I've lost my mind

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Hey, I'm really needing prayers. Most of you all know I have a very tense relationship with my mother and I'm pretty close to just walking out the door. I won't have a place to stay for a while and I don't have a car or a job: definition--I'll be considered homeless and without health care. I love my mom. Don't get me wrong but she has turned me into her maid and I'm fed up with it. It's to the point to where I have no time to put in job apps because I am always having to clean this and having to clean that while she sits back and does nothing but watch. I really cannot handle it anymore and I'm at my last straw...if there are even any straws left. I can't just negotiate with her because she is one of those parents who think "it's either my way or the highway." I am pretty close to choosing the highway route. I have a friend in Ohio who I will be staying with if push comes to shove when this does happen. The thing is she wants me to get a job but the job hunt is becoming difficult because I'm not being given appropriate time to apply for jobs. I'm close to just taking that leap of faith and having to lean on God because I don't know what to do anymore.
 

freed4ever

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Hello,
I sorry about your relation ship with your mother and you job hunting. I see you have a computer, have you tried to put I applications over the net? I do not know what is really going on but I
 
May 9, 2012
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I have put in plenty of job apps over the net but my particular field (social work) requires a Master's Degree and experience...I am a recent college grad so the whole experience achieving status is impossible until I get My Master's. Not to mention I have loans to pay off which will make things more difficult... The whole situation is a mess..
 

jogoldie

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Did you know that most jobs only take applications online....I work for a popular coffee place......without saying their name....
Point is....they hired me and I had no idea or experiance there...but they will hire you and they have one of the best
Healthcare packages ive seen....also they have funds for employees to help pay for school....I think if you get away
And not in the house all day it would make a great improvement....they will hire you part time to start and
thats 20hrs...full benefits....if you want to talk about it with me I would love to help....
Dont for get to pray on every application you submit....i know thats is how i got my job....peace ...jo
 
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I've had interviews. I have one tomorrow via Skype for an internship in Boston, MA. They would give me a stipend enough to cover for shelter and food...but I have loans to pay off as well so that internship wouldn't be so do-able for me. I had one in Sandy Springs, GA but I have no way to get there. I live in a semi-rural area and most of the jobs have moved to the cities :/ The whole thing is frustrating and with my mother making things difficult, it is not being easy for me.
 

jogoldie

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Dont take this the wrong way.....maybe your looking at ....your obstacles.....instead of your goal....
So many reasons why you cant......maybe you should focus on what you can do and let God cover you on the cants....
Do you trust God???? Then why are these school loans not given to Him....give it all to Him.....
You cannot turn away a job in your field cause it doesnt cover you comforable with money....its a start.....be careful
not to walk away from an opportunity God has given you because you dont see the whole picture.....anything seems better than
what is happening....boston to me sounds kinda kewl....check it out...go on an adventure....if it doenst work out
you can always go back.....I think once you have flew on your own....you will struggle.....but we all did.....and im better for it...
But I loved it....struggle and all...your loans arent getting paid waiting....ask God what you should do ...for I dont know what that is...
But sitting in a lose ,lose. Situation is only making it worse......
 

levi85

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Lord Jesus , please help her , Amen.
 
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Sweetheart, i'm sorry you're going through this because at your age as a woman you really still need that motherly sense of affection and protection, i'm so very sorry you're receiving battling and opposition instead. I'm sure that must be very hurtful deep down. The best advice i can give you is to pray for the Lord to give you a spiritual mother and a spiritual family that will provide the loving support you so desperately need right now. The bible says " If my mother and father forsake me, then the Lord will take me up".

You need to be surrounded with people who want to see you prosper and will support you in that direction, it really saddens me that you're not receiving this at home and might have to leave because of that. Please don't despair and pray that the Lord will remove any heart of stone from your mother, grant her a tender heart of flesh, that she may have compassion on her child and receive the love of Christ for herself.

Make sure to pray very intensely before any move, because the bible also says " lean not on your own understanding but in all your ways acknowledge God and He will make your path straight".

No matter what the situation looks and feels like, don't make a move until you have bowed your knees and yielded everything to the Lord, begging for his direction and wisdom. Then receive it by faith and WAIT upon Him.

Father God i lift up this Young woman to your throne today, begging you Oh loving and righteous Father, to intervene in her situation and to provide the peace and the space and the support she needs in order to move forward in her job search. I pray also Lord that you will show her what is her mission, that she may above all else be driven by the desire to serve your purpose with her life, and please Father protect her and bless her, help her to praise and worship you even in the midst of trials, in Jesus name. Let every conspiracy to frustrate her promotions in life, be scattered, in Jesus MIGHTY name. Lord fill up her table with blessings and anoint her in the very presence of her enemies, in Jesus name. Lord let every oppression of the devil against her peace and progress be exposed and destroyed, in Jesus name. Father turn her oppressions into a promotion and let those that hate her without cause be disgraced and disappointed, in Jesus name. AMEN
 
May 9, 2012
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It's official. I'm walking to Ohio tonight. I'm done with this thing I called my family.
 

tourist

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It's official. I'm walking to Ohio tonight. I'm done with this thing I called my family.
At least you did not put the word, family in quotation marks. Never a good sign. Why don't you sleep on this, dear. In the morning you will be more refreshed for a nice, long brisk walk, around the block. Not Ohio. I have been there many times. Believe me, it is not worth the trip. I have walked around the block as well, and even that can be problematic at times.
 
