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My younger brother, James, is really struggling. We are only 11 mos. apart so we were very close as young children, and not so close when he realized he was stronger than I am. He is not a Christian and he's gone through a series of relationships with some very broken girls. He falls hard and fast, so he was ready to marry each of them. The first ended upa crank addict. The second was in seriously codependent relationship with her alcoholic mother. He moved in and started supporting them, and it all blew up. The second girl was a Christian and he was going to church for a season. He's one of those people who thinks he's a Christian, but he's never had a true encounter with the Lord that led to genuine repentance.
He also had a difficult with my father. He idolized him, though my father was not the best man to idolize. My brother was never willing to accept what my dad was capable of. He considered my mother, sister, and I all liars who hated dad. When I finally confronted my father, James was very upset. He thought it wasn't a big deal if it even happened, and we should all forget about it. The police had a different opinion. He took it very hard when my dad died on June 10th. Naturally, he seems to not be able to remember anything bad about my dad. He still considers all the girls liars.
Recently, after an all too familiar attack from my mother, I was forced to also draw boundaries in that relationship. Within a week my whole family, primed by how she was talking about me, ended all communication with me. James is very manipulated by my mother. He is tha baby, and my mom has always pitted us against eachother. He texted me a message filled with expletives about how he was never speaking to me ever again. Today, he's posting FB messages again about me though I've done nothing to provoke him.
I love my brother. He just turned 27 and he's so disillusioned. It would kill him to ever accept that his father was a pedophile, and his mom is dangerously manipulative. He needs Jesus. Right now he's moved in girlfriend number 3 and she has a 3 yr.old little boy. He's become daddy.
He also had a difficult with my father. He idolized him, though my father was not the best man to idolize. My brother was never willing to accept what my dad was capable of. He considered my mother, sister, and I all liars who hated dad. When I finally confronted my father, James was very upset. He thought it wasn't a big deal if it even happened, and we should all forget about it. The police had a different opinion. He took it very hard when my dad died on June 10th. Naturally, he seems to not be able to remember anything bad about my dad. He still considers all the girls liars.
Recently, after an all too familiar attack from my mother, I was forced to also draw boundaries in that relationship. Within a week my whole family, primed by how she was talking about me, ended all communication with me. James is very manipulated by my mother. He is tha baby, and my mom has always pitted us against eachother. He texted me a message filled with expletives about how he was never speaking to me ever again. Today, he's posting FB messages again about me though I've done nothing to provoke him.
I love my brother. He just turned 27 and he's so disillusioned. It would kill him to ever accept that his father was a pedophile, and his mom is dangerously manipulative. He needs Jesus. Right now he's moved in girlfriend number 3 and she has a 3 yr.old little boy. He's become daddy.
