's sincere and not just playing a part to pacify you. You can never be sure of his heart as long as his emotions for you are involved.
I know a man who prayed 20 years for his mother to get saved. Are you willing to wait 20 years? 30? What if it never happens? How long do you plan on staying in a relationship with someone you shouldn't be with to begin with, in hopes he will one day decide to follow God? 1 year? 2 years? 3 years? All the while you are just trailing him along and using him for selfish reasons if you have no intent to marry him if he doesn't become a Christian.
Or are you willing to marry someone who obviously shows no real support of your faith and can never be the spiritual head of the household that God requires husbands to be. How is he going to fulfill that position in your life? Are you willing to defy biblical standards to date someone God likely doesn't want you with to begin with?
I know its tough, i've been down this road myself, but eventually you have to put your self and your emotions aside and put God first and do what you know is right, deep down inside.
 
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faithfulone1995

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then i will do this on my own..i will not leave him..there is no way..i might not be able to save Him...but i am already improving..and he is already getting help..there is such thing as nonbelievers coming to be believers.and i will not give up on letting this testimony happen but thanks for your opinion even thou i know it may be true.
 
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HeIsNowHere

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You love him physically with a lustful love not a spiritual love because he is not born again and cannot accept things of God. It is nice for you to share and pray for him but you need to leave him now or you will be disappointed. God has someone for you who is in the family of God. I do not know what your love means but if it is sexual it is wrong. Again, you are going to have your heart broken if you do not leave this alone.
 
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Hugs faithfulone, alot of advice already and Im sure some not easy to hear.
I just want to witness to you that to be with an unbeliever does bring alot of heartbreak and pain.
I will pray in Jesus's name, for you and your boyfriend, and for all salvation in Jesus for him.
But do pay heed to the scriptures on this, as there is great wisdom in them. :)

Hugs and God bless
pickles
 
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liz247

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My dear sister in Christ Ipray that your boyfriend does find the Lord as his Savior and Lord in the meantime give yourselve to the Lord and allow the Lord to work in his life also. Don't push Jesus on him but allow the Lord to draw him to Himself, otherwise it may not be the real thing as he may say that he belives in Jesus but what kind of walk is it really for your boyfriend. Yes Jesus wants your boyfriend to know Him but He knows your boyfriend better than you do. Pray for him but ask yourselve why, is it for yourselve or ultimately for his salvation.
 
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Lucy68

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Praying for your boyfriend...may his eyes and ears be open to the truth. Guard you heart, little one.
 
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faithfulone1995

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i let nothing get in the way of my relationship with God like i used to before..and i never will again..i do not plan on getting back on that track....with all the hell that i am going through right now...i never feel like doing anything but i do anyways because i know that God is the only One who can really help me with anything...
with my boyfriend...if there is no major change in quite a while...then i know i have no choice but to leave him..i know there is no choice when it comes to that....but right now..im proud he is giving it a chance and i have already seen change in him..i ask everyone at my church to pray for him..if only you could talk to him for yourselves and see the improvement in him.
 
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Jesus_1st

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I don't think it is wrong to be dating a non-believer but marrying them is a different story. I am in a similar situation right now as my girlfriend is a non-believer and it makes it rough because I so badly want to share my excitement for Christ with my potential wife. I think you shouldn't give up on him and let it play out, if it's meant to be then it'll happen and if not then it won't. I hope it works out for you either way.=)
 
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Forgive

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Keep in mind, someone you date , you will eventually marry. Otherwise, what is the point? They are right, you are not, according to Gods Word, supposed to be unequally yoked. God tells us plainly as believers that we are not to marry un-believers. Another scripture to keep in mind is "You will have no other gods before Me". If you choose your boyfriend over Gods Word, this is a form of idolitry as well as rebellion. Be careful. I know love is a strong feeling. I know the responsibility you feel towards someone you love when you know they are lost. Keep praying for him. I would suggest fasting and prayer, asking God that if this guy is the one, that God would open his heart to the draw of the Holy Spirit. If your boyfriend rejects Christ, that is your answer. He has to make this choice himself. The fruits of the spirit will tell you the truth, if he is truly giving himself to God or not. If he is not, then you know what you have to do. My prayers are with you and him for his salvation, as God wishes for no man to be lost. Let God guide your decisions on this through His Word. God bless.
 
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