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JustAnotherUser

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If you feel it's the best thing then go for it... Parents can sometimes just be a pain and it's almost like it's done on purpose that they don't want to see you progress and move on... I actually had an argument with my mother before with that and she's very good at manipulating and I've just been falling under the same trap for years... I'm getting tired of it. It's either that or they just don't care.

Anyway, I hope that you will do what's best and the results of it will be good. Take care.
 
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I'm pretty sure I'd be happier being homeless than living with a woman who is a control freak about everything in my life and doesn't accept my introversion..
 

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Hey, I'm really needing prayers. Most of you all know I have a very tense relationship with my mother and I'm pretty close to just walking out the door. I won't have a place to stay for a while and I don't have a car or a job: definition--I'll be considered homeless and without health care. I love my mom. Don't get me wrong but she has turned me into her maid and I'm fed up with it. It's to the point to where I have no time to put in job apps because I am always having to clean this and having to clean that while she sits back and does nothing but watch. I really cannot handle it anymore and I'm at my last straw...if there are even any straws left. I can't just negotiate with her because she is one of those parents who think "it's either my way or the highway." I am pretty close to choosing the highway route. I have a friend in Ohio who I will be staying with if push comes to shove when this does happen. The thing is she wants me to get a job but the job hunt is becoming difficult because I'm not being given appropriate time to apply for jobs. I'm close to just taking that leap of faith and having to lean on God because I don't know what to do anymore.
I feel for you. I am in a somewhat similar situation myself. I am now on the 6 month plan, save some money and then hit the road for parts unknown. At least you have a destination in mind. I have a straw that I can give you seeing that you are on your last one. I think that I will take a walk around the block. I have a lot on my mind as well. Don't do anything rash, dear.
 
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I'm pretty sure I'd be happier being homeless than living with a woman who is a control freak about everything in my life and doesn't accept my introversion..
You don't have to leave physically in order to take control of your own life, and you don't have to disrespect your Mom to do it. You don't even have to fight with her. It is simply a matter of your facing facts.

God gave you a good mind and abilities, and has a plan for your life. You are aware that God's plan for you is not doing more than your share of the housecleaning. Simply go to the Lord and say Yes, Lord. Your Mom has certain rights, you have certain rights, but she has no right to take over what belongs to you and God. If she tries simply tell her no. If she fights about it, "no" is enough you don't need to argue about it.
 
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RedTent, my mother is not a person anyone can negotiate with. That's why she's called a control freak.
 
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This is a good thing that you lost your mind, as you realize this, and are feeling this, the word of God, says, the carnal mind, is death, you might be feeling this, as the Holy spirit promoted you in prayer. But the mind of Christ, is life and peace. We all need to lose get rid of our carnal mind, and have the mind of Christ. When Joseph was a slave, then made a Governor of Egypt, it was God who promoted him. Sometimes were tested, and pruned from our carnal nature into being engrafted into the nature of God, to be promoted as the nine fruits are made manifested, shown, and remain, in our lives. It is honorable to the Lord, for you to HOnor your mother. If she would be taken home quickly, regrets arise, and the Lord dosn't want you suffering with condemnations, but his convictions of loving her. He gave you to her to love her. Each one of his gifts, are from him, as it says children are a gift from the Lord. When we walk in the ways of the Lord he will bless, as the commandments says, honor and it shall be well with you. It is not God's plan for your family to split, Lord, speak to her mother, through these prayers in agreement, remove strife, in the name of Jesus Christ.
 
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Yes God calls us to honor our parents. I get that. But that command is only conditional if they return the same to you...and she doesn't. So, yeah. My bags are packed.
 
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CHRISTENE

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Prayed,

Glory be to God.

May God be your closest companion in the journey of life.

Psalm 23:1-4,6
1 The Lord is my shepherd, I lack nothing.

2 He makes me lie down in green pastures,

he leads me beside quiet waters,

3 he refreshes my soul.

He guides me along the right paths
for his name’s sake.

4 Even though I walk

through the darkest valley,[a]
I will fear no evil,
for you are with me;
your rod and your staff,
they comfort me.

6 Surely your goodness and love will follow me
all the days of my life,
and I will dwell in the house of the Lord
forever.
 
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Prayed,

Glory be to God.

May God be your closest companion in the journey of life.

Psalm 23:1-4,6
1 The Lord is my shepherd, I lack nothing.

2 He makes me lie down in green pastures,

he leads me beside quiet waters,

3 he refreshes my soul.

He guides me along the right paths
for his name’s sake.

4 Even though I walk

through the darkest valley,[a]
I will fear no evil,
for you are with me;
your rod and your staff,
they comfort me.

6 Surely your goodness and love will follow me
all the days of my life,
and I will dwell in the house of the Lord
forever.
Ms. Christene:

Great Psalm! :)

Good to read in conjunction with John 10 and the verses about the Good Shepherd, and with Hebrews 13.20, 'that great shepherd of the sheep'.

Blessings.
 

pickles

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Ill be praying for you, your mom and your family in Jesus's name.

Hugs and God bless
pickles