In Need of Some Help

I'm in a really tricky situation.

I recently became engaged to a wonderful guy. We met online and cannot stop talking to each other. We both hold the same values for life, both religiously and politically as well as emotionally. Most of all we both are madly in love. We haven't met in person yet, but we both really feel like God meant for us to find each other.

That being said, I'm in the middle of going to school to get a degree. What I'll actually use this degree for, I've no idea since it's all but useless, and am currently living with my parents. He lives in another state and wants us to get married and move-in together, as we both agreed we want to do things right.

The issue is: my parents would not approve of this and I'm afraid to talk to them about it in fear of them trying to keep me home against my will. They're not bad parents, and I love them both very, very much, but I'd hate to just up and leave them without a word.

I've been trying to tell myself that God will show me the right answer, but I feel like He's not saying anything to me, or if He is, I'm just not making sense of it.

Right now, I'm just praying that God speaks through someone to tell me what I should do. I love this man with all my heart and soul and I want to be with him, but I don't want to make my parents upset.

I would suggest meeting up for at least a few visits before you completely commit to moving and marrying somebody. That's the only wise way to approach it.

I do not know if this will help, and not to take scripture out of context, but I think what Iam posting is for the belikever all time
Matthew 10:19-20
[SUP] [/SUP]But when they arrest you, do not worry about what to say or how to say it. At that time you will be given what to say, [SUP]20 [/SUP]for it will not be you speaking, but the Spirit of your Father speaking through you.
I thinkj this is an on going trust for us the believers that in any situation we are to trust
Secondly itis probably good to actually meet each other before any final arrangments and talkingto your parents if you come out of the gait, that you would like them to pray about it and give their sage advice.
I have been married 30 years and it has not been a walk in the park for either side, and we onlt met and knew each other for two weeks and married. My mom and dad only knew each other for two weeks and wrote back and forth for ten years he sent her a plane ticket and they got married.
What can anyone truly say if you know you know, and it is your marriage, and your life. But if there is any doubt and you are not starry eyed all built up on emotion where you can't view things from a reality stance. then state your case. But all marriages are a work, not one is a little white picket fence and everything is just going to be okay. When two get together there are differances that are not forseen, This is for the rest of your life here on earth and this is not only for you to consider it is for him as well to consider.
Another thing to consider is are you at peace where you are at now? Is there trouble in your life presently or has been in the past that your thoughts are saying you won't have this problem anylonger. Because
John 16:33
“I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.”
Married not married troubles come and sometimes are very hardto deal with and in anger things are said that would not be said normally, anger creates weakness and fighting. so if you are ready to take this on and not become an issue then you probably are ready. Now the same goes for him as well
Also is there stereo typing, as in you are to be this way and I am to be this way, to the point that there is no discussing it even though you both are convinced you already covered this. So what are your pet peeves and what are his.
Again if you know you know and congradulations to the two of you.
Now this is through thick and thin
In Love homwardbound

I'm not trying to scary you, but i ever read someone's testimony. She met nice guy on the chat, they prayed online together in everyday, they talk so much, they keep contacting in every time. They felt so fall in love, and they believe that God has made both of them to be together, hence they decided to get married. Finally the lady going to meet the guy in his country, (they lived in different country ). They got married in the guy's country. Even though she never meet him before, but she really feel that guy is the right one for her and decide to marry him. 3 days after married, she got mistreat from his husband, and they were fighting and his husband said to her to go away from his house, she cannot stay even for a night at his husband house after that tragedy. She is so sad, and stay in hotel for a night and going back to her country.

Now she is back in her country, she need to start everything now, she sold her car when she decide to go meet her husband in his country, but now..she really regret for what she has made.

So, i suggest you, don't decide to marry him, or stay with him, before you know him as well. Better you meet him first to get to know him as well in the real life.

Hi Eaad81

Here is my take on things. If this man truly loves you and is committed to making a life with you AND is a Christian, then he will make sure to do things right by you. This being said, I assume he will make several trips to properly court you, meet your parents and ask for your hand in marriage. This Christian man should take the necessary steps to show you and your family how much he loves you.

You stated that you are in school but consider it useless. I'm confused by that statement. Guess you and this Christian man have discussed you will be staying home and starting a family (?). Or maybe you guys have discussed the roles of christian men and women etc... This is great! BUT! Again,,,, a Christian man holds God first, his family second and his wants/needs do not take priority. Same goes for you by the way.

I hope this situation is real and this man is not using you. He needs to prove himself! Plain and simple!!

some of my best lessons came from making the wrong decisions ..
If I can tell you anything, remember ... gods yolk is easy

Have you ever looked up "catfish: the tv show"?

Holdingon's suggestion is good, I agree, if this man loves you as spoken to, the best thing he can do is to come to your home and meet your parents.
For if you valuable, he will make the investment to show how greatly he values you.
The first actions often reviel the actions that will define your life together.
Praying in Jesus for you both, and your parents as well.

God bless
pickles