Long Marriage About to End???

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bailey

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I married my husband right after high school and that was almost 25 years ago. In August I found out he was involved in several on-line dating sites and confronted him about it. First he lied and said he wasn't involved, then finally admitted he was but he would stop and never do it again. I haven't found any more evidence that he has been or that he has ever had a physical affair. I wanted to make my marriage better so he wouldn't be tempted again and stayed, but have been suspicious of every little thing he does. Yesterday, I found out (not from him!!!!) he has been taking male enhancement pills since June. First he said they were "for me" and then he said they were prescribed by a Dr. to give him more energy. I am tired of not trusting my husband and he is angry that I keep accusing him of wrong-doing. I've prayed and cried and screamed til I'm exhausted. He swears he loves me and nothing is going on anymore. But he also refuses to actually talk much about it and has never apologized. I don't want a divorce but I am confused, scared, and tired! I keep praying for God to give me the strength and wisdom to either love him again or leave him. And I am getting no answers.
 
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pickles

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Hugs Baily, praying for you and your husband in Jesus Christ is Lord.
Give your husband to Jesus in prayer, trust In God and love your husband.
By giving your husband to God, His perfect care and work can be done in your husband.
I witness to this as one who now lives the healing God does. :)

Hugs and God bless
pickles
 
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shekaniah

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Bailey,

You are not alone...
I hear this story often.
Men are passing them around at work and friends.

The on line dating sites do send out a red flag.
Maybe you should try to go to counceling with him?
I would not give up on your marriage just yet.

A good book to read is "His needs Her needs".

I will send up a prayer for the both of you too!
Love and big Jesus hugs, Shekaniah
 
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psychomom

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{{{Bailey}}} (<----those are big hugs!)
I hear the pain in your words!

I sorrow with you, dear one.
I am asking the Lord for direction, and mostly for your peace.
I know this sounds...not great ;)
but sometimes the answer is in the waiting. &#9829;

We wait for the Lord's will, and we always want that, right? :)
Those lovely ladies above me gave terrific advice.
I can't imagine how hard it would be, but
just let go of this. Leave your husband in God's hands,
and just love him, as his wife, lover, and helpmeet.
That's your best witness, and God asks that of us for our good.
If you have no clear direction........wait. :)

In loving him, you 'heap burning coals on his head',
which is meant as a help, not a punishment, my dear!
In loving him, you are giving him what he needs, just as those coals
signified helping someone whose fire had gone out.

I am praying for grace for you, and for the Lord's own peace.
love,
ellie
 
Shilo

Shilo

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Your Supernatural Marriage is a book written by Bob and Audrey Meisner . Audrey fell into adultery this is their story and how they now have a marriage that is better and stronger then never before. I am not saying this has happened to you only that there are teachings in restoring a marriage in the book. Another book is the Power of a praying wife.

My heart breaks for both of you I pray your marriage be fully restored. In Yesua&#8217;s name let it be.
 
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Po1492

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I am praying for you and your husband in this matter. Praying that God's loving grace will give you comfort and peace during this hard time and that your marriage will survive if it is His will. Personally I would recommend finding a christian marriage counselor to visit-they can show you, through God's word, how to help trust your husband again and your husband how to REGAIN your trust. Communication between the two of you would also be a good start.
 
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