Marriage falling apart...

Please pray for me.

It looks like a divorce is looming. I was a backsliding Christian most of my life as a result of being a young Christian (11 years old) and not growing at all in the beginning. When I married my Catholic husband I was ignorant of religion, I just had no idea.

I came back to God last year (May 2011) and ever since that day our marriage has been a disaster, a constant spiritual warfare. I've become a lot more interested in spiritual things and I've shared truth with him multiple times. He even did some 'searching' admitting to finding errors in Catholicism but he didn't pursue it any further and refused to talk about it. I think he was in denial. I can't believe he found errors and chooses to remain there. He was a backsliding Catholic when we were together and this change in me seemed to push him in the wrong direction - towards Catholicism unfortunately.

I really thought God rescued marriages because He doesn't like divorce. I'm confused about why God kept me in this marriage for the last year if He wanted it to end like this? I really don't understand. I've been so faithful to God throughout all this persecution I've received from my husband and his Catholic family. I also told my husband I wouldn't have children with him if he wanted to raise them Catholic. He's just so stubborn.

I've been so patient and have prayed God will save him but it's not happened yet and it's tearing us apart as a result because we're unequally yoked.

Another thing that upsets me is that when his family stays here he puts a statue and painting of Mary in the guest room along with candles, so they can do their daily prayer rituals to Mary.. all of this going on in our house. The house was also blessed with Holy water by a Catholic priest I feel like this all just contributes to the spiritual warfare. Satan really is digging his claws in.

So sad about this and just can't make sense of any of it

Oh Katy, I am so sorry, I had so much hope for you both.
God did open your husbands eyes, but he was simply afraid to look.
This religion can, through one's family have strong holds, and they are difficult to break,
for fear is used alot to hold one bound.
You know my prayers continue for you both, sometimes its not that God has not brought the change, its just that He is just not yet finished.
I will keep praying in Jesus for you both, and that Jesus will bring you the comfort and streangth you need.

Huge hugs and God bless
pickles

i dont have a problem with other denominations and it wouldnt upset me if my hubby was catholic so i prob dont have anything useful to say...i would think it was sweet and appreciate the way they go about their religion. Its all christianity in the end and your kids will make their minds up on religion in the future anyway...

i hope that if you guys love eahcother you can be brouht back together...

Praying with a heart of compassion...
It is hard to agree to disagree when it come to believes.
Keep on praying...we will be praying with you.
In the love of Jesus, Shekaniah

Cast all these cares on Him, katyfollowingJ, for He cares for you.

Pick up all this burden on your heart and throw it to Jesus, He will show you, I know He will, He will carry all of this weight on His shoulders as you follow Him, waiting on Him to turn around as He walks with His face to the ground, thinking, praying what is going to be perfect for you to hear , and, waiting for the perfect time to put that weight back on your shoulders that is now so light, so light, milady, so light a burden. Trust Him now, katy, Him, Love him, the Lord leads, I know He will carry you through

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Thanks so much for all your prayers! It's great to have support from brothers and sisters in Christ

I feel this is another step on the ladder for me. God is strengthening me each time I go through these difficulties because I'm learning to depend more on Him and not myself to fix these things (big lesson). I decided to hand my husband over to Him to sort this situation out and I really have faith He's working on it right now. Being in this situation has pushed me to do 2 things in this coming week - things God is wanting me to do, and I can see why.

My prayer life has not been good over the last few months, but I've been praying more over the last week and God has given me tremendous peace. I feel like nothing could upset me right now because I feel really looked after and at peace regardless of what's going on around me. Amazing. It really goes to show how powerful prayer is! He's taught me to depend more on Him and to pray more (because He really does listen and answer).

Each time we go through a trial we get stronger.... imagine reaching that point where chaos is going on around you and you're walking past it all calmly and peacefully while everyone else stresses. My mum reminded me of Paul and Silas who were praying and singing hymns to God from jail (Acts 16). Amazing

Thanks all *hugs*

Very true. Jesus came to set us free from fear and burdens. You've reminded me of this scripture... Matthew 11:28-30: "Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.”


