Broken relationship

Hi!
I'm not quite sure how this works but I thought I'll give it a try.
So here's my story! (sorry if it's a bit long haha. but the prayer request is at the bottom!)

When I was 16 I met this boy. I know people say it's too young and all that but we really where a perfect match.
I was young and I don't remember how my faith was but I do know that I prayed to God to "give" that guy to me so we can be together. I did that a lot. And eventually we ended up together.
(oh and he's not a christian but he knew I was and was okay with it)

For 3 years we were together until he decided he wanted to end it.
The last 6 months we fought a lot about nothing and I guess he finally had enough. (the foughts started when we moved in together)
Even though we actually never talked about why we fought. I tried to explain that people fight.
They do and that's when they need to talk in order to get past it but he just believes that couples aren't supposed to argue or fight.
And then we have a lot of problems in my family that probably was hard for him to handle as well. Since he comes from a very steady home and so on. (My mom was beaten a couple of times and we had to go there and get her and my younger brother. Anyway that's a completely different thing that has been solved now by the grace of God )

So the reason he told me was that he does not want to be in a relationship at all and that he doesn't want to fight.
It has soon been a month but we still have an apartment together so he lives at his parents now and I in the apartment.
So we have contact a lot but this was and IS really hard for me.

Since I can't make sure what God wants.
Does he want me to wait for him and just pray or does he want me to move on?
I don't know and I've been trying to figure out for a while.
I pray more now than ever and the only thing I've been told is that I need to learn to trust him.
But I feel I can't move on and life my life normally if I don't know what to do with this guy.

Everyone tells me that I need to look into my heart and I will know if he's the right one and if I just need to wait.
But I don't. I can't feel anything else but sorrow.
I know I want to be with him but then again that's what I want...

So I just figured if more people could help me pray in this matter!
I want him to become a christian. I KNOW that he feels empty and I believe God is calling for him but he's not gonna go there unless he gets the push.
So yeah. If anyone wants to help me pray for him so that he can become a christian and so that I may get an answer from Jesus. What I'm supposed to do here and what I'm supposed to do with him!

Thank you beforehand and God bless you!

Praying in agreement in Jesus's name for all you ask.

You should not keep your life on hold, live your life, for if this man is to be with you, no matter where your life goes, he will be there.

Scripture says, man may choose his course, but God determines His steps.
Simply said, move forward in your life, God will decide your steps.

God bless
pickles

Thank you so much pickles! It means a lot!

Praying

I went through a little something similar with a nice young man who wasn't Christian. In the end, I broke it off with him. I love him dearly, but it wasn't biblical Love. It was all emotional love and very unsteady (Not to say that being emotionally in-love with someone is wrong). But I refuse to build a relationship founded on what my wicked heart and society deems what real love is.


Put your foot down and decide what kind of relationship you want with your future husband. Will you build the foundation on Biblical love centered around Christ? or will you (and your future husband) build it solely on societies definition of love?




Voddie Baucham - Biblical Love - YouTube

Hi! Thank you!

And the thing is that I believe that God can turn him.
If he's the one then that's possible
I believe and trust in Jesus. I try to learn to just live everyday as it comes right now and just place my trust in him.
It's hard though. I have so little patience and I want it so dearly to happen right now.
And that's what I have to learn I think

Tsure I want to share with you my story. I was living with a man who I loved dearly for over a year when I gave my life back to the Lord. He didn't commit to Jesus like I did. Needless to say it ended.

I prayed with everything I had to keep him but God separated me from him because I was sinning by living with him unmarried. I had to make a choice. Did I want my own happiness over what I knew God wanted from me-to live a godly life? God knew that my ex would never be a sold out Christian so He moved him out of my life. He's married now and I wish him well.

Sex outside of marriage is something I can't do now. But because I know God wanted to me to be holy as He is holy I am now single. I am waiting till marriage. I've been single over 2 years now and God gives me the willpower to resist temptation and wait for a mate that God choses.

Pray long and hard about your decision. I will pray too that the Lord gives you clarity to see what He wants you to know.

Thank you for sharing!

I truly hope that it's not my mind that tricks me to believing that he's the one.
Because I really feel in my heart as well. At least I know that God is calling for him.
That's why I hope that he will turn now and yeah..
I actually don't know but i'm praying a lot!

Thank you for praying and God bless you!

I'll try my best even though it's really hard. Due to things in my life I'm extremely scared of being alone...

Thank you so much and God bless you!!

I was afraid of being alone also but what I realized is that I was never alone. Jesus is always with me. I have to learn how to love and forgive myself before I can truly give my all to someone else.

It's scary standing on your own two feet rather but that's where the healing begins. I have had a really hard life and was damaged in every way. I used relationships as a crutch to meet my needs, but only God could fill that void. And only by having to rely only on Him and Him alone has the healing of my past started. You can do it with God's help.

Run to Him and don't try to substitute God's love with mortal men. Don't settle for anyone else but a man who loves God with all his heart.

Praying that God will heal and restore your relationships, in Jesus Name!By this gospel you are saved, if you hold firmly to the word I preached to you. Otherwise, you have believed in vain.

Put the man in God hands and move on if it is meant to be it will be but know.......God has a better plan for you than you can ever make for yourself......Stay positive stay close to your church's community and pray for others.....focus on living a healthy and spiritual life ......have faith all you know that is right and desire in your heart God will provide in time .....not your time his time......treat yourself good and love yourself as a creation of God in the meantime.

Thank you everyone!
I'll try my best.
God bless you all!

Hi Tsure,I am unsure if you are still reading this thread but i hope all goes good for you. I will leave this message for you and anyone else that stops by with the same type of issue as its very common now days.I am currently going through a similar situation with my 5yr marriage, my girl just pulled the plug for no reason and i am debastated. As much as i believed she was the right "forever" person, i work hard on remembering that when i pray i ask for his will in my life. For sometimes we ask for things in our own selfish way.God will always answer your prayers, but ask for what would be good in your spiritual life and how you can best serve him, he will take care of the rest. However, If what you really want is this man in your life, he can also grants this wish from your heart, but you must show the lord that you are willing to make chages/sacrifices in your life... as many would say though, careful what you ask for as when we commit to something, we become responsible for it. Kneel to our Lord and Pray (cast a plan out) to Jesus and then ask him for guidance, this has worked for me many times...give, ask, and you recieve.James 4:3"When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures."God Bless You and will be praying that your loved one is brought to salvation

Thank you for this very good answer!
I truly believe this myself as well! And I've finally come to the conclusion that I DO want him in my life.
Not only for me but also so that I can help him find God so that he will be saved.
And I'm prepared to make changes in my life as well!
I'm currently praying that God will make a change in his heart so that he will turn to Christianity and so that he will come back to me. I also pray that he will change me in the ways needed so that I can be what's best for both myself and this guy.I pray for patience, faith, trust and love. And I hope and wish with my whole heart that he will make this happen.
I wish for it with my entire being hahah. (I also pray that I will never put anything before God)
Thank you again for this!
God bless you and I hope you can fix you problem!
I know God can!

Definitely there isnt anything God cant do Thanks ^_^!, i really hope she lets God back into her life and that our issue goes away. Should this not happen, God is always there to help me get through this episode of deep solitude that i currently feel. -- Stand strong on your side and place both your heart & faith in God's hands