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Hi. I'm new here. I can't say I'm an avid churchgoer, although I do pray a lot, and want to start going to church again. Lately I've been praying even more. For myself, which makes me feel selfish, but I've just been so heartbroken. I was in a three year relationship with my boyfriend and living with him. I was so very much in love and still am, and I believe he really did love me. He has been through a lot of things in his life the main one being losing his brother to suicide. I always used that as his excuse for shutting out his feelings and sometimes being cold towards me and even angry towards me. Towards the end we did fight a lot because he liked to go out and drink, and barely made time for me. I think this made him feel bad about himself too because he seemed to want to make me happy. The whole time during the breakup, which was about 4 months ago, he told me he was working on himself, he didn't love himself, and couldn't even be in a relationship. He would tell me that he hoped it did work out one day, but he wanted me to move on and be happy. He then told me on christmas he had a new girlfriend. This broke my heart, especially on Christmas, but to be fair I was texting a lot looking for more answers because I felt lonely and confused since it was the holidays. He text me again last night saying he still wanted to be friends, he cared about me, but he didn't feel that it was fair to stay with me because I wanted marriage, and he was unhappy. I guess...I just feel sort of helpless about it all. I can't seem to move on. I cry every day. I have even talked to someone. I feel so bad because my family feels terrible about how depressed I am. I pray for them too so they don't have to feel down like I do. I also pray for him that he finds his way. I know this new girl, and she is known for walking all over guys, and even though he broke my heart, I don't want him to get hurt...but then I feel bad because at the same time I don't want it to work out. I just want to trust in God, and have patience, and believe in whatever my journey is supposed to be. I pray that my ex finds what he's looking for...and even though I guess I can't really ask for it to work out with him...that's what I want. I'm just so confused. Advice, prayers, anything would help. I don't want to waste any more of my life feeling so down, and if not for me I want my family to feel happy that I'm happy. I want him to stop feeling bad that he hurt me. I want to understand what I'm supposed to do.
Thank you for reading.
Thank you for reading.