Thanks for your insight

Will pray .

Thanks!

Thanks for your prayers and thoughts, Lucy.


People are saved all the time and I know of some Catholics who become born again and then leave that church because they realize the teachings are in opposition to scripture (they realize they can't possibly follow God and Catholicism), but the difficult bit for many of them is to put their faith in Christ alone and not their works... they believe in works and faith for salvation when we know we are saved by faith alone and that works are a fruit of salvation. Until they can let go of their rituals and traditions they will remain Catholic. You have to let go of all manmade traditions and teachings and turn to God. A person may well be loving but it does not mean they are saved. My neighbor is lovely but she is not a Christian.


Born again Christians (real saved Christians) worship God in Spirit and in truth. Once a person has the truth they don't support errors.


There is only one truth, one Gospel message, not several. The truth is 100% correct. The reason we have denominations in the first place is because of disagreements on scriptures and the Gospel message - so each person set up a new church to suit their needs. Those who have the truth worship God in spirit and in truth and do not desire to separate themselves from other believers with the truth. I have a relationship not a religion. There's a big difference between the two.The Holy Spirit dwells in believers so we have the Spirit of God revealing things to us.


Catholicism is not Christian. Nothing that church teaches agrees with scripture at all. If you compare that church with the bible everything stands in complete opposition to biblical Christianity. My husband is lost, not saved, because he trusts in his works to make it to heaven. He doesn't trust in the blood of Jesus as sacrifice for sins once and for all. Therefore He does not have faith... and it is by grace through faith that we are saved.

No, it's a spiritual issue - if I were not a born again Christian then we would not have this current problem. Spiritual warfares happen when you have a child of God alongside a non Christian (unequally yoked)... because not both are saved. Both will clash because not both are born of the Spirit. My husband is not interested in Spiritual things, he doesn't have the fruits of a person that is saved.


Once we're born again we're equipped to help the lost. We know how to identify a person by their fruits and we know when we are or aren't equally yoked to someone. Otherwise how could we possibly help the lost as God has instructed? We're not supposed to leave people alone to die lost because once you're dead it's too late. First comes death and then judgment. There are no second chances if you're dead not having been born again. We are told to be "fishers of men".

Hi Katy,
First of all, stand and keep standing on the truth God has put in your heart. He is the light that your spiritual eyes can see. Never lose sight of that. I understand your burden for your husband. Mine is a Christian but when we first started, he was more of a "just fine, moderately growing" one. I remember praying, even groaning in the spirit whenenver i was alone in the house, asking God to set ablaze the in my hubby's heart to cause him to really arise in authority, wisdom, and understanding of the things of God. And indeed, now I see God's answer. I am quite "weaker" at the moment, being in so much turmoila. And it's amazing to see that God has caused him to grow so much that I can lean on him for encouragement, prayers, and understanding. His passion for God has tremendously intensified that I know now, as we are expecting children, he is a more equipped father. What I am saying is, pray and keep praying. Fast if you need to. Fasting and prayer is powerful. Galatians 6:9 tells us to not be weary in well doing, for we shall reap if we faint not. And it is not the will of God that marriages be broken for no matter how you both began, God honors the marriage covenant as He is the One who established it since the beginning of creation. And most importantly, keep showing love. Most of the time, we say exactly what we want but fail to realize that unless we are motivated by love and speak the truth in love, our efforts are like "a sounding brass or a tingling cymbal" - useless and frustrating. And it might even cause fights or a strain in the relationship. Get your message across through God's guidance and wisdom. He knows your motive. Let Him move in your situation as you continually delight yourself to Him. As you face each day, each trying moment, each difficult situation, I pray that God's grace be upon you to enable you to overcome. And know in your heart that He works in ways we cannot see, He makes all things work together for our good, and He makes all things beautiful in His time. Soak in His Word and in His presence. And may His peace that passes all understanding be upon you always.

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