felling alone please pray for my marrige.

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shortydoe

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I have been married for 27 yeas things were going ok until around
a year ago my husband seemed to change, after a long term job loss,I struggled right by his side through this time,but the past few months he has bad mood swings, doesnt come home from work untill hours later hangs with friends and sometimes doesnt come home at all until the next day, then he had a woman friend he did work for and started to stay and have a few drinks with her then it became more often, i confronted bolth of them but they swear they are just friends, i feel he should be spending time with his family, now he says he will not give her up as a friend and he is sick of bieng accused. I just dont feel he should be drinking with another women, and he just gets cold when i try to work things out. i feel like i am being controled that if he stays i have to accept what he wants to do. i feel so alone, i have 2 great children it is hurting. this is just not him anymore. how can someone change so much. please prey that his mind and soul comes back to his family. Lonely Doe.
 
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Father thank you for restoring this marriage, even better than before and for joy and peace
in it, all for your glory in Jesus name
 
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Hope things get better, Sis. I made a longer post to your other thread in which you mention this issue. To see it, click "control panel" at the top of your screen, then click on the thread. -Jill
 
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I hope it gets better:( sorry all of that is happening but hang in there and god bless you:) don't give up on god, let god take course and don't worry becuase god got it all figure out:)
 
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Stephen

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I'm very sorry to hear your husband is making a bad situation worse. Since you have told him how this is all making you feel it is known and further mention will probably be received as "hounding him" or "nagging" and have bad results. I too am in a situation where my spouse seems to be detaching. I recommend you take this time as an opportunity to trust God and grow in the faith. praying for you
 
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SPUZIT

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Stephen, sounds lkr he is giving good advice,take this as a time to grow & mature in the lord, pray for your husband surrounding yourself with you're children, church, Bible, godly friends etc, I can understand your frustration ,just know that when u opened this post with your words u allowef all the prayer warriors to put you on their never ending prayer lists,even long after this trial is over...God bless you..
 
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Hisbride

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Dear Lord, I lift my precious sister in Christ up to you and ask that you would send your guardian angels to protect and guide her during this very delicate time in her life. Show her your perfect will for her life and marriage, and give her the strength and hope to believe that NOTHING is impossible with YOU! (Luke 1:37). . In Jesus Name Amen!

God bless!

~Tiffany
 
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Huge hugs shortydoe.
Praying for you, your husband, your marriage and your children in Jesus 's name.

God bless
pickles
 
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shekaniah

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You have my heartfelt prayers.
I agree with the other posts too.

Have you seen the movie Fire Proof?
You should try the 40 day love dare.
Family Ministries (AMFM) www.amfmonline.com

Father your child needs You -
give her wisdom and insight how to speak to her husband with a gentle and quiet spirit,
Full of hope, joy and inner beauty.
May she stay focused on how to thank and love her husband.
In Jesus Name, Amen

Try not to think about your hurt when you are around him,
it will just show up in your attitude and will make him think about the nice things other people say about him.
When your around him remember the reasons you love him.
Have a cheerful and greatful heart around him.
Remember other people are making him feel special...
if you just put him down...you will drive him away.
Love and Blessings, Shekaniah
 
pickles

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Shortydoe, How are you doing?
Just wanted to check on you . :)
If there is anything I have learned, it is that we cannot change another, the only thing we can change is what we do.
Trust all to God and hope they will recieve and decide to change.
When one gives the spouce to God, His power is glorified and perfect. :)
I gave my husband to God , and God did amazing things in Him. :)
I continue to keep you both and your family in my prayers.

Hugs and God bless
pickles
 
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shortydoe

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THANK YOU PICKLES EVERY DAY IS THE SAME NEVER KNOW WHAT TO EXPECT, I WONDER IF THINGS WILL EVER GET BETTER, BUT I STILL KEEP PRAYING AND READING HERE EVERY DAY I HELPS.
 
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Honey , I know exactly how your feeling what I can suggest you to do is to pray and fast in this situation......the battle is not with this woman it is a spiritual battle the devil is the one you need to get upset with hun.......You can message me if you want to talk. I will be praying for you hun....and stay strong in the power of the lord and his might.
 
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shortydoe said:
I have been married for 27 yeas things were going ok until around
a year ago my husband seemed to change, after a long term job loss,I struggled right by his side through this time,but the past few months he has bad mood swings, doesnt come home from work untill hours later hangs with friends and sometimes doesnt come home at all until the next day, then he had a woman friend he did work for and started to stay and have a few drinks with her then it became more often, i confronted bolth of them but they swear they are just friends, i feel he should be spending time with his family, now he says he will not give her up as a friend and he is sick of bieng accused. I just dont feel he should be drinking with another women, and he just gets cold when i try to work things out. i feel like i am being controled that if he stays i have to accept what he wants to do. i feel so alone, i have 2 great children it is hurting. this is just not him anymore. how can someone change so much. please prey that his mind and soul comes back to his family. Lonely Doe.
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I pray for you, sister. Don't let him put a guilt trip on you. He's the one messing up.
 
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lan12

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This is the devil and another of his ploys to destroy marriages and families but the stronger partner have to stand in the gap and pray awy these demonic forces of separation/distrust/resentment/hate......keeping u guys in prayer
 
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This sounds like mental illness, esp the mood swings and the controlling. He needs to see a counselor or psychiatrist. It might also be a mid-life crisis. Please see if you can get someone to intervene and get him to get professional help.

Sorry you are going through this torment, and praying that God will use the right people to set your husband straight!
 
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